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Q: Whose Last Name Will the Baby Take??

asked by: neeko177 on January 15th, 2006

Experienced User

Im 18 and 6 months pregnant. I got pregnant when I was 17. My boyfriend is 19 and will be 20 by the time the baby comes. We have been together about a year and a half.. It will be 2 years when our son is a month old.. But since we are so young and obviously not married theres confusion about whose last name the baby should have..His family thinks the last name should be mason(after my bf) just cuz thats the way they want it, they have no reason behind it at all...My bf thinks its last name should be his because he says we are eventually are going to get married and then we'd have to change the last name when we did.. And me and my family think it should be our last name because no matter what I will always have that child with me, no matter if we break up etc... Geez im so confused! His family is just greedy to make a long story short.. Not him but his family, it makes me kinda mad.. Why should it have there last name?!

Sorry.. Basicly my question..
Whos last name is your baby going to have?

Replies(17)

lil_blaze2004

replied on January 15th, 2006

Supporter

I gave my son my bf's last name cause I don;t talk to my father (and haven't for yrs and yrs) so I did not want to continue my family name. Why don't you guys just hypen it yourname-mason. Lots of kids have last names like that now.

AlliE_18

replied on January 15th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

Well my baby will have my families name not his dads name who isn't involved at all and never will be. I plan on changing my own name in a year anyway so his will get changed to what I change mine to. Yup.

michelle1981

replied on January 15th, 2006

Supporter

When I had my first son I wasn't married. I gave him his father's last name.

diamondsz

replied on January 15th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

Im married but my daughter and child to be will have their fathers name, like lil said its extremely common to have both last names, I took my husbands last name at marriage although I had the choice not to.

It takes two to have a child and I think you guys need to consider it, it wont be an easy task he will be taking care of this child too and he can actually fight it.

Wish you luck
jess

~rubmybuddahbelly~

replied on January 15th, 2006

Active User, very eHealthy

My babys father's first daughter has his last name. So since she is going to be in my childs life and the father hasnt really made up his mind yet i've choosen to not make things difficult and give the baby his last name. Because regaurdless that is his child. My mind could change...Lol but we'll actually see when the baby is here

jewelskye

replied on January 15th, 2006

Experienced User

My twins are going to get my last name. My ex made it very clear that he doesn't want anything to do with me or our children. So scr3w him, i'm not going to have his name as a constant reminder of how irresponsible he was with something that is half his responsibility - my pregnancy.
But, it all depends on how you feel. I also think that maybe a hyphonated last anme would be good if you can't decide.

yellow ribbon

replied on January 15th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

I no this was like 16 years ago but when I was 2 my parents werent married and fought all the time and my dad would always tell my mom he was gunna take me and shed never see me again etc. So one night he did and then when my mom finally was able to tell the cops (he cut the phone wires and slashed her tires psycho) they said they couldnt do anything cuz I was his kid and had his last name so long story short it took 3 days and an expensive lawyer but I grew up w/ my mom and she had my name changed back to her last name

~rubmybuddahbelly~

replied on January 15th, 2006

Active User, very eHealthy

Hmmm after reading this im sorta considering that the baby will have my name :)

justacanadiangirl

replied on January 15th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

I'd say if ur not married or going to be married, give the baby ur last name. Gives u all the rights.

poohbear101

replied on January 15th, 2006

Experienced User

My baby will have my last name. Even though the father is going to be apart of the baby's life we're no longer together and even when we were we agreed that it would have my last name just because its a lot easier this way.

Kimmeh

replied on January 16th, 2006

Active User, very eHealthy

I chose for my baby to have my lastname. My boyfriend (ex now) didn't like it. I told him too bad. Things were rocky between us, but even if they were perfect I still would have chosen to have the baby have my name. If I got married to him later then I would change the babies name (no problem)...Now that things worked out not as I had planned I am happy I chose to do that. This is your baby and you are sole gaurdian for this child, and you two should have the same name. If and when you do marry the father, then changing the name is very easy. But just incase down the line something happens to you guys you will find it very very very hard to have the same name as your child (in order to change it back to your name, he'd have to sign papers...And he most likely wouldn't do that). Just my opinion, but do what you feel is right to you. I personally think you and your family are on the right track.

oh_mommy

replied on January 16th, 2006

Supporter

I would personaly put it into my boyfriends name.. But it dosnt really matter, ever one has differnt oppitions. Though I would really understand if he wasnt going to be in the babies life that you would have your last name. But some of you made good points about him having more rights if the baby had his last name. I guess it all depends on your relationship with the father

Angel_Who_Crys

replied on January 17th, 2006

Experienced User

Why not give to baby both last names? That way if something was to ever hadppen and you and your bf broke up (which I hope never happens and you stay happy for ever) the baby will have both your last name and his. I have been told its easyer to drop a last name then add one. So if you were to marry him and change your name you it may be easyer just to change it from your baby having both names to just his.

~rubmybuddahbelly~

replied on January 17th, 2006

Active User, very eHealthy

I ahve my mom and dads last name... Its long and confussing when I fill out paper work... I did say before I would give the baby daddys last name... But god forbid my child have to be associated with him or his stuck up ass family. Bad enough they share dna ...Lol

yellow ribbon

replied on January 17th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

Lol rubmybuddabelly. Ithink that all the time about my kids especially when one of my inlaws friends is like o she looks like her grandma or something. But I no its just her friends being nice cuz my baby looks exactly like me.

~*~Jillian~*~

replied on January 19th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

Re: Whose Last Name Will the Baby Take??

neeko177 wrote:

im 18 and 6 months pregnant. I got pregnant when I was 17. My boyfriend is 19 and will be 20 by the time the baby comes. We have been together about a year and a half.. It will be 2 years when our son is a month old.. But since we are so young and obviously not married theres confusion about whose last name the baby should have..His family thinks the last name should be mason(after my bf) just cuz thats the way they want it, they have no reason behind it at all...My bf thinks its last name should be his because he says we are eventually are going to get married and then we'd have to change the last name when we did.. And me and my family think it should be our last name because no matter what I will always have that child with me, no matter if we break up etc... Geez im so confused! His family is just greedy to make a long story short.. Not him but his family, it makes me kinda mad.. Why should it have there last name?!

I gave my son my lastname...Because at the time of my sons birth me and my "fiance" were having trouble...So I think you should really think about giving your baby your lastname...It will be much easier on you...Promise :wink:

sorry.. Basicly my question..
Whos last name is your baby going to have?

CheyChey

replied on September 19th, 2009

New User

It doesnt matter whoes last name your child has. Dont be foooled. If he takes your last name the only way the childs father wont have rights is if he doesnt sign the brth certificate.

So of he take your last name and daddy signs thr birth certificate please dont think you can run with that child without a consent letter from the father.

My family does the fathers last name too. My daughters is hifinated though. Maybe you should just do that. Makes it easier on both sides.

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