Teenage And Adult Daughter Posted: 01-14-06 21:06pm
A parent has a 19 year old daughter and a
14 year old daughter. The parent
constantly worries about the 19 year old
and barely worries about the 14 year old
because she believe that the 14 year old
knows what she is doing, strong, mature,
independent and responsible and the 19
year old is fragile, naive, immature, and
dependent. While growing up, the parent
never really worry about the 14 year old
and always worry about the 19 year old.
It is normal for parents to give care to
the child when they need it, but they have
to understand that bwtween an adult and
teenager, they have to worry about the
teenager more. There is a lot about
teenagers that parents need to be aware
of, peer pressure, etc. When you are a
child, parents need to worry about it.
When you are over 18 you are expected to
think for yourself, whether you are mature
or not. Right??? So why are these
parents treating the 19 year old like a 10
year old, and treating the 14 year old
like a 30 year old??? I don't understand.
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Tamadrummer
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Oct 2004 Posts: 710 Location: Zephyrhills,Fl
Posted: 01-14-06 21:53pm
I would ask more about the 19 year old.
How does she act, does she make good
decisions that make sense in the adult
world? Was the 19 y/o abused at some
point? There may be some reason that the
parents know and no one else knows.
You are correct, a 14 y/o should be under
close watch because she will end up in so
much more trouble than the parents can
ever imagine.
Children left to patrol themselves are
destined for big issues and they are not
normally good.
