Hi there! My opinion is that if he is not ready then it is just that, he is not ready, you do not want to push someone into something that they are not ready for, it can truly mess up a relationship. I do realize that no one can tell you what to do so good luck with your decision.

The best thing to do, is wait when for when you are both 100 percent ready! You don't want him to regret his desicion. Just try talking to him about it! Becoming a parent is a huge life/relationship changing event. At this time, you need to respect his desires within reason. Good luck! Communication is key!

I agree that it is best to wait until you are both ready.

It is not fair to bring a child into the world that isn't wanted by one of his parents.

Patience is a virtue, bitsy690. It's okay to talk to him about this matter, but do not try and change his mind about it - it'll make him feel like you only want him for his sperm. Just chill for a while until he is ready to accept the responsibility of being a father. In the meantime, why not hang out where babies and toddlers are? Baby-sit for people you know who have young kids, do stuff at the local day-care center. You get the idea. Get experience under your belt...Not saying you are not qualified to be a parent, but you don't want to go rushing into baby-making without knowing what to expect.

I'll add this as a final note...Please do not oops your guy. I know the urge to have a baby is very strong for you, but doing that to your guy will put a rift in your relationship and will make some trust issues.

Thank you all for your advise. It makes sense to me. How long is too long to wait though? Should I try to set up a date with him? Maybe i'm being too pushy.

What are his reasons for wanting to wait?? How old are you two?? Why do want a baby right now?

Bisty, I had a similar problem when I first wanted to concieve. My fiance was not so sure and wanted to wait until we were moved into our new house and I agreed and we waited. Well I just couldn't get the idea of having a baby out of my head so every now and then I would bring up the subject and we would talk about it. We agreed on how many we wanted what their names would be and even imagined what they would look like. It was kind of like a game for us. My sister has a little baby and we watch him when the go out or whatever just to get some experience. Now we have been ttc for about 3-4 months and he can't wait. I guess after we talked about it and I saw it from his side and he saw it from my side we agreed that we would wait until we moved and we are in the process now and then we would try. Well good luck to you.

Maybe you could get him to watch " a baby story" on tv to get him in the mood. I dont know it always makes me want a baby really bad when I watch that show.

My hubby and I sort of had the opposite problem. He has wanted to get me pregtnant ever since we were only dating /living together for a few months. I kept telling him, um nooo not until there is a ring on my finger! Then he proposed after 5 months of dating and wanted a baby. I was like nooooo not until we are married!! Then again after we got married. I still wasnt ready to try until about a year or so later. We are trying now again after a misscariage last summer. But in our situation I was the one who took longer to come around. I think its best to wait until you are both ready.

I know how you feel, my fiance and I already have a 16 month old together but I would really like another one (within the next year or 2) so that they can be close in age. The bet thing to do is wait a year and see what happens, a year will give you time to get organised for a baby adn your husband can have time to think about it more, if you push him he might resent the baby and feel as though he or she is a burden. At least he hasn't said never, my fiance and I came to a comprimise, he said he wanted to wait 5 years but I said I want to haev another baby before i'm 30 (i'm 23 now) so because he said 5 years and I want one now, we met in the middle and will hopefully start ttc later this year or early to id next year (our daughter and the bubba will have a 3 year age gap, not too big, not too small) that way we have other things to do before the baby arrives or even before we start trying such as getting my licence and stuff like that. Best of luck to you both. :)

I want a baby now because our lives recently started getting so much better. I've always wanted to be a young mom. I'm 22 and he is 25. I've been wanting to get pregnant since I was about 19...But now I know I was too young. Right now I really feel it is the best time. He has finally started to say that he can't wait to have a baby but I just can't get him to start trying. In a way I think he maybe a little scared...But who isn't. I really want a baby to love, teach, and cuddle. I want us to be a family. I know he will make an excellent father. I just don't know what to say or do to make him start trying.