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Q: What Will You Do?
asked by: czarg on January 13th, 2006
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Last july I met a lady lawyer who was a classmate in secondary school. We started off on a note and then decided we could make a relationship from the friendship.

After like 4 months, I realised she is verbally abusive and disrespectful. She barks alot at me when she is angry and makes a lot of problem over small matters.

Last week she sparked off as usual when we were gisiting abt my ex. She over reacted and I decided to keep calm. Since last week she has been sending me mails and text messages asking me to take her back.

I do not want to settle down with such an attitude. I think I should leave her altogether.

What do you do?
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kaite
replied on January 16th, 2006
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Hi. Did you try talking to her about the outbursts that she has? Tell her how you feel and let her know that you dont like that kind of attitude. I mean talking can go a long way sometimes. Maybe she is under a lot of stress at work or something like that.
Let me know how it works out. Best of luck.........
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czarg
replied on January 17th, 2006
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I Did.
Thanks for this reply. I almost thot none would write me. I did what you said but she called to say she didn't mean what she wrote n said. She says that is her nature of reaction. She didn't see her choice of words as abnormal. She thinks I am too soft hearted that is why I am reacting abt it.

Can you imagine this?
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oopoopoop
replied on January 17th, 2006
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It doesn't sound like a recipe for a happy relationship, and you would probably be wise to end it now rather than letting it drag on. She might be better off with someone who likes to be controlled and told how to behave. There are many aspects to compatability, including being comfortable with how people speak to each other.
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czarg
replied on January 17th, 2006
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Thanks Poo
I quite appreciate yr words. I am so sick of d stress involved already. I needed to do so too. Thanks all d same. Let me know if you have more opinions.

Thanks alot.
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kaite
replied on January 17th, 2006
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Wth
I dont understand her. Now blaming it on you. Go figure. I really dont know what else to say.. Since I dont know the situation in detail. You should decide for yourself. Good luck
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undecidedInCO
replied on January 27th, 2006
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If it doesn't feel right, then walk away now. It'll be easier to do it now than 10 years from now. What does your heart tell you to do? And what would you tell your best friend or child if they were a similar situation?
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Lillyvan777
replied on January 28th, 2006
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I feel like I am in so much trouble, that I shouldn't even give advice. But read my page on sick. She sounds like my husband and it only gets worse. Everything because a huge drama. Life is never calm. We all have these feels and if I would have followed my gutt feeling I wouldn't be in this mess.
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