Joined: 12 Jan 2006 Posts: 68 Location: Lagos-Nigeria
What Will You Do? Posted: 01-13-06 21:55pm
Last july I met a lady lawyer who was a
classmate in secondary school. We started
off on a note and then decided we could
make a relationship from the friendship.
After like 4 months, I realised she is
verbally abusive and disrespectful. She
barks alot at me when she is angry and
makes a lot of problem over small
matters.
Last week she sparked off as usual when we
were gisiting abt my ex. She over reacted
and I decided to keep calm. Since last
week she has been sending me mails and
text messages asking me to take her
back.
I do not want to settle down with such an
attitude. I think I should leave her
altogether.
What do you do?
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kaite
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jan 2006 Posts: 7
Posted: 01-16-06 17:49pm
Hi. Did you try talking to her about the
outbursts that she has? Tell her how you
feel and let her know that you dont like
that kind of attitude. I mean talking
can go a long way sometimes. Maybe she
is under a lot of stress at work or
something like that.
Let me know how it works out. Best of
luck.........
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czarg
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jan 2006 Posts: 68 Location: Lagos-Nigeria
I Did. Posted: 01-17-06 08:41am
Thanks for this reply. I almost thot none
would write me. I did what you said but
she called to say she didn't mean what she
wrote n said. She says that is her nature
of reaction. She didn't see her choice of
words as abnormal. She thinks I am too
soft hearted that is why I am reacting abt
it.
Can you imagine this?
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oopoopoop
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Posted: 01-17-06 08:59am
It doesn't sound like a recipe for a happy
relationship, and you would probably be
wise to end it now rather than letting it
drag on. She might be better off with
someone who likes to be controlled and
told how to behave. There are many
aspects to compatability, including being
comfortable with how people speak to each
other.
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czarg
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jan 2006 Posts: 68 Location: Lagos-Nigeria
Thanks Poo Posted: 01-17-06 09:15am
I quite appreciate yr words. I am so sick
of d stress involved already. I needed to
do so too. Thanks all d same. Let me
know if you have more opinions.
Thanks alot.
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kaite
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jan 2006 Posts: 7
Wth Posted: 01-17-06 21:53pm
I dont understand her. Now blaming it on
you. Go figure. I really dont know what
else to say.. Since I dont know the
situation in detail. You should decide
for yourself. Good luck
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undecidedInCO
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Jan 2006 Posts: 10 Location: Colorado
Posted: 01-27-06 16:42pm
If it doesn't feel right, then walk away
now. It'll be easier to do it now than
10 years from now. What does your heart
tell you to do? And what would you tell
your best friend or child if they were a
similar situation?
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Lillyvan777
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jan 2006 Posts: 6 Location: Superior wi
Sick Posted: 01-28-06 12:14pm
I feel like I am in so much trouble, that
I shouldn't even give advice. But read
my page on sick. She sounds like my
husband and it only gets worse.
Everything because a huge drama. Life is
never calm. We all have these feels and
if I would have followed my gutt feeling I
wouldn't be in this mess.
