My Gf Doesnt Seem to Like Sex. Posted: 01-13-06 02:43am
Im 20 yrs old and my gf is 21. So ive
been dating my gf for 2.5 yrs now and ive
pretty much initiated 95% of the times
we've had sex. Ive told her many times
that I would like for her to initiate it
and shes said she will but she tends to
forget. If and when I do tell her she
never initiates it she tells me that I
never give her a chance. Trust me ive
waited several days and nothing. If it
were up to her id wait like 3 weeks or
something. She says she enjoys having sex
and loves it when I eat her out, but I
guess she doesnt crave it. I pretty much
gotta let her know I want it and if shes
in the mood we'll do it. I guess what im
really asking is the following
do you women crave sex? If so, how often
?
How often do you initiate it with your
partner ? Or does he do it all the time
?
Is there anything I can do ?
I dont know what to do anymore and its
already getting old, I feel like a dog
waiting to get his treat.
Anything that you might think can help me
id appreciate it. Thanks in advance !
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not perfect
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Nov 2005 Posts: 135 Location: Illinois
Posted: 01-13-06 05:06am
Hey, i'm somewhat in the same boat as you.
I'm 20, my bf is 23. We've been together
going on 3 years now.
My bf tells me I need to initiate the sex
more. Honestly, I tend to not because
then he expects him to just lay there and
I do all the work, no foreplay for me.
But then when he initiates it, it's pretty
much the same as if I initiated it, I do
all the work, no foreplay for me. So
lately since he said he's not going to
initiate it anymore, we have sex like once
a week, sometimes longer than that.
To me, foreplay is a must when it comes to
having sex. A girl not only needs to be
"in the mood", but also get worked up and
turned on. I'm not saying you don't do
that. I just hope you don't come about it
like "hey, wanna do it?" lol. My bf does
that, and when he does I say no, make me
want to do it. Of course, that doesn't
happen.
Maybe instead of going straight for sex,
you can just start kissing her. Maybe
then she'll actually take you into the
bedroom and let you have it lol.
It's not that we don't crave sex, we crave
getting the attention brought upon us.
I'm not saying for the guy to do all the
work, but take the time out to give her
attention.
I feel like i'm waiting to get a treat and
it's getting old as well.
Maybe you can try out new positions and
mix things up a bit. Just be creative.
*wink*
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munky23
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Dec 2005 Posts: 130
Posted: 01-13-06 06:56am
Some girls are just bad at initiating.
But I would try to explain to her why its
important for her to initiate too and how
it makes you feel that she doesn't at all.
Try to see her point of view. Maybe
she's just gotten so used to you
initiating that she doesn't do it.
It doesn't necessarily mean that she
doesn't like sex either.
Personally with my man I love to initiate
because I know how it makes him feel. Of
course he wants more head than but I don't
mind giving. I understand though that if
I never initaited he may start feeling bad
or wonder if I really want sex.
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vega785
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jan 2006 Posts: 7
Posted: 01-13-06 12:00pm
Appreciate the replies. I dont rush into
the sex part, I love foreplay and eatting
her out, I can be down there all day long.
But anyways thats not the point. I guess
what I do wrong is I usually tend to ask
her if she wants to do it instead of
trying to ease her into the mood.
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munky23
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Dec 2005 Posts: 130
Posted: 01-13-06 20:34pm
Yeah well its hard because you don't want
to pressure someone or if you get rejected
a lot then it makes things really bad.
But theres always ways to try to ease into
the mood without asking.
Romantic things. I always get into the
mood when watching movies or if you are
just touching each other all night before
sex that helps too. Not like sexual
touching but just rubbing each others skin
and stuff, holding hands etc. Kind of
helps heat things up.
I know when my guy wants sex just by the
way he looks at me :) he gets that look
and I melt.
We never ask each other verbally, its
always kissing or touching or turning off
the lights that leads up to it. I dunno,
can just tell when both are in the mood.
But I guess i'm the wrong girl to ask
because I want sex everytime I see him.
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Tiphany
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jan 2006 Posts: 8 Location: wilton,nh
Maybe She's Nervouse Posted: 01-13-06 20:45pm
Is she sexually inexperienced? Maybe
she's afraid to say so but maybe she feel
shy about comming on to you. Has she ever
done it at all? Reassure her. Tell her
how gorgeose she is and how it makes you
feel when she comes on to you. And when
she does commend her efforts and you will
probably see more from her.
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Jennifer23
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Oct 2005 Posts: 76 Location: Texas
Posted: 01-14-06 16:14pm
Maybe, subconsciously, she has a problem
with rejection. It's easier for her to
lay there and wait for you to come to her
than it is for her to come to you and you
not really be in the mood. Ya see ...
In order for a woman to "handle her
business" ... The man has to be erect.
Sometimes, it's a struggle for us women to
work our man up, so it's easier to just
wait until he's "ready". There's day's
where we just don't want to do the work
and other days where we enjoy the
challenge. Maybe she just doesn't want
to come to you and you turn her down ...
Therefore, rejecting her. Does that make
sense? I know what i'm thinkin' ... I
just can't seem to put it into words,
haha! Anyway ... Best of luck!
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Happiness03
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Jul 2005 Posts: 333
Posted: 01-14-06 16:28pm
I too, have an issue with initiating sex
with my fiance'. We have been together
for 4 years, and it just seems to me like
he is always wanting it! I used to, and
since I have been on the pill, I seem to
just go through spells of wanting it! I
have thought about switching my pill, but
I have been on it for sometime now and it
works best with my chemistry, it just
seems like since I have been on it, I
don't want it, or crave it as often as he
would like for me to!! Is your girlfriend
on the pill by chance?
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vega785
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jan 2006 Posts: 7
Posted: 01-17-06 10:38am
My g/f is not on the pil. There was a
point in our relationship where she was
taking it (the beginning) but she stopped
because she gained some weight and was
barely ever in the mood to have sex.
Ofcourse what guy wouldnt like it without
a condom but then again I would like to
have more of it often. Maybe stop taking
the pill for 3 months happiness?? See
how things go ? These forums have grown
on me already and I might start being a
"regular".
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habichuelo
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Mar 2007 Posts: 40 Location: humacao, pr pr
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