Affair With Married Man (Page 2)

what do i say to him...where do i start?? what do i do???

Seems like you know exactly what to say. You said it here. You don't like being jealous you don't want to share. Take some time to think out how you'll break things to him and move on to relationships with better prospects for you.

when i told him im tired of sharing him he said i wasnt sharing..i had him 100% (his wife and him arnt on the best terms as of now) but he said i had him completely and hes never kissed anyone like that before (me). that means a lot to me so im very confused about everything..were going to talk about it all today so im not sure how to say everything to him. i dont even know my decision.

Hey's lying to you. He's married to another woman. I'm not sure how he measures that percentage of of himself but the state says that she has 50% of his sorry butt. You weren't confused when you posted this thread, you were disappointed and alone. If you don't leave him nothing is going to change for the better.

I agree - There are thousands that you could quite equally have felt emotion for, and still can - it`s not actually so special, emotion I mean. Only genuine friendship ever counts for anything, and destroying a marriage demonstrates none.

ive been flirting with my married boss for almost 2months now but a few days ago he needed me to drop off work items at his place & we ended up having sex.

i was pushed this far bcos my husband has been battering me physically & emotionally, he drinks heavily & keeps very late nights & my boss has been a source of comfort through these tormenting times. i feel weird afterwards since i was a virgin till i got married & havent ever done this before.

suddenly my husband wants to make things right, i cant tell him what ive done but im hoping it NEVER gets out. why do when wait till something goes wrong before they begin to value their women

ive called it off with him, he understands why & i plan to give my marriage another shot. i hope my husbands intentions are genuine

Courtney, I am sorry to hear about your problems at home.

Your husband will only change if he gets help from professionals. He cannot stop drinking and battering you just by making a decision that he wants to. It is a reflection of deep emotional problems that he has to deal with. If he could do it himself, he would have done so already.

I am sure his intent is genuine, but the reality may be vastly different. Make sure he gets the help he needs before you end up in trouble.

As for the ethics of a married boss messing around with an emotionally weakened woman that works for him, I will not comment (even though I have a very strong opinion on this).

Take care and best of luck!

maya87 - Tell him that unconditional love, whereby in this case, you love him whilst he also loves another, is too painfull, and simply unhealthy, for you to indefinitely endure.
Genuine consideration on his part would have to be concerned with making a choice.

Look, I don't think you're any more selfish than anyone else and people who point their fingers at you are jerks.

You aren't "ruining" anything. If the marriage was a happy one, he wouldn't be bothering with you. PERIOD.

Obviously the marriage is already ruined. Now... if he was a happily married man, and you seduced/manipulated him into wanting you, THEN yes i would say you are selfish etc...

Don't be hard on yourself. You are human. A human who has desires and needs, and god forbid, a LIBIDO!

I say try to relax... if this situation is causing you more pain than joy, then you need to break away from it all together.
If you can relax and actually enjoy what you are doing, I say go for it and anyone who has a problem with it... well ITS NOT THEIR LIFE.
ITS YOURS. You live it and be happy!!!

Yes, Its really critical condition and hard to talk about this relationship. You think it wrong it really a big thing. It show you are really very good person by heart.
You need to broke this relationship immediately because a long time relationship hurts you a lot.
Yes, you need to take interest in other good person.

Sorry !!!
But you doing wrong thing. And this kind of relationship never be healthy.

Hi kaite i dont know wat 2 say,,, actually much harder on my part bcoz i really love d guy so much than my husband....He had also wife but not married lyk me.

Its easy to say than do. I have the similar delima, the married guy is really loving and caring and really gives full attention to u. But reality check hit me when he needs to go away for work and just have 2 weeks vacation every three months. His not coming for me but rather with family. So in the end, it will not work out and honestly, you will not forget him but it makes you a better person if u just let go.

I was in a relationship with a married woman, and when it was found out by her husband, I told myself this would never happen again. I was 21 years old the first time, and later, it happened again, twice. I was young and selfish, and didn't understand the damage I was causing other people and their families. Since the last time with another "taken" woman, I have been in a relationship with a woman for twenty five years now, and have been faithful to her even though we are not married! But now, in spite of giving her exclusive devotion, and providing her with everything within my financial reach, I found out that she is seeing another man. So now it has come back to me. I see things now as twenty five years of my life wasted. Those years spent together ended up meaning little or nothing to my significant other. She obviously lost interest in me, and went in another direction. This has caused me to believe that marriage, or a committed relationship is only the beginning of a divorce. I'm starting to believe that unions such as this are primitive and obsolete. There is no value to family, togetherness, a home with meals at the table, honesty, or a lawn where children play with their toys. Time has eroded all of the joys of finding a life partner. Relationships are too easily disturbed. And those were the words my SO spoke to me when I confronted the other "half-man". She said I ruined their relationship. All I could respond with was....."im so sorry, I didn't mean to disturb anything, how silly of me". So I usually warn other men and women in a kind way to keep a watchful eye on their partners. Because "one day wicked, this way will certainly come". And with the increase in affairs by both men and women, that day is your future.