Me and my first love broke up about a year and a few months ago. He was my everything, my love, my bestfriend, my baby. We were together for 4 years. His family and my family have always been close, so I see him from time to time. He moved on a little bit more quickly then I did. He found this girl and she's ok. He still calls me and sometimes we have sex. He tells me he loves me sometimes. I have a fiance' now and everytime we have sex it doesn't feel like i'm cheating on my fiance', it feels right, like we belong. Then he doesn't call anymore and I don't see him for a while and i'm wondering when will we be together again. He said that we will never be together again but his actions doesn't show what he says. Should I just leave him alone and be happy with my fiance or go for it again. Something just keeps me going back to him. No matter who I meet or who I love, I love him more.
I don't want to sound too harsh but the fact you have had sex with your ex and feel no guilt for your fiance means you should not marry this man...I don't think you can do that and have love for him so for his sake...Marriage is not the answer; it doesnt sound to me like that is the right relationship for you.
About your ex...If you love him then usually i'd say go for it...Without a doubt but you got to check if he loves you or if he simply likes having you there for sex or just his ego boost and security....Unfortunatly so many men are like that.
But please do not jus hang on to your fiance in case that falls through cause it isnt fair to use anyone like that
It's not that i'm holding on to my fiance' as a crutch or something to fall back on. I love him, I really do. I love my ex too, but not the same way, the love I have for him has transformed from a love like being in love to just having love; get it? My fiance' on the other hand came along and he changed my whole perspective of being in love. I feel like just because he is my childhood love that I can't get over him. Or maybe because usually when u break up with someone, u don't see them anymore or as often. I see this guy all the time, not letting me heal as much. I have realized that he is not good for me and that my fiance' is what I have been looking for forever. My fiance' knows that I still have love for him and he respects that. I just don't know how long it's going to take to totally get over him. And for the record we only had sex once after we broke up. I know that's bad, that's why we never did it again. Thanks for all the help you guys; for putting all of this in perspective. I know in my heart that i'm making the right decision by finishing the steps needed to just say "forget it" and keep making my relationship with my fiance' even stronger.
I don't think you should get back together with this guy.I mean you are giving him sex with no strings attached which is what alot of guys want,sex
but no responsibility after.I don't think you should marry your fiance either cause if you can just sleep with another man and not feel guilty about it then I don't really think you two were ment to be.I don't think you're crazy but if you keep going on like this you'll probably regret it big time later on.