Joined: 27 Aug 2005 Posts: 42 Location: New Orleans, La
Am I Going Crazy Posted: 01-10-06 20:38pm
Me and my first love broke up about a year
and a few months ago. He was my
everything, my love, my bestfriend, my
baby. We were together for 4 years. His
family and my family have always been
close, so I see him from time to time. He
moved on a little bit more quickly then I
did. He found this girl and she's ok. He
still calls me and sometimes we have sex.
He tells me he loves me sometimes. I have
a fiance' now and everytime we have sex it
doesn't feel like i'm cheating on my
fiance', it feels right, like we belong.
Then he doesn't call anymore and I don't
see him for a while and i'm wondering when
will we be together again. He said that
we will never be together again but his
actions doesn't show what he says. Should
I just leave him alone and be happy with
my fiance or go for it again. Something
just keeps me going back to him. No
matter who I meet or who I love, I love
him more.
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RubyLei
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Dec 2005 Posts: 33 Location: UK
Your Not Going Crazy But... Posted: 01-11-06 07:46am
I don't want to sound too harsh but the
fact you have had sex with your ex and
feel no guilt for your fiance means you
should not marry this man...I don't think
you can do that and have love for him so
for his sake...Marriage is not the answer;
it doesnt sound to me like that is the
right relationship for you.
About your ex...If you love him then
usually i'd say go for it...Without a
doubt but you got to check if he loves you
or if he simply likes having you there for
sex or just his ego boost and
security....Unfortunatly so many men are
like that.
But please do not jus hang on to your
fiance in case that falls through cause it
isnt fair to use anyone like that
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numba1eyceygurl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Aug 2005 Posts: 42 Location: New Orleans, La
I Get U Posted: 01-11-06 19:43pm
It's not that i'm holding on to my fiance'
as a crutch or something to fall back on.
I love him, I really do. I love my ex
too, but not the same way, the love I have
for him has transformed from a love like
being in love to just having love; get it?
My fiance' on the other hand came along
and he changed my whole perspective of
being in love. I feel like just because
he is my childhood love that I can't get
over him. Or maybe because usually when u
break up with someone, u don't see them
anymore or as often. I see this guy all
the time, not letting me heal as much. I
have realized that he is not good for me
and that my fiance' is what I have been
looking for forever. My fiance' knows
that I still have love for him and he
respects that. I just don't know how long
it's going to take to totally get over
him. And for the record we only had sex
once after we broke up. I know that's
bad, that's why we never did it again.
Thanks for all the help you guys; for
putting all of this in perspective. I
know in my heart that i'm making the right
decision by finishing the steps needed to
just say "forget it" and keep making my
relationship with my fiance' even
stronger.
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cut-alone92
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Joined: 21 Jan 2006 Posts: 17 Location: Kansas
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Posted: 01-22-06 00:47am
I don't think you should get back together
with this guy.I mean you are giving him
sex with no strings attached which is what
alot of guys want,sex
but no responsibility after.I don't think
you should marry your fiance either cause
if you can just sleep with another man and
not feel guilty about it then I don't
really think you two were ment to be.I
don't think you're crazy but if you keep
going on like this you'll probably regret
it big time later on.
