When I was giving birth with my son, they stuck a cathiter in me as normal procedure. Afterwards I felt there was something wrong I couldn't urinate after they took the cathiter out. So they tried to put another back in, but my epidoral wore off and they couldn't get it in because it hurt more then it has ever hurt when they stuck a cathiter in me before. It was 15 on the 1-10 on the pain scale. After a few days the pain went away and I noticed I couldn't hold my bladder. I kept urinating on myself when ever I stood up. I went back to my ob to see if I had any leaks. She stuck gauze down my vagina and a rubber cathiter with blue liquid down where I urinate from. I was told to stand up. I stood for a while nothin happened. I laid back down they took the cathiter out and the gauze out and found no leakage on the gauze. I was told to cough; thats when I started to leak on myself. I was told my urinary thing was stretched and need to be exercised. So I did the exercises and nothing is getting better. I have to wear depends because I can't hold my urine. Now when I am on my menstral cycle it hurts really bad in my vagina but, I get no cramps, but really bad headaches. Now I noticed a small whole just above my vagina. I want to know what I should do and why it wasn't discovered by a doctor, but by someone of no medical training. Thank you and could you get back to me as soon as possible.