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Q: How to Be a Supportive Wife
asked by: tkdgurlcheer on January 8th, 2006
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I need some advice, my husband and I havent had the happiest of times lately. We've been through a lot in the past couple of months. After we met he moved from pittsburgh to where I am (about an hour from philadelphia) and he has been extreemly home sick. He has talked more then once about moving back. About 4 months ago I had a miscarriage and it seemed to bring us a little closer together. We didn't fight quite as much and he was extreemly supportive of me. Last monday he found out that the plant he works at will be shutting down. I'm a young wife, only 22 years old. I am trying to be as supportive of him as I can. But i'm finding it increasingly difficult to make him feel supported. I have a pretty demanding career and family. Unfortunatly he does not get along with my family and this whole situation is getting very hard to cope with. To top it all off I think that I might be pregnant again. How do I tell him that hes going to be a father and have him face losing his job with a baby on the way? Does anyone have any advice for me at all. I don't plan on telling him about the baby until i'm absolutly positive about it. In the meantime how do I make him feel better about losing his job?
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wife_and_mom4life
replied on January 17th, 2006
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Hey! Wow! Your story sounds so much like mine. Let me start out by first telling you my story. Before my husband and I got married, I moved from north carolina to virginia to met him (we met through my aunt) and we fell in love and decided to move in together. At that time, he was working a full time job and going to college full time. Well, we accidently got pregnant but I ended up having a miscarriage. Just like you and your husband we became much closer. After the miscarriage, I became extremly home sick and we decided that I would move back to nc and he would stay and finish school and visit me on weekends (about a three hour drive). I got on birth control after the miscarriage but it obviously didn't work because on one of my hubby's weekend vists to nc, I became pregnant again. I had a big decesion to make, either move back to va to be with my hubby (boyfriend at the time) or have him quit school to be with me. Well, I couldn't make him give up on his dreams so I moved back. No sooner than I moved back, he got laid off from his job. He and I both were very depressed because we had a baby on the way, I was always sad and missiing home, he was struggling in school, and he had no job. We are still having a tuff time, but we are getting there. We are currently living in a low income apartment, our son is 6 months old, my hubby still has one year of school left, and I work part time. We just have to keep telling our selves that as soon as he finishes school we will be much much better off! Oh, I am 19 (a young wife as well) and he is 21, and we got married this past september. You and your hubby may have a tough road ahead but as long as you love each other you will make it!
i hope I gave you a litte faith by telling you my story! The one thing that has gotten my husband and I this far is .God and praying!


God bless and good luck,
teresa
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