i'm 22 years old.
I now have a new girlfriend, and I have
tried to have sex with her,
the first time we've tried I was
constantly thinking about my erection,
and just couldn't get it hard (no matter
what).
It got me seriously frustrated, so the
second time I took 25mg of viagra,
it gave me some more confidence so I did
get an erection during the fore play, but
once i've put on a condom and was about to
penetrate her, the erection simply
dissappeared, I think that it's because I
began thinking about it again.
I'm aware that thinking about an erection
makes it dissappear, but once it has
dissapeared, I just can't take it for
granted, and can't help thinking about it.
I can manage to relax and have an
erection during fore play, but the very
act of puting on a condom and thinking
about having sex makes me think about it
and worry about it, which eventually makes
my penis soft...
I could really use any suggestion about
breaking out of this vicious cycle...
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wind rider
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jan 2006 Posts: 8 Location: Australia
Posted: 01-09-06 20:42pm
Hey bro I know the feeling, and your
right.. Thinking and worrying about it
will just make matters worse.
I hope you girlfriend is understanding to
situation. Its even more difficult if she
becomes frustrated or upset. Sometimes it
can make girls feel like there not good
enough. Just reassure her about her body
and sexuality and that may help you too.
Do you drink ?. If so try having a beer
or any light alcoholic beverage with her
before hand. This well relax you more
than you realise, but don't have to much,
you don't want the undesired effect.
After a few times of it all working out
your confidence will be boosted and it
should no longer be a problem.
P's: maintain a healthy diet, a poor diet
can often contribute to a lack in
performance. And keep your hands of it -
abstain from masturbation and this should
also help you get aroused.
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pleonastic
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jan 2006 Posts: 14
Posted: 01-11-06 03:51am
Stop thinking about it. Have fun with
her, do something that turns you on like
eat her out, play with her whatever. But
dont worry about yourself. Focus only on
her pleasure and dont even bother with
yourself. It may even take practise to
break old habbits with confidance, but
keep relaxing and get into the groove of
making sex a relaxing fun thing to do.
Make sure youre enjoying it man, I think
thats key.
Find something and focus on it like her
tits. Thats just my personal fav coz my
girls got hotties!
Also, yea condoms kill the fun. But you
just have to get that thing on quick,
stroke it a bit and get it in there. What
I do is open it up get it all out so I
know which is the right way on, and then
get with fore play. When were ready just
forget that you dont like condoms! But
bro I can almost promise that there's
nothing wrong with you besides what's in
your head. You have to shake the
frustration.
I find that, the longer you mess around
before you get right into the poking, the
better your errection will be. Maybe its
just me but probably not. Good luck bruuh
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Corraline
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jan 2006 Posts: 20 Location: TX
Posted: 01-12-06 16:36pm
I wouldn't recommend drinking before you
have sex. My husband has a difficult time
staying hard when he's been drinking.
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cd998776
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Aug 2005 Posts: 996 Location: Ohio
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Posted: 01-14-06 22:39pm
Keep off the drugs, away from the alcohol,
and what not. It'll only make it worse.
It's likely just nerves at your age (as
much as you might not want to believe it).
