18 Too Young?

I would wait if I were you until you are done with college. I just graduated and even if you have a sitter it is hard. I don't have kids and I could not even imagine having to go through college with one. You will have to balance your relationship with your husband, caring for a child, working, going to school, and having to study when you get home. I would wait enjoy the wedding, school, and after start trying. I'm glad I waited. I went to college, then got married, and now we are ttc. It's up to you, but I would wait.
Good luck no matter what you do.
By the way, I didn't start partying until I was about 19 or 20, so I may decide you want to do that later and it'll be hard with a kid.
I would enjoy whats happening now in your life and hold off until you're done with college.

If you feel that you are ready, than honey you're ready. I'm only 20 and am 24 weeks preggy today. I am ready and so is my fiance of 3 years. Keep trying if that's what your priorities are. Remember though, college might just have to wait a bit if you don't complete before childbirth. It'll be hard but it's possible!!! You sound like you have evrything together and so does your fiance...So the best of luck to you and I hope that everything works out not oly the way you want it to, but the way god wants it to.

Sarah

If you think you're ready than maybe you are. But having a reliable babysitter is nothing. Are you ready to get up every hour at night? Are you ready to never sleep a whole night again? Are you ready to calm a screaming baby? Are you ready to lose your figure? Ar eoyu ready to lose a lot of friends? Are oyu ready to not be able to have "you" time or "couple" time? There is a lot more than money involved. Think about it. I am 26 and it is the hardest thing to do in life. My bf and I had a great realtionship before too and now I am actually thinking of leaving him. Our son is not even 7 months old yet.

I'm 19 (will be 20 in three months), and my boyfriend (same age) and I have been together for three years, and we're not only holding off on having a baby, we're also holding off on getting married, too. We're both in college and we ultimately want to go to grad school, too, and have successful careers and build our own life together. We plan to get married after we graduate from college, and we don't want kids until we're in our late 20s. It's important to have a couple years of marriage first without kids - so that when you do have kids, your marriage will be cemented enough to handle the pressures and stresses of raising a child.

I say you're too young because I know that i'm too young, and the reason I draw a comparison between myself and you is because you sound like you've got your head on straight, and that's definitely how i'd characterize myself. I never partied, I studied hard and made good grades and got into a major state university on scholarship, where i'm on the dean's list every semester and a member of honors. Every now and then I feel like I want to just get it all over with and be married and have a baby. It's those maternal instincts acting up! It's so important that you and your fiance are able to support a baby, and support him/her well. Think of how much more money you'll make if you already have a college degree and are starting a career. Your baby would be a lot better off if you had the money to care for him/her without the stress of not being able to make ends meet. And trust me, even if you go to the cheapest local community college, tuition bills on top of typical living expenses really adds up. They don't talk about being a 'poor starving college student' for nothing. I can't even begin to imagine how i'd make ends meet on a college student's budget with having a baby, and that includes having a job on top of financial aid loans. I also can't even imagine the stress you'd go through trying to study for exams, hold down a job, raise a child, and keep a marriage intact all at the same time. That's not saying it's not doable - yes, there are couples out there who are doing it and surviving. But my point is, why bring all that hardship upon yourself? Take life one step at a time... You're much more likely to stay in college if you have the time, money, and energy to focus on it. That's all the better for you, all the better for your marriage, and all the better for the baby you'll someday have.

There's one more reason, besides fiscal ones, that I think you should wait. Because you're so young, you're also very likely to change quite a bit. You probably won't have a stabilized sense of self until your mid-twenties. Until then, your opinions, perspectives, experiences, and general life views may fluctuate - and this could possibly tear apart your marriage. It's something that my boyfriend and I deal with all the time, and it's one of the reasons we're waiting to get married (also so we can totally focus on school and not the added stresses of a marriage, but that's just us, married people go through school together all the time and make it). Now, a divorce isn't easy (nor is it easy to even think about the possibility of it now!), but there's no reason to put a child through that too. It just makes sense, to me, to wait until you've been married a while, and have done all the things you ever wanted to do, first. Like going to college, and having a career. My boyfriend and I love each other and we have a great relationship and partnership, but we both know we're not ready for marriage, much less a kid. I don't know you, but rarely is anyone ever truly ready for that kind of thing at 18, though a lot of people think they are. Give yourself some time to enjoy being young. The time will come when you'll be all grown and ready to have a baby, so why rush it?

I hope this helps, and good luck with whatever you decide. :d

I totally agree with mdpl326

Im 18 & pregnant and I feel I am ready, mentally im about 27 even my mother says im going to be great. Ive been through some rubbish in my life so its about time something good happend to me its still going to be hard but it would be hard no matter what age I was.

It all depends on the person at the end of the day

I'm 18 too and trying for a babe, my bf is 24....So I don't think ur too young aslong as you're not a partier and are going to miss out on drunken parties and such,....Luckily i'm a homebody and don't like partying or traveling or anything that people say i'm going to 'miss out on' if I have a baby...
Best of luck, keep us posted

Your not to young

its hard but its nice at the time like lil said less couple time but you can make up for it later usuallt the first 6 mths are hectic, I got married at 19 and was pregnant a few months after. Everyone reacts to stress differently and a kid can definatly put strain on a relationship just make sure both you guys get time for yourselves.

If you think you are ready ...Then go for it ....Dont worry about other peoples opinion...If it makes you happy and him happy...Why not?

I am 18 years old and I have a one week old. Me and my boyfriend have been living together for a while...So I dont see anything wrong with it.

I was 18 when I married and 19 when I had my first kid--actually 7 days before 1st wedding anniversary. I was ready--but all I ever wanted was to be a mother--and still today(at 44) that is how I feel. But I can say when I moved from my mom's house at 18 I totally grew up from what I had been at her house, then when I became pregnant--i grew up a lot more.

Good luck--only you know yourself, and if you feel you are ready then you probably are.

I finally am!! 3-4 weeks. Thanks for the advice. Now I only have to tell my mom!!

Congrats!!! Listen to your heart. I became a mom at 19 and I feel that I am better equipped to be a mother than mothers older than myself. Age doesn't make you a better parent. My hubby also has a good job with benefits, so I stay at home. We have a 3 year old and i'm preg with #2 and i'm 22. You can do it. Plus, you will be a young mommy and able to enjoy them.
Ashlee

Wonderful--happy pregnancy to you

Hey I wish you all the best girl... If your ready...Then im tickled for you!!! If your stable in your life, financially, mentally and in your relationship.... No one can tell you your not ready...... !!!! Enjoy and keep us posted!*~ :)~

Hi! Congrats on the pregnancy!
I wanted to mention something though. It seems no one else did. Age is not so much the issue. Obviously your relationship and career status have more of an effect on your ability and readiness. In terms of relationship...I think your biggest battle will be living together for the first time and the adjustment of becoming parents while still adjusting to each other. If there's one thing I know...A lot changes when you're sharing responsibilities and a home. I moved in with my fiancee when I was 17. We even broke up. Didn't last long...We got back together a few days later...But it took us at least a year to get past each other's quirks and habits and find a happy medium. I do wish you all the best and hope that all goes well. Let us know how everything goes. Don't be shy...If you have any other questions along the way...We'll gladly help. :)

take care! ;-)

Congratulations! Age does not have everything to do with it! Ready or not, hugh ,lol. If you are happy, I am happy! I just hope you can juggle a marriage, a baby and going to college, homework and up part of the night but it sounds like you have good help, which helps and lots of t.V. Dinners,which helps, lol, only kidding, do you plan on getting married soon, you said you were engaged. I wish you all, all the best and don't forget to tell your mom!

For those of you asking, "are you ready...?"

ask yourselves, "is anybody ever 'ready' for a baby?" you and everyone else might tell yourselves that you are, but nobody is ever "ready" for a baby. Even donald and melianna (sp?) trump weren't ready for a baby even though they have millions (or is it billions?) of dollars! Babies change everything, no matter how much money, maturity, status, or support you have.

I left school in yr 10 I was never any good at school but I had my first at 17 nd at 18 an havin my 3rd at 19 I was born to hav kids an I wouldnt hav it any other way if your ready go for it but make sure your ready