Joined: 01 Jan 2006 Posts: 5 Location: Qld, Australia
For Love Or Money? Posted: 01-06-06 10:22am
I am writing this in hope of getting
advice from people who have possibly been
in a similar situation. I am 18yrs of age
40 weeks pregnant and am not living with
my partner. I live with my brother his
wife and their two children. My partner (
the baby's father) is 21 and lives close
by.
I was living with him until the fifth
month of my pregnancy the reasons for me
leaving were 1) we were sharing a house
with two other 18-20 year old males who
had not learnt how to clean up after
themselves so I was cleaning for all of us
2) my partner was working when we first
met a few years ago but has not worked for
the past 18 months he is still umeployed
and I am not sure of his efforts to find a
job and I was working but still was doing
all the domestic chores 3) he was a daily
pot smoker which he has only recently cut
back from. I love him with all my heart
but felt that the situation wasnt healthy
for me and my child.
We have now been talking about trying to
live together again in a small apatment or
flat. I am hesitant to rush into anything
as he is still not working, when there
seems to be alot of jobs around. I fear
that if I move in with him again that he
will take advantage of my again and I will
be left a young working mother looking
after the domestic chores, providing the
money for the family and being extemely
tired, I love him but I am not sure how I
would cope with that situation.
I am not a person who likes conflict and
it took me months to finally decide to
move out from the situation the first
time. He says it wouldnt happen again and
that he is looking hard for a job and that
he agrees to no pot, pot smoking friends
in our place or around the baby. If
anyone has any advice or opions I would
love to hear back from you.
