Long Distance Relationship Advice?

I am in the same position as you are at the moment. I have been doin that whole "long-distance" relationship since may of last year. And it is no fun at all. I am constantly thinking baout my boyfriend and vice versa. The only advice that I can think to give to you is the same that you have probably already hear. Just stay strong and stay in touch. I know it seems really hard to stay in touch. And at times you may even feel like u just can not wait any longer. Been there done that. The thing that seems to work for me is to surround myself with my friends. Not all the time though cus I still want the time that I can get to talk to my honey dearest. But when i'm out spending time with my friends and having a blast it tends to get my mind off of him. But that isn't always the answer because if your boyfriend is anything like mine. It seems that at times he might be a little jealous that I am out so much. That is why u gotta be able to spend time with the ones you love and be able to have that time to tal to him on the phone. At times I am scared that my relationship will not work. And I don't want to lose him. And me friends will even tell me that long dis. Relationships do not work. But I believe that mine will. And that yours will as well. Stay dedicated and faithful. Always helps to be. Many rel. May not work but just believe and know in your heart that yours will succeed. Well I hope that this information was in any way helpful to you. And I hope that your relationship works out. Good luck.

My advice to a long distance relationship- dont do it.

Here I was thinking I was the only one.

My boyfriend and I have been doing the long distance relationship almost two years. It's difficult paying bills and then trying to save for a flight. Blah.

From what I have learned, is true love can survive anything and everything. A state line, an ocean, nothing can stand in the way of true love. It's very difficult. One thing long distance relationships rely on is trust. As long as you both trust each other and are able to stay comitted, then i'm sure you'll make it.

Just hang in there. Six months is nothing compared to two years. I'm sure if I can hold out for two years, then you can hold out for six months. :p

i wish you the best of luck.

If you take a poll, u will discover more pple think long distance relationships fail. The truth is dat it does many times but there r evidences that show some succeed.

I told a friend b4 dat even if everybody says it fails, make d first person to be a winner. It takes 2 to tango. If d communication lines r open...It will work.

Don't decide alone. U 2 can make it work. All d best.

Sam

My bf & I live 1 1/2 hrs away from each other, that isn't to bad, we still get to see each other whenever. Like everyone else says, the main thing is trust & knowing that your bf won't cheat on you or anything. I tend to get upset when my bf is out with his friends all the time & not talking/seeing me. I just don't want to loose him & I think he feels the same towards me. We've been going threw this for a year & only have another year to go, but like I said we still get to see each other. One of the best things to have a healthy relationship is to distance yourself from each other. Not to much, but you don't need to be up each others butts all day every day. You'll be fine

Someone said - dont do it - that was a stupid advice.


I am myself in an ldr and its been 4 years and its working.


I want to recommend you a good ldr forum.
Go to Lovingyou.Com go to forums and there they have 2 sections - long distance relationships and ldr support.


Best of luck

Hi,
Well be strong. be patient. Patience always bear sweet fruits. stay in touch with him through phone, internet. Call him daily.
Best of luck!!

hello, im so happy that ive found people are in the same circumstances as me. im in the uk and he is in america. ive spke to him for almost 2 years now (we met on the internet).. and we are still srong. there are some days, when i wonder iff hes talking to girls, without me knowing. but ive realised that i have to trust him, and i do. we talk everyday, and use, social networks, such as.. facebook, skype...and i would say ive fell hard. but you have to follow your heart?so keep it up iff you really love him. and to be honest ive never been happier.iff he makes you happy, thats all that matters.. Good luck xx

..having a long distance relationship is very hard..i know its been harsh for both of you not to see or to touch each other..just be brave..keep the faith and always trust each other..try to be understanding at all times..jealous and pride isn't needed..just always communicate with him..when there is argument,try to fix it right away..if you really love him.. you will do all the sacrificing..you will do all things just to make him stay..but if you can feel that there is some problem with your partner,maybe you should pause a little bit..just wishin you good luck.. God bless

Long distance relationship is not easy to maintain. It seeks lots of efforts and positive attitude towards life. Long distance relationship too carries pros and cons but after all it depends on an individual to maintain the relationship. For sure without clear communication, love and affections it’s very difficult to carry long distance relationship and the consequence is breakup.

Long distance relationships can absolutely work and they very often do. The most important thing in a long distance relationship is to have a fixed target to work towards and to be making realistic plans towards that target.

If you are not sure when you will be together and have nothing concrete to even hope for then it all seems like fantasy and it becomes impossible. If you have a realistic timeframe in mind for being together and you are actually laying down plans and commitments then you can see the finish line and you can see it getting closer as the time passes. That provides both focus and motivation.

You have a finite period in which this will be long distance, the six months that you have mentioned. That shouldn't really be too hard to cope with. Take advantage of whatever communication methods you can, such as phoning, texting, chatting online, webcamming or even writing letters. Keep in touch with each other and keep yourselves involved in each others' lives.

If two people are committed to something and are actively investing in it then it will happen. The only threats to a long distance relationship are a lack of commitment and a lack of investment.

One note of caution, don't go into overkill with communication. What I mean by that is, to expect to chat for 2 hours every single night could become unrealistic after a while because there is only so much to talk about. It helps to leave a little time inbetween long conversations in order for some 'life' to have happened. A long conversation every few days, with more brief communication inbetween, tends to provide a better balance. Once communication becomes forced and trivial then it can seriously start to grate. That's just a tip from my own experience that you are free to ignore if you wish