Joined: 19 Oct 2005 Posts: 9 Location: North Carolina
Long Distance Relationship Advice? Posted: 01-05-06 21:56pm
Um, i'm new, but I feel like I can't talk
to anyone about this. I was seeing my
boyfriend for not very long, but I had to
come back to canada to graduate from high
school. I'm going back after that. We're
doing a long distance relationship, but
this is all so new and I just wanted to
know if anybody is or has had a success.
We will be together after 6 months. I'm
so in love with him, I would just love to
hear any advice on how to do this, and if
i'm being stupid. I'm so committed, I
want to spend the rest of my life with
him, and he with me, so i'll do anything
to make it work. Any words of wisdom out
there?
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glycerine
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Oct 2005 Posts: 72 Location: Texas
Hello Masterphone Posted: 01-10-06 18:00pm
I am in the same position as you are at
the moment. I have been doin that whole
"long-distance" relationship since may of
last year. And it is no fun at all. I
am constantly thinking baout my boyfriend
and vice versa. The only advice that I
can think to give to you is the same that
you have probably already hear. Just
stay strong and stay in touch. I know it
seems really hard to stay in touch. And
at times you may even feel like u just can
not wait any longer. Been there done
that. The thing that seems to work for
me is to surround myself with my friends.
Not all the time though cus I still want
the time that I can get to talk to my
honey dearest. But when i'm out spending
time with my friends and having a blast it
tends to get my mind off of him. But
that isn't always the answer because if
your boyfriend is anything like mine. It
seems that at times he might be a little
jealous that I am out so much. That is
why u gotta be able to spend time with the
ones you love and be able to have that
time to tal to him on the phone. At
times I am scared that my relationship
will not work. And I don't want to lose
him. And me friends will even tell me
that long dis. Relationships do not work.
But I believe that mine will. And that
yours will as well. Stay dedicated and
faithful. Always helps to be. Many rel.
May not work but just believe and know in
your heart that yours will succeed. Well
I hope that this information was in any
way helpful to you. And I hope that your
relationship works out. Good luck.
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Lilypad
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 1043 Location: Ohio, USA
Posted: 01-11-06 08:52am
My advice to a long distance relationship-
dont do it.
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LA
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jan 2006 Posts: 3 Location: Oregon
Posted: 01-12-06 01:02am
Here I was thinking I was the only one.
My boyfriend and I have been doing the
long distance relationship almost two
years. It's difficult paying bills and
then trying to save for a flight. Blah.
From what I have learned, is true love can
survive anything and everything. A state
line, an ocean, nothing can stand in the
way of true love. It's very difficult.
One thing long distance relationships rely
on is trust. As long as you both trust
each other and are able to stay comitted,
then i'm sure you'll make it.
Just hang in there. Six months is nothing
compared to two years. I'm sure if I can
hold out for two years, then you can hold
out for six months. :p
i wish you the best of luck.
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czarg
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jan 2006 Posts: 68 Location: Lagos-Nigeria
Make It Work. Posted: 01-31-06 10:15am
If you take a poll, u will discover more
pple think long distance relationships
fail. The truth is dat it does many times
but there r evidences that show some
succeed.
I told a friend b4 dat even if everybody
says it fails, make d first person to be a
winner. It takes 2 to tango. If d
communication lines r open...It will
work.
Don't decide alone. U 2 can make it work.
All d best.
Sam
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~baby~g~
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jul 2005 Posts: 221 Location: Ohio
Posted: 02-01-06 02:14am
My bf & I live 1 1/2 hrs away from
each other, that isn't to bad, we still
get to see each other whenever. Like
everyone else says, the main thing is
trust & knowing that your bf won't
cheat on you or anything. I tend to get
upset when my bf is out with his friends
all the time & not talking/seeing me.
I just don't want to loose him & I
think he feels the same towards me. We've
been going threw this for a year &
only have another year to go, but like I
said we still get to see each other. One
of the best things to have a healthy
relationship is to distance yourself from
each other. Not to much, but you don't
need to be up each others butts all day
every day. You'll be fine
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leela
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Feb 2006 Posts: 5
Posted: 02-05-06 18:24pm
Someone said - dont do it - that was a
stupid advice.
I am myself in an ldr and its been 4 years
and its working.
I want to recommend you a good ldr forum.
Go to www.Lovingyou.Com
go to forums and there they have 2
sections - long distance relationships and
ldr support.