Ive been dating my girlfriend for about 8 months now, an when we are having sex I can never seem to make her orgasm, ive only been able to do it 2 times, and I dont know whats changed. And it seems we cant go for too long or she dries out an it just hurts her if we go to long, why is that? It seems everytime I go down on her, or finger her I can make her orgasm, but everytime we have sex she never orgasms, she tells me she gets close sometimes, but it doesnt happen, and that she really enjoys it, but it always bothers me I cant seem to make her orgasm unless I go down on her, or finger her. I was hoping that someone could give me some sort of advice about how I can get her to orgasm while we have sex, it would really make me feel better.
I don't have any stats on this, but it is my understanding that most women orgasm most easily from direct contact to the clitoris from the tongue and/or fingers. Not everyone can have an orgasm from vaginal sex. There is nothing wrong with either of you, and as long as you both enjoy it, an orgasm isn't necessarily a must.
Hey-i have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and we have a great sex life. He has never made me have an orgasm by sex alone. I always use self stimulation every time we have sex, or he will help with his tongue or fingers. Try to make her feel comfortable with touching herself while you are having sex. It will help.
Hey I have the same thing, my bf of 1year can nevr make me orgasm when having sex, but if we play like finger or him rubing on me with clothes on ill orgasm cum. I think I know why this happens to me because ive been a frequant masturbator I never usally had sex until I met my bf and iv gotten use to me mastrubating I even enjoy it better then sex I can always cum when im doing it or my bf but sex with him is good but can never cum which is frustrating... Maybe you should ask you gf if shesmasturbates alot coz ppl tend to rely on it and and its hard to stop as its very pleasurable.