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Q: I Really Need Help And Advice

asked by: babaycakes on January 1st, 2006

Experienced User

Im just going to sum it all up once....Here ya go:
im 16 and I had sex with my boyfriend. The one day we did it was the 2 days before I was suppose to be ovulating and we had unprotected sex(i know its not safe and its pretty dumb, but its the only way I will have do it). And he came inside of me(i felt it). Then 2 days later-one day after I was ovulating we had unprotected sex again and he did come in me. Im not sure if my chances of getting pregnant from either of those are high or low, can someone tell me please. I dont know what to do. My boyfriend and I have been getting very serious over the last year and hes older and we have talked about kids and having them and what not and I do not believe in giving it up for adoption or abortions(those are just wrong). We have alot of suppose from his family, but my family...Well do you people know what mormoms are? Well if you do then my parents and basically most of family are mormoms. Im not. But all of my family would be so disappionted in me because of how high their standards are and mine just arent high. But I would have no support from anyone in my family at all. My boyfriend and I also have alot of money and he has a car. But I dont know what to do, and I have been looking up places for advice and help and can anyone give me any advice? Thank you!! And also if any of you want to talk or give some more advice.

Replies(4)

hunterjumper

replied on January 1st, 2006

Experienced User

Hun, it's normal to have "baby fever". And when you love someone, it's normal to want to rush in to everything. You feel like you'll spend forever together and so why not just get started on everything right now?!

But there's also common sense. Like the fact that it's very likely your relationship won't last forever, especially if he's older. And if your family isn't going to support you, it's probably not a good idea to have a baby. Don't you want your baby to have the love of an entire family? To have grandparents and aunts and uncles? What if your boyfriend leaves or something happens to him and you become a single mother? And you don't have the support of your family so what would you do? How would you balance a baby who's too young for daycare, school and a job good enough to pay for rent and a baby?

And of course your chances of getting pregnant are very high if you were ovulating. Why won't you use birth control? It's never a good idea to purposly get pregnant at 16. Wait another couple years until you're an adult hun. Get on birth control. Use a condom. Wait for a baby.

babaycakes

replied on January 1st, 2006

Experienced User

My boyfriend isnt older, well he is 4months older. I know we should rush into things and screw up everything but its kind of hard not to.
Im not exactly saying I want to get pregnant this young either, believe me after everything I have read I dont think I want to.
I would use birth contol-but my mom is shes not stupid but shes also not very smart because she refuses to put me on birth control eventhough her and my sister are both on it. This might sound bad but I dont like condoms, it hurts more with them on.
My biggest concern right now is what are my chances though like very high or not that high or some numbers might help.

Carifairy

replied on January 2nd, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

Babycakes, you do not need parental consent for birth control, abortion, or adoptive services.
Planned parenthood in many states give teens free services, because they know you all do not have a lot of money. Maybe your boyfriend can help you pay the 12$ a pack for birth control. Teens usually get it for free... Check planned parenthood out. Or even your local health department, in case you do not have a planned parenthood you can drive to.

fuzzybuttedmonky

replied on January 2nd, 2006

Experienced User

I emailed u hopefully u check it and we can talk

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