How to Deal With Inlaws Or Everyone??? Posted: 12-31-05 21:01pm
Okay, I just found out i"m pregnant and
already everyone (my in-laws, dad, etc...)
is telling me what I have to do?!?!?!!!
Please tell me how to gracefully get out
of that but most of all, how not to let it
affect me!!!!!
I know that everyone raises their kids
differently, whether they work, or stay
home, or have a nanny, etc... But I
really don't want people telling me what
i'm supposed to do (especially my
in-laws!)
thank you!!!
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acoles70
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Nov 2005 Posts: 191 Location: KY
Posted: 01-01-06 00:50am
Oh girl I don't think it ever stops.
Everyone, esp. My mom and my
mother-in-law are always giving advice on
how they would do this and that. My mom,
that one is easy I just told her "this is
our child, and we will raise it how we see
fit". My mother-in-law, that is a little
more difficult. I just thank her for her
"opinion" and tell her that this is the
way I do it. I normally just say
something like "we all raise our kids the
way we think is best". I just take
everything with a grain of salt. The
people's opinion I utterly despise are
those that don't even have children.
They say "if that was my child...." I
tell them "you always do your best
parenting before you have children, you
will get your turn one day."
try not to worry and have a great
pregnancy!
Ashlee
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designerGAL
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Dec 2005 Posts: 213 Location: U.S.
Posted: 01-01-06 15:26pm
Congrats debbsie! I am so happy for you!
How far along are you?
Liz
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debbsie
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Dec 2005 Posts: 82
Great Advice!! Posted: 01-01-06 22:07pm
Thank you ashlee, I will keep that in mind
and use it!!! I will always remember
this is my life and this is the way that
we do it and everyone has their own
way....Or something like that, i'll have
to practice it, but I will!! Hopefully,
i'll be a pro soon!
I've also learned on how to tell people
too, the way I told my dad and husband
(cause my dad was visiting, so I told them
both together), there was a big silence
and disbelief (even though I had been
telling them both I thought I may have
been pregnant)..Finally they spoke and
were stunned and said, there was a double
line?!?! Then they both got really
excited!! It was very cute and silly.
We sprong it on my in-laws (with my dad
was with us, and my dad's friend who's
like and uncle to me - he was sooo excited
for us) and my in-laws didn't believe us
at all, they kept saying are you joking?
And then they were asking us of this is
what we wanted and if we were happy, then
they said they were too (it wasn't the
most positive or happy response) - but I
think they thought it was a mistake...We
never told them we were trying...Oh well,
then they started getting more excited and
started telling us what we need to do
(more of, what I need to do).
But i'm keeping your advice in my head
always and taking everything as a grain of
salt, it will blow right by me and i'll
always know it's my life!!!
I don't know when i'm due yet or how far
in yet, I have to go my gyn, but i'll keep
you all posted!!!
