I graduated high school in 2007 and now join the marines but still single i never had a high school girlfriend never been to a high school prom.But now im 20yrs old .I mean im not a bad looking guy i know im not the best looking guy out there but i know im not ugly neither.Everywhere i go woman hate they don't speak to me they tell man your ugly and i get very sad feel like killing myself.And most importanly i feel like theres no sense in me being a man for what i can't get a woman so somebody send me some advice thank you very much

dude im 13 and im fat not ealy ugly but im chubby and no one likes fat guys. Evry time i see a hot guy making out im like to my self man i wish i was him but i will find some one like me .

i dont think being fat has anything to do with it..i believe theres someone for everyone out there..you just have to look and put alittle effort into it,i'm not a size 0..i have some curves, so weight isn't a huge issue unless it permits you from doing normal physical activities...you're the guy..make the move...personally, i'm old fashioned..i dont really pursue guys..i wait for the guy to make the move..maybe you just need to take the chance...i dated a guy once who was attractive but far from having a 6 pack if you know what i mean..i like a little extra meat on a guy...more to love..id rather date a bigger guy than a skinnier guy..i could never date a guy that wore a smaller jean size than me! haha

First of all, I don't believe you are as unattractive as you perceive yourself to be. I think that we are our own worst critics at times. Secondly, why should someone showing interest in another person be solely based on a picture. How shallow and void. I've met men in my life that I found very attractive, and this will sound like a cliche, because they were funny, or they were interesting, etc., and I just enjoyed being around them. None of these men were what you would call "very attractive" according to society's standards. However, I wouldn't have traded these guys for anyone else, because to me, they were extremely attractive. Also, look at all these "so-called" beautiful people who are so depressed. Well, if looks is everything, then none of these gorgeous celebrities should ever be depressed or unfulfilled. We know that's not the case. Anyway, my point is that life is beautiful in and of itself. Just being able to get up in the morning, be self-sufficient, meet up with friends, go for a walk, etc. Then, if you find that special person that you can share it with, even better! If not, that doesn't mean it will never happen. Just enjoy each and every day one at a time. Life is worth living.

ok so i dont know what you look like but even skrek found a person to marry and trust me those girls must be really shallow if they dont like you just because of your looks thats sad but honestly i would say dont worry about marriage and finding a women theres always hookers lol jk but seriously you should focus on finding satisfaction from something else in your life like a sport of maybe helping kids maybe you could help other people with their self estteems that will make you feel better ps look at jessica parker shes ugly but famous so somone will marry her. Lastly if your face bothers you sooo much get plastic surgery i mean you have one life to live and maybe that will help you but honestly i had problems too i mean im not ugly or dont consider myself ugly but i know that girls will date ugly guys as long as they have confidence for god sake donald trump is married to model o yah he has a lot of money too but i mean i think you can find true love out there work on your body some girls dont even judge guys by there faces only bodies also love will be out there email girls online and once they fall in love with you tell them about your insecuriteies they will understand and by that time they will be too inlove with you and get over how you look pray also god helps and or get a dog thats helpful picking up ladies. theres so much more out there than looking cool and being adored by women i hope this helps you

yah find a passion other than finding a girl and pray

all i know is i have the same problem, never had a girlfriend and probably never will. i have the full package im big black and ugly. i gave up on girls a while ago, but i still think about them often. i get depressed but i try not to get to pathetic cause there just girls. its a difficult thing to accept but just dream in your head and hope that one day god will reward you for your misery. but your not the only one man.

I'm ugly too.

I know how you feel. I'm great on the net. People laugh at my jokes, love my quirky, perky attitude and my scathing cynicism. I'm confident, intelligent, funny and sweet.

But I've heard people look me up and down and snigger with the boys about the "ugly" one at the party, or how "ugly" this one is and how they would never get with me in a million years. I'm tired.

All this bull that ppl say about looks not mattering, it's because they look good, or at least decent. The only thing i can tell you to make you feel better is this: we're not one of the pretty people. We're special simply because we breathe. Because we exist. I want to hurt myself every time I hear those comments. Want to jump off the roof and pray that then someone may finally say, "and she was such a sweet, pretty girl. No one knew..."

But at the end of the day, either peace or plastic surgery will help. The most important thing here however, is that you really don't want to be one of those pretty people. I have two best friends who are actual models. One does runways and the other catalogs and they hate themselves even more than us "ugly" ppl do. The men only wanna get in their pants and show off to their buddies, and the women all think they're dumb or are envious of their looks. Beside them, you can't even imagine how I look. I've never been told I'm beautiful- not even by my own parents (I would have expected at least my mother to have believed she had brought a beautiful child in to this world, lol).

But when someone finds me at 30, 40, 50 Hell at-60 even!! I'll know it's because of me; everything on the inside that I'm lacking on the out.

hey im olny 14 so i may not know much.. but why waste your time on cruel and heartless people? someday you'll find someone who loves for who you are and accepts you for how you look.. as long as you give them back the same and return.. so dont worry about it!

Yeah, girls don't really care about looks as much as guys. We think it does because it means more to us. Who cares if your ugly, it's the girls job to be pretty. She won't date you only because you have a perfect full head of hair or ricky martin looks.

Ask any girl what makes a guy hot and they'll say "Their attitude" and you'll be like "what does that mean?" It means they get hot off of guys who love themselves and think they are the poo. For some reason they believe them.


And I think it's impossible that you cant even get 1 girlfriend. There's billions of women on this planet. Try a different region if you have too. Girls in your region might be snobs or a bunch of guys to not want a perfectly normal guy like you. God doesn't make garbage.

I live between Ontario and Quebec, and Ontario girls are cold and superficial while Quebec girls are warmer and don't think of guys as a nuissance.

Try russians, they are hot and will fall for anybody.


For overweight guys, My sister is real hot and her husband is practacly the coolaid man. But he's a cool guy and works hard and they love each other. I see hot chicks with fat guys all the time.


I probably didn't help and i probably offended some people. But thats what I believe.

It's not the worst thing in the world. I realize never dating can get you down, but approach it from a pragmatic point of view. I'm sure you're healthy, probably have a job, some hobbies, focus on that. I do.
Like you, I'm in a really similar situation. I've never really dated, I'm not attractive, or particularly personable, but I try to push those thoughts out of my mind and focus on the things that I enjoy. I too have thought of suicide, and like you I know that I have relatives that would be really disappointed. So hang in there, I've come to realize that nobody really derides my lifelong bachelorhood, and nobody will. The point being that if you don't put any pressure on yourself nobody else will. It's difficult sometimes, but I guess we all have to deal with difficulties.

Let's be realistic as well, looks do matter to women....a lot. I've tried striking up conversations with women only to have them turn and move in the opposite direction, quickly. But like I said before, no big deal. I have lots of friends, I play sports, I read...etc, etc. Being alone isn't a failing or any type of sin.

I grew up being the fat friend that everyone loves cause I thought that if I am not attractive, at least I can be funny. Tell anyone I know, they would say that I am hilarious. I took my old friend to my prom so there was no chemistry there. I admit, after high school I started dieting and making myself a little more presentable. Still, I am a size 17 but have a pretty face, people just started to think I was attractive since after high school. I didnt have my first boyfriend since I was 19. He was fat, and had longer hair and I did. Sorta uneven teeth, but I still fell in love with him. That ended after like 6 months cause of differences. Now I am dating the most wonderful guy. He has a pot belly, starting to have a lot of grey hair, a small gap in his teeth, and I can't love him more. You see, love is blind. I learned that the hard way. But if you believe in yourself, and just be you, the right one will come along sooner than you think. Oh, and dont change for anyone. Thats the worst you can do. You wont be alone forever. Trust me, I've thought of that too. But I held on and now happier than ever.

I am 21 years old, and I never once dated a thin man. Not like I wouldn't, but I perfer the bigger ones. More to love!!!

hey there! it comforts me to know that im not the only one whose morbidly depressed over my unwanted looks..

i come from a country where majority of the population is chinese(Singapore)..anyway as an Indian girl sadly to say i was born with darker skin than most of my counterparts..i used to cry inside when i saw boys talk to my friends and other girls as though they were like buddies but never once was i talked to like that...i always felt akward in the train as i could see my horrible reflection on the window and see how pathetic i looked..my glasses..my nose which wasnt sharp like i wanted it to be..my damn face

to make matters worst as a 16 year old girl it really sux to see all your girl buddies get hit on..while here i am sitting in the room trying to imagine what it would be like to have aboyfriend..only to realise that i most probably wouldnt get one till somewhere late in the future...probably il save up a ton of money and end up like michael jackson..

feeling insecure is worst than being ugly..cause itll be hard to break out of your shell around anybody.. but im glad to say i always have my best friends to cheer me up no matter what! heck they even claim with a little makeup and touch up there and there i could meet an african american or some exotic guy(i hope).. so i guess my advice to u would be to make as many guy buddies, have a beer play a video game and love the fact ur single guy..heck at least ur not like me!

ever looked at a flower bud & thought how insignificant it looks? then only to pass the flower days later to admire what was, and is its inner glory.It's a creation of God & so ARE WE ALL, we are made in His image & he loves us so much that even the hairs of our heads are numbered.
Give yourself some respect & apreciation for what you have & for what you don't & look for others who don't even have the things you do!

Hi, my name is Kao and I'm here to tell a true story. I hope it'll ease your pains and concerns. I was a jockey in highschool and had a ton of girls throwing themselves at me. I've been told that I'm cute, handsome, sexy.. All of it, and I've had my fair share of women. I've also been pretty mean to some girls/women who I found to be unattractive/ugly who have asked me out.

I settled down with a beautiful girl and had a wonderful son with her. Upon settling down, I gained over 100lbs without realizing it. I still thought I was prince charming, but it turns out I'm not. My wife left me, took my son away (thanks to the court system), and I'm now paying child support.

I am now fat and ugly and cannot find a woman who would love me. Or atleast that's what I thought.

I'm actually very happy to be single and alone. I have my freedom, and I can buy anything I want and do anything I want. I still take care of my son, and I love him to death. But, you have to ask yourself why you're unhappy. It's not because you don't have a girlfriend or woman. It's because something else is missing in your life and you need to figure out what that is.

I've always been conceited, and I think I still am, despite being fat AND ugly now! I've lived the life and I can tell you that outer beauty will only last for so long. They all will be ugly one day... So do NOT worry about that. Make the best with what you can and enjoy your life!

You can see a picture of me following the link. That's who I am today... NOT what I was 8 years ago...

Also, please keep in mind that no one in my social life knows what I do for a living and they do not know my income. I choose to keep that a secret in fear of a woman chasing me for all the wrong reasons. Please take my story as encouragement and nothing more.

If someday I meet a woman who is truly interested in me for who I am, then I would be willing to share all I have with her. Until then, I will enjoy my life and continue to provide the best opportunities for my son.

if you're looking for a long term partner then it really doesn't matter what you look like, because girls realise that even if a guys hot, this isn't gonna help if you've got to live with them.

ok here's some tips:

1) don't be picky! they'res girls who may be ugly and lonely like you. approach them!

2)be really confident and funny.

3)dress well, have a nice haircut.with them two things you can pretty much get away with any face.

4)USE YOUR STRENGTHS! everyone has them, so if you're intelligent go to the library etc.
go out a lot, you're more likely to meet someone.
5)find yourself, do something you love. beause then then if you dont find the woman of your dreams, you'll still have lived.

6)plastic surgery - drastic but helps some people.

7)be really really lovely to the girl. sounds obvious, but loads of guys just aren't.

8)stop with the internet chatrooms, very few people find relationships and they cant get to know you properly so they have to judge you on looks.

NEVER KILL YOURSELF. you have no idea what it does to the people around you. my brother committed suicide, theres always more you can get from life.

If you make friends you won't be lonely. There's alot you can do with your face the way it is. I'm sure you have hobbies, and things you might want to achieve, and if you arn't sure about those then do a little exploring in yourself to see what interests you. Maybe you might fall in love with one of them
live life for you and then little by little you'll become to happy to be preocupied in your looks, and when that happens other people will start noticing too

bruv..
looks dont mean a single thing
looks grab attention
your personality captures the hearts.
You are probably paranoid. Believe it or not women can sense desperation from a mile away. So thats one thing. You just need to relax. Women are just like you.. only they have breasts and no front tail. Make up does miracles so dont be fooled by their "hotness" either. Just look at all their bad points and you have a chance. A bigger one. If you are ugly you can use that to your advantage, they will be impressed if an ugly (which they least expect to be successful)comes and starts flirting with them with great confidence. So next time you chat to a girl, SHOW HER YOUR PICTURE EARLY IN THE RELATIONSHIP. This shows you have no fear and are a confident human being. If you do that and say you are hot, she will prbably buy it to an extend.