send me your picture? and i can see if i can find a style for you. Its all about style man

im ugly aswell, it doesnt bother me and it shouldent bother you either but i also understand how you feel i dont judge people by the way they look cuz a lot of people i know are not that beutifull looking but have a beutifal personality and im pretty sure youve got a beutifull personality aswell im only 12 years old but i understand, try and ignore the way you look dont change who you are for others well you can if you really want to but i dont think you should. you should be happy for who you are and dont worry you will find a girl who loves you for well you and she wont mind what you look like cuz she'll love you for who you are not what you look like so dont give up hope just get out there and enjoy yourself ignore evryone and what they say and dont let them bad comments come into mind just be happy i hope i helped:)and if i didn't well thats cuz im 12 and if none of this helped well sorry for wasting your time...enjoy yourself and enjoy life with whover you meet

I too am ugly. I am a 32 year old female 5'5 180 pounds. I have a horrible overbite that can only be corrected by sugery which I don't have the money for! I have friends, but honestly, all I get from them, is there is someone for everyone. I have tried the dating sites, I send a photo and then I don't hear from them again. My problem is my outward apparence is ruining my life. I am a teacher, but have had several people mention to me that I need to look at my appearance. I try to dress as well as I can. I've got to do something. I'm so lonely and have thought of suicide several times.

u know chicas, u should work out and stuff..its a great stess reliever and nothing makes you feel better than feeling fit.. looks arent everything you know.. some people say ami pretty but when i look at myself sometimes..i fell really ugly..just have confidence..

I thought a comment from the other side of things might be helpful! My bf is 'ugly'. When I met him, I honestly thought he was one of the ugliest men I'd ever seen. He's an incredible guy, and we became good friends, best friends, really quickly, but I certainly never dreamed there could be anything more than that. After a while I started to realise he was interested in me as more than a friend, and I had no idea what to do, because I was genuinely worried I could never be attracted to him - but on the other hand I thought, how amazing to be with my best friend. So when he finally asked me I said yes. I figured it had to be worth a try. And I've discovered how subjective beauty is - we've been together nearly a year and a half, and hope to be married soon. If I concentrate hard I can still look at him objectively and see all the physical flaws I used to see, but to me he is the most beautiful man in the world, because I love him. It would never occur to me now to think he's ugly - he's absolutely gorgeous and perfect in every way! It's weird, but I've even started to find myself attracted to men who look similar, just cause they remind me of him! I hope this is encouraging to someone. My lesson: beauty is really, truly in the eye of the beholder.

i have the beak of a goose and my features just don't fit together. Everyone tells me i'm ugly except my family. Especially my friends. They think it's funny but really i just want to kill myself. In fact, the other day, I was talking to this girl. Just a friend, believe me. She was trying to compliment me because she knew i was depressed and she said several things about me being funny and having a good personality and she left out looks altogether. I had just finished hyperventilating, bawling my eyes out and having a mental breakdown when i got the message. i immediately broke my phone and started crying again. i don't think there is any solution but suicide. What is another solution?

hey. sometimes people put their standards too high. People are shallow, exspessially those who think they are 'beautiful'. Are you chasing after shallow girls who are what you may think are 'beautiful'?

You seem to take intellegence seriously and even claim to possess this trait. Use it.

People are people are people. they are judgemental, rude, uncaring, pushy, shallow, self-concited to the day they die.

You'll find someone, just calm down. Try not to seem desperate, take up hobbies, and be happy with life.

Life in general is way too short to be upset about not being able to find a girl/boyfriend.

We all just live. We all just die. Life is life. people are people. and we all fall down in the end.

what's worse than just being ugly and alone, is being ugly and surrounded by beautiful friends and family.

I have a same feeling like you.
I really think that I'm ugly.
that's why many teases me.

Take a look around you, everyone is ugly. The boy with the greasy hair, the girl with the bad bleach job, the woman with those ridiculous enlarged breasts. Look what "beautiful" people do to acquire and manage their look, waxing, plucking, wearing coats of makeup. You have nothing on hating how you look compared to "beautiful" people. Accept that your looks matter a lot less than you think and there is so much more that you can do to feel better about how you look than you do.

Look at yourself in the mirror, think of something that made you feel special and smile, just look at how much prettier you look.

Hello there.

You wrote that post quite a few years ago; I hope you haven't killed yourself since then.

Here are the facts: (1) You are ugly. (2) You want a girlfriend. And you don't want to wait till your 60 to get one.

So. What you've got to do is further develop assets that make up for looks. Either become very interesting, develop a magnetic personality(funny, self confident), or become very successful. Ever wonder how those old geezers end up with skinny blonde babes? Lemme give you a hint: it's not because of their great sense of humor.

As glib as I may sound, I'm actually a very sensitive person. I think you are too. So what I recommend is for you to invest in your intelligence. If it's the only asset you have, make it really count.

Good luck.

The truth is, you are actually ugly and weird looking, thus is flesh and the creatures of the world, you know how we look at frogs, we are no different than that actually.

But it isn't just you though, we are all, every last one of us extremely awful looking and just flat out strange. Except I suppose that some of us have trouble realizing this or simply ignore it.

Its quite hilarious how we actually attempt to make ourselves look good, with clothes and cars and makeup, its rediculous.

Simply put, we are all extremely ugly and strange looking pieces of meat and goo, and holy god do we smell awful.

if your crownline is thinning, try shaving your head.(girls love a bald head) i love the comments about working out too! if i was single i would def be at the gym. and i would treat yourself to some new clothes, some nice jeans and simple tee shirts. not trying to tell you to compare yourself, but if your style is in the gutter, try looking in magazines to get an idea of what styles you like so when you go shopping you'll know just what to get! maybe get a new scent too. and if you are real tall and skinny, try proetein powder to help pack on the weight in the gym. this is advice is not only to help you get the ladies, but give you confidence to help you in the dating world. also, love the comments about going to the Lord, prayer is affective if it comes from the heart. don't listen to downer music, you need uplifting music to help curb these depressice tendicies. don't ever committ sucicide. (spelling doesn't count, okay!) because if you end your life without Jesus you will burn in hell for all eternity. (this is my personal belief and faith for any human being waling this earth, not just you!) the bible says this. find a church. i know it has been awhile since you posted this message, i hope that your life is working out for you now. God Bless!

Can you send me a picture of yourself so i can give you an honest opinion?

What you need to do is take all of this negative energy and use it as motivation to go exercise and be healthy, this helps relieve you of stress. if you feel your complexion scares the ladies way, build up your core and attract them with the body. i think that this can extremely help you.

I guess their is not much reason for me to add to this. I am sure Steve is long past reading any of these, and has hopefully since found someone. I guess i feel the need to identify with this group of postings. I too share the self-depricating thoughts of my less than desirable looks.

The truth is i am not that bad looking, however, i do have a lazy eyelid, which causes me to look like "i am staring into the sun" as one of my friends put it, or thta i am always hammered! which kind of comes in handy in the bars when i can just pass off my look for that.

Anywho, I feel for all of you, unforutnatly we do not fit the description for sex appeal, but of course as one of the posts had put it, we can increase other attributes. Its kind of like one of those strategy role playing games where you have to build points in various attributes to enpower your avatar.

I personally have had some long term relationships and a few other encounters, but truely now i have reached a point of self-deprication that i cannot overcome my insecurities enough to consider having another girl. I guess we have to mush on, work on increasing those other characteristics which make us the great people we truely are.

Best of luck to everyone!

I'm not ugly by any means, also i get stares from women all the time.
I also doubt you guys are ugly also, i think this is all in your heads. Now i know a few ugly people, i mean real ugly, and they don't know that they are really ugly, one of them is my cusin.
He thinks i'm the ugly one lol! because he's lighter, but he really is truly ugly, women love my honey chocolate brown redish color, they love my additude.
But they don't find him atractive, he has no teeth on the top of his mouth they really never found him atractive before he lost his teeth either, and he's rarely been to a dentist, his dental hygine is little to none, while my teeth are all there, and i visit my dentist regularly, i take very good care of my body and teeth, flossing and brushing are my thing, but for him , not at all.
Sorry for the rant there. lol

As for your lazy eyelid NeuroticCircuit i know tons of women that find that very sexy, very! maybe your friend doesn't know that, maybe you don't realise that, but they do! you are selfcontious about nothing my friend, i wish i had it, but what i say is true, women love lazy eye's/sleepy eyes, things like that. Trust me.

everyone has flaws, even the people you see on tv who you consider to be beautiful.
confidence has a lot to do with your issues. if you feel ugly then you may put your head down, your basically shooting yourself in the foot.
i see a lot of unattractive people who are married. there is someone for everyone.
if i focus on all of my flaws i would never get out of bed. do you register with facebook, myspace and twitter. this is a good way to meet friends.
learn to accept the things that you cannot change.

I really hope that Steve is alive and that he has started to live a normal life.I for example am 22 years old and i have never had a girlfriend.If this goes on like this i will probably never have a relationship.I do get a long with the women i meet but nothing ever happens.A lot of women who i speak to dont even look me in the eyes when i talk to them or they just say couple of words and that is all.I dont consider my self ugly but if women dont look at me than that probably means i am ugly.If we talk about if i am sociable enough i would say no.As i sad i get a long with people i meet or maybe they just pretend i dont know.I dont go out much cus i am focus on school,job ...but even if went out that still wouldnt mean that i am going to find a women.I am condfident in life considering my financial future but with women i think i will never even go on a date.For example last week two of my class mate girls were sitting and talking and i came dancing betwen them and i was shaking my ass but there was no response from them not even a smile they just continue to talk.I for example am not embarresed for doing that i had couple of drinks and was relaxed,never even danced before in my life.Thats just the point if a women went dancing to me like that even if she was unattractive to me i would still make a friendly laugh or something.So i completly understand you all its like we are some kind of ghosts.Every one we see is happy they got women,children etc. but we are like shadows but know one notice us .We can be happy with ourselfs and confidente and make people laugh but we dont get that attention from them that we want.Maybe we were in our former lifes very succesfull and beautifull,but we also took advantegae of that and now in this life we will stay alone he he.I am just kiding i really hope thats not the truth.Every single week i try to be my self to be cool to be happy with who i am but it never gets me anywhere with women.I dont considere my self of being a person who is rude and pushy or arrogante or trying to hard i am just beeing my self.I always try to help other people when they need help i am always am trying to listen to them when they need me but i never am interested to women in that way.I can be my self when around women like my other friends but still they are more interested in the better looking ones.I personaly hope even if i never meet a women who will like me cus who i am i hope that everybody else will be happy and get married have children and everything good that life can give you.I am sad felling deprresed ,people aorund me dont notice that but deep in my soul i fell very bad and lonely.Even after that party when i asked my friend how i behaved he told be that i was cool and dont have to worry about anything but still that felling of some kind of sadness, guilt stayes with me.I really hope that all of us who think that we are ugly and unnatractive will find someone who will love us and we will also love them.I apologyze for my english grammar my english is a bit rusty.

It's funny I have this complex about my weight and it makes me feel unworthy of someone else's love. The worse part is I know what I need to do to loose the weight but the more unworthy I feel, the more weight I actually gain.

But when I think about it I do think beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder and that true beauty, even physical beauty comes from the inside. I have fallen in love once and any guy I've ever liked, I only fell for because of his personality. Getting to know him and his personality allowed me to see him in a different light and I actually became very attracted to him on a physical level as well. I began to see his physical beauty after I had found his inner beauty.

I think it's important to learn to know who we are and love our own souls and bodies before we can love another person even if it doesn't always feel this way. I know I have some work to do but ultimately I think we need to learn to love ourselves and see our own beauty (we are all beautiful in some way!). I know it's hard but I pray that I may succeed and that you may as well!

P.S: No one is perfect isn't it better to have a physical flaw than a flaw that makes for an ugly soul or heart!