Not Feeling Supported During Pregnancy

Aimee,
i don't want to start a fight between you guys but I feel that he is being very stubborn and insensitive. I really don't know what to tell you to help but it sounds like he is immature and you have every right to feel that you are not being supported. I'm so sorry you are going through this, it upsets me that he is being that way and that you do not have a better support system. It sounds like he may not be committed to this pregnancy, was it a planned pregnancy? How old are you guys? Do you have anyone else that can support you during this time, friends? Family?

Maybe he is still in denial and will come around, I sure hope so. But, it would be good for you to have someone to talk to about what is going on inside you. I will be 10 weeks on 1/2/06.

Hang in there!!!
Crystal

:) thanx crystal for your advice! We have worked things out and he is not going t drink today we are going out for a walk. The pregnancy was planned but I dont thnk he realised it would be like this! I am 23 and he is 31 believe it or not. Thankyou for your understanding it helped me alot. I do have good family supporting me. I hope everything is going well for you? Happy new year!

I dont where to start I myself went through this I am 4 months today and until I started showing my fiance would even goes as low as telling me not to pull the pregnancy card that I was gripping to much and leave to drink with his buddies. After him going out 3 days straight coming in late and drunk me staying on the couch crying and stressing myself out. I realized that things were not about him and I they were about my child and my health since he was the one making the choice to leave. I had to leave and go stay at my sisters. After a couple of days I came home and things have changed the realization of him not being around really changed his attitude. Since then I have began to show quit a bit more and this helps him to be little more supportive because now he can see his child growing I really think this helped. I am not sure if your realationship or sistuation is bad enough to leave over but you have to do what is best for you and your child now were pregnant and should dont have to be playing games. Good luck with everything if you need to talk my email is genis haw1983@yahoo.Com. I am 22 and have been through quit a bit when it comes to drinking and relationships. I know how hard it can be. Ps him staying home and going for a walk is awesome!
You deserve more then him staying home just for a couple of days though----unless your ok with that!

:) thanks for your reply it gives me hope! He seems to understand me a bit more now. As you said though once I start to show he will bein to realise he cant be spending time in the pub as much. Women start preparing for a child from day one! Hormones make sure of that! But men dont get anything apart from earache from us! I need to perhaps appreciate the good things he does for me, which is hard sometimes. I hope things do get easier like you experienced. Thanks again and I wish you well with the rest of your pregnancy xx

The only support I have is from my 2 friends from a different forum. And a couplefriends around where I live