I kinda know what the problem is but I have no idea how to cure it really, but anyways heres the story:
im 20 now but I remember back ine lementary school I would get hard thinking about a girls hair thats how good it was lol, but I started getting into watching porn and such on the computer, that was fine and dandy I had no problems outside, but the thing is I kept watching more and more porn and I believe it desensitized me to the point where normal intimate encounters with girls just isnt possible, I had girlfriends and I had some trouble but always managed to get it up, but now it seems like it just doesnt happen anymore, I cant get it up even if my life depended on it, I cut the amount of porn I watch by like 90% but still nothing, I dont really want to go on viagra or anything
it just seems like my mind isnt releasing the certain chemicals to inititate a hardon because its not seeing some crazy porn
The chemicals released from the brain occur during orgasm, and not wen you get an erection. Can you get an erection during masturbation and what not? Say if you weren't looking at porn? Based on your age, it's probably just nerves.
The "reaction" that takes place during erection is no more than your heart beating at an higher rate. When this happens, a canal if you will is opened in the base of your penis allowing for adequate blood flow to fill expanding tissue in your penis. I highly doubt this is a heart problem, you may have circulatory issues, or you may just need viagra. Sorry dude.
I'm having pretty much the same problem. Here is my story.
I broke up with my gf of 2 1/2 years on.... Christmas day, I didnt really want or love her in that way anymore. I also didnt want to break up with her on christmas, but I couldnt pretend to be happy with her anymore. The sex with my ex was fine, it was great, it was sex, I was always hard and good to go, pretty much.
Now its a month on and I have met someone new, she is amazing, i'm falling for her pretty hard and am very attracted to her, but last night we tried to have sex for the first time.... I just couldnt make it, I was so scared, nervous, I was shaking like mad. I thought it was some lube we were using at first, but we tried a couple times throughout the day, I got bits, but then I got worried about it or scared or whatever im not really sure, and lost it. I felt sooooo embarrassed, but she was good, she was very understanding and I told her how scared I was because I liked her so much, and she really likes me too, I want her so bad but even today, when I try stuff on my own I can barely get anything, and if I do its not for long, the second I stop touching it, the erection goes.
Im getting really worried and nervous about it and performing which I think may be the main cause, but im not sure if there might be another reason. When I touch my penis, it doesnt even actually feel the same, just kinda soft and inactive, like it is dead or something, I barely get any stimulation.
I changed my diet recently, I used to eat all the wrong foods but not ive changed all that and im eating great and working out, I drink eas myoplex protein shakes to help with working out and eating right. I dont eat alot of red meat as I used to, I used to eat loads of meat, burgers, steak etc etc but now its mostly chicken.
What can I do? Im not sure myself if there is anything I can do since it seems to me like a mind problem, I think since being on my new diet I dont have as much testosterone also, but im not sure.
Dude, I know exactly how you feel. I have the exact same problem recently. I just broke up with my ex around xmas, didn't want her sexually anymore, wasn't in love anymore either. Well, I met this new girl, I am so into her, I am nervous as !**@!. The thing is I can get an erection, but the second we go to do it, I go limp. I am afraid as all !**@! hell. I don't want it to ruin this new thing. It seems like it is nerves. . . . But can viagra help with this? I am only 27. I wake up with morning erections, so my unit seems to still work. . . .I am nerved out I think. I have not been masturbating lately either, I used to do it a lot but I went like a week or two without, and I did it this morning and came before I even got hard!!!!!!!????? Is it broken? Should I try viagra or something? I don't smoke, I exercise, I am a vegetarian, should I eat more meat? Do I just think about it too much. . . But how the hell can I not, when it is so important to me? Advice anyone? Are we going to be like this forever?
I don't know if I should be relieved about finding this forum or not lol, i'm 20 and still a virgin cause of the same problem. It was going so well foreplay lasted a good hour or so standing at attention and when it came to all these years of waiting bang it happened.
Funny thing was I never felt him going down so I tried a bit more foreplay and just about got it semi and then I had to give up, I could never of imagined a beautiful girl lying on my bed and not being able to go through with it. I don't know if I ever punched the wall as much in my life lol.
Thank god it happens to others that will some how help me through it, im now going go to the shop and buy a load of bananas and bottled water to see if it'll nourish my brain a little.
Plz wish me luck and every one else on the same boat we will all get through it and have the best night(s) of our lives.
Dude, don't worry, that same thing happened my first time when I was 16. You can't have an hour of foreplay. !**@! around for ten minutes or so next time, then go at it. I remeber the first time I had a willing partner I was sixteen, and we messed around for about an hour, and after that I was so tuckered I couldn't get it up anymore. The next time was fine, don't think too much or you will freak out.
i kept watching more and more porn and I believe it desensitized me to the point where normal intimate encounters with girls just isnt possible
yup had the same problem. Porn def desensitizes you to normal sex. First you just like big boobs, then asses, then you go through all your fav porn stars, slowly but surely you go through every fantasy getting kinkier and kinkier until simply seeing a naked girl in front of you just doesn't cut it. You gotta stop, watch it as little as possible. The only problem is it takes years to recover fully. The way I explained it to myself was it would take me 30 years of sex to be able to act out every sexual fantasy in real life but with porn in 8-9 years I saw it all (watching every day). I calculated I must have seen 5000+ naked women in every possible position/sex scene imaginable. Anytime I had an urge I was able to satisfy it immediatley and with exactly the kinda things I wanted to watch/do. I just don't think the male body is supposed to have that kind of easy access, such a thing does not exist in nature.
hi all,, i just read this post and lots of ppl tlking. can any one help here > i have never had erection properly. my one points down and is like a curvish thing i guess, but its not fully up, never has been. i can orgasm etc, but my erections r poor and feel not so sensational and i go soft easily. but im not hard enough in the 1st place and i can make it move up and down myself. (on a full proper erection it remains in its place and u cannot move it up and down by ur pc muscles right? like swing it urself without using ur hands? right??? ony my pointing down one i can, which means i do av a major probs then). and they point down. never had morning erection too etc. any ideas? had hernia operation as baby too.