I have a problem w/ my husband-married 4 years and dated for 3 years. He new how I felt about porn but I didn't know he had a problem until after we were married. Also, porn can lead to other things the more obsessed they get with it. It's porn, then web cams, then contacting these girls. Porn is an addictive and like any other drug, you can end up wanted a bigger high. I also have trust issues now and he doesn't seem to understand his ramifications that all of this has done. And yes, I feel he had eventually cheated on me sometime but, of course, he says he hasn't. Little lies turn into big ones so who knows what to believe.If they are willing to go to counseling, then go. Whether boyfriend or husband. Good luck and I completely understand where you are coming from

Thanks :) with my boyfriend and I (together for about 27 months) there was trouble regarding this. I've noticed that alot of women who have a problem said it led to major trust issues. That is completely true in my situation, but how can it be avoided forever? Are you suppose to take his internet connection away or something? That is what I dont understand. And there is no such thing as a guy that "stops" lookin at it. Ugh

My husband is really trying to be a husband now but he still battles w/ porn. Not as much as he use too.Porn has affected the best of people and it's sad.I know that when I would find trashy porn on my husbands computer that it had an allure so that made me understand how addicting it can be for a man.I love my husband so I confronted everything head on no matter how many times it took because his porn addiction eventually lead to other issues of the internet.The difficult thing to find out is a) is your boyfriend hiding it because he can't help looking at it and is embarrassed or b) he is doing other things such as web cam/chat or possibly meeting people from things like this. If you are wondering what's going on w/ him, dig into your computer and internet. I know it's not the best way but you can possibly find out what's up with his emailing. If it's just looking then confront him lovingly and see if he's willing to go see couples counceling and if it's also others things besides porn than that's a bigger problem.The hardest thing is decide whether you want to stay and fight this or move on. I don't know what your boyfriends habits are as far as lying about anything else but let your instincts and your head lead you

I just wanted to say that my hubby and I have never had the porn issue. He has looked at it...We have a prescription to playboy and I dont' have a problem with it. We have an open relationship (however it's quit closed right now due to being pregnant) we to spice up out love life have viewed it together and always been honest about it. I can say that I dont' know my hubby's every move but I don't know what he does in the office at work or if he is home alone....I dont' know but what ever it is it doesn't effect our sex life and we are really happy. I don't check up on him nor he me. And that is how I would like to keep it. It might become a problem if it starts to effect our sex life or our trusting relationship. But as it stands it's fine.---genipher

Just my opinion, if it is effecting your relationship or your life and you feel that he is moving on to worse things then just tell him that it is his porn or you.
Good luck!