Hey, that is a hard thing to deal with. I think it's a problem that all us ladies have. We don't want anyone touching our man && dislike all the ex's for touching him. Anyways, it's something you're going to have to deal with even though it may be hard. Have you talked to him about your feelings?? I'm sure he would comfort you && let you know that nothing else is going on & that it is in the past. If you love him, then remember that happened before you got together with him. This is now and you're the one in his life, not the other chicks! Hope this helped!

Darl pretty much everything you just wrote is like the story of my life! Trust me I know exactly how you feel a few things are a little bit diff though like since we've been together(almost 2 years) he's had 3 ex's ring him and 2 of em wanted to get back with him I dont mind one of them though but there is one that always seems to ring at a real bad time and sayin she wants to see him now this girl is good looking she's a model she's pretty much perfect and im far from that, but technically she isn't even an ex they didnt exactly date so you can guess what they did in there time's together, check your pm's

Not to sound like a broken record but I understand what you're saying. When the subject came up with my boyfriend and i, he couldn't even give me a number of how many girls he slept with. He said "i didn't keep count" which made me feel as though he slept with so many he couldn't remember.

I can admit i'm insecure, but that really set it off. He knows it makes me uncomfortable so he tries not to say anything. Although sometimes he'll slip. He says it's just his past and i'm his future. It still bothers me though and I don't know how to get over it. I just try my best to ignore it.

I am having this problem with my girlfriend. Im 28 and shes 26. I was a virgin up until I met her a few months ago and we had the dreaded talk earlier than I wanted to and I told her I was a virgin and she told me she had slept with other people. We never got down to numbers because I know that would crush me even more than I already am. Yesterday we were on that topic again and she said that none of the the other people mattered and that im special but then she went on to say that because she was an athlete in college she was sought after and it was cool to have hot guys want her. She said she was picky about who she dated but not who she hooked up with. She wanted to tell me all this because she didnt want me to have the wrong impression that she was some "angel", but now I cant shake the idea that shes a promiscuous person. She isnt giving me details as I dont want to hear them, but not knowing makes me think she was a real promiscuous person. I didnt want to hear numbers because it would make me feel even worse. Anyone have any advice for me? I love her and we have a great time together but I cant shake this and its making me miserable. The idea of her having sex with other people and the fact that her and her friends are so non-chalant about "hooking up" makes me want to vomit. It also makes me regret my past and the fact that I had no confidence in myself and wound up never having sex until now and only hooked up with like 3 people. Sometimes im ok with this, but sometimes I hurts so bad I think about killing myself even though I would never really do it. She feels really bad that this bothers me so much and asks me if theres anything she can do that will make me feel better, but theres nothing that I can think of.

Any words of advice or should I take a flying leap off the empire state building so I can stop having to think about this?

Ignorance is bliss and I despise the fact that girls always need to know your past. Whenever I hooked up with anyone for the first time, they always asked me about my past afterwards and id stupidly tell them I was a virgin or didnt hook up a lot and guess what? They wouldnt have sex with me even though we would have somewhat of a relationship.

Its like you cant get a job without experience and you cant get experience without a job.

I really hate my life sometimes.

Hey I get the same way with anyone I have been in a realtionship with but now I have learnt to totally avoid that subject. I really don`t want to know anymore it just causes heartache for all involved. It`s hard when that little voice in your brain is telling you otherwise.

I really wouldn`t get to the point of feeling suicidal as you must remember these people are exes for a reason and theyy are now with you for a reason. Hopefully because they love you.All they types of topics make me really insecure about myself so I try to avoid them although my new man has told me his ex was a model so that fills me with insecurity. But the flip side to that was she may have been a model but she sounded like a complete psychopath!

So i`m not so bad after all

I lost my virginity at 15 to a girl I had known my entire life. Since then I have been with quite a few sexual partners. Altogether, probably about 15. I played it safe, used protection, checked myself to the clinic once a year, and have always been clean of std's.

My girlfriend, lost her virginity 2 years ago, and has been with 2 guys and myself.

She is very insecure about the fact that I have had *way* more experience than her, but honestly...Those guys she slept with, probably gets to me just as much as mine get to her.

It's not a topic we get onto very often, cause she starts to feel bad about it. But numbers really mean nothing. Provided you're both clean, and playing it safe, and genuinely care for one another, don't let numbers get between you.

The days of chastity are almost dead, and where I come from, virginity means "not pregnant yet". Luckily I had an open minded mother who made sure I was well informed and smart about sex.

If it truly affects you, the best medicine is conversation. But remember, you can't change who your partners *were* and to beat yourself up over a time in their life when you weren't part of it, is not healthy for your relationship.

Wow i'm the exact opposite of you my girlfriend has slept with 15 guys and i've only slept with her and it's ripping me apart that she has slept with so many guys. She doesn't think its a high number because her girlfriends all have higher numbers. In the five months before I met her she had slept with five guys in that time. I got to stop typing i'm pissing myself off too much

Let go of the past or you will not have a future

It is simple people. Don't bother getting involved with someone if their past promiscuity effects you.

There is a reason it does. It is not just jealously nor insecurity that drives you mad. Who wants to be with someone that has been around the block twice? Who can easily give the most special gift of making love to a stranger so easily? Do you ever hear someone say, "If only I could find a guy that has slept with 30 women or more?

Promiscuity is a reflection of their moral view on sex, which was not taken as seriously as you would have liked or taken yourself.

So why bother? Being disappointed in your partners past never goes away away nor gets better. It just eats you away, so move on and find someone who shares your beliefs about sex.

For those that deal with the subject by ignoring the subject, not asking or bringing it up... they know the answer and are too weak and afraid to deal with the truth.

Deiyuo said it all, I totally agree. I'm not saying go out there and find a virgin, but if your partner's sexual history is driving you insane, then it's really not worth being with them because you're always going to have those thoughts in the back of your mind that they've been with so many people.