i am 24 year old and my wife is 26. We've been together about 3 years. My problem is I am extremely horny all the time and she is the total oposite. She has no interest in having sex ever (we do it 2-3 times a month). I have a problem. I come in 2-3 minutes after the initial insertion, but I go again straight away and last about 30-40 minutes. I don't take any break between the 1st and the 2nd time except changing the comdom. I don't know if that is a bad thing or if that is normal amount of time for sexual act. She is the only girl i've ever had sex with. But she had 21 boyfriends before me. She loves me so much cuddles with me and everything is great. Just no sex. I tried to flirt with her, bought toys, kama sutra book and it doesn't work. She doesn't take birth control pill and she's not taking any medication (she was on paxil for a year when she was 19). I talked with her about it and she told me that she is very stressed out about the job and cannot relax. I want some sex in my life at least once or twice a week. If anyone is fimiliar with this scenario please give me some advice. Thank you so much for taking your time to read this.
Girls are not like "on/off" switches you have to turn a girl on.....You can't just !**@! her when you feel like it, you have to make her feel more than a hole, i'm sure the girls will agree with me. I could go into more detail if you wanted...
Thanks skav for your reply. How do you think I can change the situation. 3-4 times a week I run hot bath for her... I put rose petals.. Light candles and burn insence... After she takes bath I rub oil on her body... I open a bottle of wine... Nothing helps... I think I treat her like a queen, not like a hole. Please do go into more details...
I am 34, my wife is 20. We seem perfect together in every way. I am very sexual and she is not. Even though we have sex almost everyday, it's because I initiate. She claims she is very attracted to me but when we have sex i feel she's just throwing me a bone. we do have a very passionate life but when it come to clothes off, it gets sheltered. Any advice?
Dont worry i'm sure your girlfriend cares for you, My boyfriend and i have been together 9 yrs and i have only been with him i am 24 and he is the same age, anyways we now have sex 3 times a day SERIOUSLY!! Iuse to be the same way and not want it all the time, when you wear a girl out with to much sex that makes her not want it more~ Give her some space and talk to her give her a back massage. You should know what turns her on start with that. Me i like my neck and back kissed and it drives me crazy. if i wasnt in the mood and he starts to do that, well you know. If things dont get better have a serious talk and then decide if this is a problem you can handle or not. But intimacy to me is important to feel loved and have that special connection. She should know all guys have the same sex drive could go all day long!!
I am the same way as your wife. My poor husband. I told him I would like more romance. I like to be told how he feels about me. And sometimes I wish we could just make out without the expectation of sex. Try to throw in some nights of just love making (tell her how you feel about her, light some candles, romance her), and then don't have sex. A couple nights a month of the more emotional stuff, and she may not mind just having sex other nights.....eventually she will start initiating. I know this would probably work for me. Girls are much more emotional than guys, so you have to play on that.
I am 35 and my new wife is 41. She is beautiful, smart, and funny. I have accepted her children as my own and we all get along great. No problems there. However, I have no drive for sex. I know she is always more than wiling and trys to initiate in the bedroom. Once a month is enough for me and I do not know why I find no pleasure in it. I usually last only a few minutes and I am sure she gains no pleasure out of it. Rarely do I kiss her or touch her. What is wrong with me? I was exposed to sexual abuse as a childcould this be my hangup?