I am the same way as your wife. My poor husband. I told him I would like more romance. I like to be told how he feels about me. And sometimes I wish we could just make out without the expectation of sex. Try to throw in some nights of just love making (tell her how you feel about her, light some candles, romance her), and then don't have sex. A couple nights a month of the more emotional stuff, and she may not mind just having sex other nights.....eventually she will start initiating. I know this would probably work for me. Girls are much more emotional than guys, so you have to play on that.