Sex Problems ... Always Horny But She's Not Posted: 12-22-05 16:36pm
Hi,
i am 24 year old and my wife is 26. We've
been together about 3 years. My problem
is I am extremely horny all the time and
she is the total oposite. She has no
interest in having sex ever (we do it 2-3
times a month). I have a problem. I come
in 2-3 minutes after the initial
insertion, but I go again straight away
and last about 30-40 minutes. I don't
take any break between the 1st and the 2nd
time except changing the comdom. I don't
know if that is a bad thing or if that is
normal amount of time for sexual act. She
is the only girl i've ever had sex with.
But she had 21 boyfriends before me. She
loves me so much cuddles with me and
everything is great. Just no sex. I
tried to flirt with her, bought toys, kama
sutra book and it doesn't work. She
doesn't take birth control pill and she's
not taking any medication (she was on
paxil for a year when she was 19). I
talked with her about it and she told me
that she is very stressed out about the
job and cannot relax. I want some sex in
my life at least once or twice a week. If
anyone is fimiliar with this scenario
please give me some advice. Thank you so
much for taking your time to read this.
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Skav
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Joined: 21 Dec 2005 Posts: 12
Posted: 12-22-05 17:12pm
Girls are not like "on/off" switches you
have to turn a girl on.....You can't just
medical question her when you feel like
it, you have to make her feel more than a
hole, i'm sure the girls will agree with
me. I could go into more detail if you
wanted...
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luke_puk
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Joined: 22 Dec 2005 Posts: 7
Posted: 12-22-05 17:50pm
Thanks skav for your reply. How do you
think I can change the situation. 3-4
times a week I run hot bath for her... I
put rose petals.. Light candles and burn
insence... After she takes bath I rub
oil on her body... I open a bottle of
wine... Nothing helps... I think I
treat her like a queen, not like a hole.
Please do go into more details...
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link34
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Nov 2007 Posts: 3
Sex Problem Posted: 11-29-07 15:44pm
I am 34, my wife is 20. We seem perfect
together in every way. I am very sexual
and she is not. Even though we have sex
almost everyday, it's because I initiate.
She claims she is very attracted to me but
when we have sex i feel she's just
throwing me a bone. we do have a very
passionate life but when it come to
clothes off, it gets sheltered. Any
advice?
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Latisha27
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Joined: 20 Oct 2007 Posts: 45
Boys,boys,boys Posted: 11-29-07 15:58pm
Dont worry i'm sure your girlfriend cares
for you, My boyfriend and i have been
together 9 yrs and i have only been with
him i am 24 and he is the same age,
anyways we now have sex 3 times a day
SERIOUSLY!! Iuse to be the same way and
not want it all the time, when you wear a
girl out with to much sex that makes her
not want it more~ Give her some space and
talk to her give her a back massage. You
should know what turns her on start with
that. Me i like my neck and back kissed
and it drives me crazy. if i wasnt in the
mood and he starts to do that, well you
know. If things dont get better have a
serious talk and then decide if this is a
problem you can handle or not. But
intimacy to me is important to feel loved
and have that special connection. She
should know all guys have the same sex
drive could go all day long!!
GOOD LUCK
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jdhunter
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Joined: 28 Nov 2007 Posts: 3 Location: ,
I Hope This Helps Posted: 11-29-07 16:07pm
I am the same way as your wife. My poor
husband. I told him I would like more
romance. I like to be told how he feels
about me. And sometimes I wish we could
just make out without the expectation of
sex. Try to throw in some nights of just
love making (tell her how you feel about
her, light some candles, romance her), and
then don't have sex. A couple nights a
month of the more emotional stuff, and she
may not mind just having sex other
nights.....eventually she will start
initiating. I know this would probably
work for me. Girls are much more
emotional than guys, so you have to play
on that.
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lkristen
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Joined: 30 Nov 2007 Posts: 1
Lack of Drive Posted: 11-30-07 11:00am
I am 35 and my new wife is 41. She is
beautiful, smart, and funny. I have
accepted her children as my own and we all
get along great. No problems there.
However, I have no drive for sex. I know
she is always more than wiling and trys to
initiate in the bedroom. Once a month is
enough for me and I do not know why I find
no pleasure in it. I usually last only a
few minutes and I am sure she gains no
pleasure out of it. Rarely do I kiss her
or touch her. What is wrong with me? I was
exposed to sexual abuse as a childcould
this be my hangup?
