Don't listen to all those caca facts....

It all matters, what matters to you. If your a devout catholic or wahetver religons don't agree with it then yeah, but it doesn't matter.

It's all up to what you believe, but at the end of the day if you've already messed you can't do caca about it now so don't make a big deal about it.

Do what you believe in.
I've heard the statistics too.
But follow your values.

I thought i'd never have sex before marriage but I did.
I don't feel bad about it.
Sex is a normal and needed part of life.
I feel like i'll still have a long marriage.

Depends on the person not if you've had sex before.

If you are very close with the person and all, and decide to have sex before marriage I think its a different story, because its not like they were just trying to get into your pants, they really love you so they arent just gonna take off, on the other side too, how you say its said to be"if you have sex before marriage your more likely to get divorced?" I don't think so, because I think if youve never had another partner then you get married have sex, yeah it will be great, but then alot of people might say well hey I want to experince more, or something else? Plus I think living with someone and doing all those things is good before marriage, you want to be sure that you guys are compatible before getting into a serious legal bind and all dontcha? Nothing wrong with test driving the car, before you buy it : )
but only do it if, you want to.

Truley, if u not religious about it, then dont worry about that. Now, as long as ur having safe sex, then dont worry. Just dont go around having sex with random people, instead, people you know and trust, because they will pull a trick, and give u a delightfull std, or pregnate u. Otherwise, dont feel guilty, everything else ppl say is jsut a binch of bull-spit.

Take care :)

the reason .God does not want us to do it is....We cant make a wholesome relationship with one another once the sex is entered into. We need to build the relationship, and get to know each other first, if at all possible. ".God with holds no good thing from us" if you feel it is sin, it is sin to you and you should try and avoid it. But.....God forgives us when we make mistakes and he can make us like we never had sex before, in our mentallity anyway. And if you spend your relationship with .God and them---your chances are better than anyone else's. Period.

.God .Bless you both

Fatfamily02, u really do make sense. I do agree with you. I guess it just changes on different perspectives, and it depends frm wich way u look at it from.

You see, i'm starting to feel it's a different story when you are close to the person, and feel comfortable..Then I feel it's ok.. As long as it's a committed relationship and a serious one..Not just a one night thing..Or a one month fling. Then I feel it's allright.. Thanks everyone for commenting..Appreciate it!

...Also. To add a little note..I also believe god will forgive us if we believe we are doing the right thing. And as long as I believe in god I feel better as well!!
For me, it's just a lil' harder when my partner or girlfriend has had sex with other men..And I have only had her. That's the largest obstacle in our relationship..And i'm just afraid it always will be with the constant reminders of her past...And just knowing even if we get married, I can always think bout her and the other guys..

Fat family I agree with you god will forgive but it is a lot harder to forgive our selves & if he loves & respects you it is worth waiting for marriage

Best of luck man! Hope u make the right descision. :)

For me, it has absolutly nothing to do with a higher power. It has to what you feel is right. I would wait for someone I loved, and loved me back, but that's not right for everyone.

Only you know what is right for you, so follow what you believe, and what feels right to you. Only advise anyone can really give you. =)

I think having sex before marriage is alright...I think the whole thing about waiting was back in the day...B/c you dont hear many people being virgins these days...Which doesnt bother me ...I dont think sex and being a virgin could make a marriage go bad..I think the only way it would cause problems is if one parner is a virgin and the other isnt...But other people may look at this differently

u speak the truth it self....

Me and my husband had sex before we were married. I think it's ok to have sex before marriage if you and your partner feel ready, have a good relationship with eachother, and are in love. But I don't think it's a good idea if you aren't ready, feel pressured, don't really care for eachother, etc. I also don't think it's ok to be with a lot of people-but that's just my opinion. I was 18 when we first started sleeping together and he was 24 at the time. He is the only person I ever slept with.....Of course that was by choice. I wasn't ready to be in a sexual relationship with anyone before him. We did use condoms most of the time-i remember we went to the store at like 3 a.M. In the morning one time because we were out of condoms one morning when we were in the mood. The times that we didn't use condoms he held back, and I never got pregnant 'til about 6 months after being married. I am now pregnant and due 02/01. So the choice is really up to you but make sure that you and your partner are ready-don't have sex just to do it. Do it if you want to and are 100% sure that you are ready to.

God didn't tell me not to so I will.Me and my boyfriend are very happy with what we do and we care about each other very much and if there is a divorce with 2 people it is because they could not work out their problems.

Simply....Go with your heart.

Sex before marriage. It's a question of personal values and if you feel at ease with it. There might be some religious, social or even family pressure, but it all comes down to one thing: do you feel at ease with it. By the way, I assume that since the discussion is about sex before marriage, it's not sex but making love we are talking about?
One last thing: I have nothing against sex before marriage, as long as it doesn't hold up the ceremony. Keep smiling!

Well my boyfirend and I were talking the other day about virgins.He said that virgins are what men prefer.Virgin women are pure and are worth alot. He said they are the only women men will die for. There is no point in women expecting a man to be their knights in shinning armour becuse damsels in distress are vigins.


Even though he didnt mean to make me fell bad but he made me feel dirty.Im 21 and ive only had 2 sexual partners.I mean it was a good 11months b4 me and him had sex.


Personally I think there is some truth to it.But I cant change the past even if I wanted to. Ladies be careful who you sleep with.

Peace

obviously who you are sleeping with is your own business, but your boyfriend sounds like a complete friend. Maybe your boyfriend likes virgins -- and he will never value you if you were one. In fact, he would probably look down on any woman who he slept with, even if she had been a virgin. Men who like virgins are only insecure, because they are afraid of losing out in a comparison.