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Fudgecake
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I Think I Might Be Bisexual
Posted: 12-21-05 11:11am
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Didnt know whether the hell to put this so
here goes neways.
About two years ago I started feelin more
than friends for this girl, about a year
ago I started to have feelings for more
than that one girl - its nearly every
attractive girl.
Me and my bf are always joking about me
liking other girls, however he doesnt know
how I really feel and ive joked before
about it and he didnt like it. Hes scared
ill lose interest in men all together.
Im wondering tho is it hormones becasue I
am only 16 or cud it be real..And do I
tell him?
Please help!
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mbreeggemann
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Posted: 12-21-05 11:36am
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Yikes!! I dont mean to scare you but
being gay is not something to be proud
of.. Stay away from other grls... Its in
the best of intrest for you and your bf if
you think you two have a serious
relationship..Think about it the only
place you can be gay without getting
looked at funny is in a gay bar, or at
your own home.. Seriously do you want to
live the rest of your life hiding in bars
and at home..?? I guess thats just how I
feel on the matter.. If you dont agree,
sorry I wasted your time... :) better
luck with your next response..
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Fudgecake
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Posted: 12-21-05 13:38pm
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Anyone got ne non-homophobic views on the
matter?
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Carifairy
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Posted: 12-21-05 16:02pm
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It is okay to be bisexual. I am bi-sexual
and marrying a wonderful man. You see
this is how I explain my views to him,
because he wondered if I may want a woman
later instead. I fall in love with a
person, not a gender. If I fall in love
with a woman, then she is my love, and I
remain monogamous. Same with a man. I
happened to fall in love with a man, but I
have been with a woman. We grew apart as
she went to college far away in another
state, we were very close and it was sad,
but I recovered.
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Fudgecake
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Posted: 12-21-05 16:26pm
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Thanx 4 ur comment, altho quick question
how do I actuali meantion how I feel about
women rather than jokin all the time cuz
he doesnt always get subtlness
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Carifairy
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Posted: 12-21-05 16:48pm
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Well we talked about past relationships
..I was getting a divorce..He was out of a
bad relationship for about 2+ years, so we
just discussed things. I told him that I
had dated a woman, and I explained that I
liked him and would not cheat. I have
found that being open and honest is the
best policy.
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pee-wee
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Posted: 12-22-05 15:17pm
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Bi-sexuality, and homosexuality is a
choice. You are not born that way!!
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Carifairy
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Posted: 12-22-05 16:42pm
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And your homophobic views are not welcome.
I certainly do not choose to be attracted
to females, any more than I choose to be
attracted to men!!!
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Fudgecake
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Posted: 12-22-05 16:46pm
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Nicely sed carifairy just cuz u dnt like
the idea u cant help being attracted to
the opp sex can u wel its the same!
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pee-wee
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Posted: 12-23-05 08:20am
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Read your bible people. It's just plain
wrong. It's a choice, sweehearts,
whether you want to admit it or
not!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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pee-wee
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Posted: 12-23-05 09:02am
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By the way, my views are not homophobic.
Homophobia is a man-made word, i.E.
Excuse, for how you choose to live your
life. I live my life according to the
word of god!!!!
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Carifairy
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Posted: 12-26-05 11:36am
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Not everyone believes in christianity, and
it is ignorant to think that everyone
should.
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Malory
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Posted: 12-26-05 13:54pm
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Hi fudgecake. I don't know if you are
bisexual, but there is nothing wrong with
it if you are. I was in very long,
monogamous same sex relationships in the
past, although I am now married in a
heterosexual relationship.
There are a number of gay youth
organisations. You might find one where
you live--is there a gay community centre
near you? Or you might be able to talk to
other young gay people on the internet.
Most people your age are, like you, just
wondering if they might be gay or
bisexual, so most of the people you meet
will be having the same kind of questions
as you and won't pressure you into
declaring that you are gay or bi. (i
belonged to a gay, lesbian and bi youth
group when I was younger, so I know what
i'm talking about.)
just be very careful when talking to
people on the internet.
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pee-wee
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Posted: 12-26-05 14:20pm
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Gay and lesbian youth group!!!!!!!!! Now
that's an oxy-person!!!!!!!!
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pee-wee
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Posted: 12-26-05 14:24pm
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I am not saying everyone should be a
christian, but you should believe in god,
and god says it's wrong!
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Happiness03
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Posted: 12-26-05 15:46pm
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I am by no means bi-sexual, but if you
think you are, then there is no reason why
you should hide it or feel ashamed. I
mean, this is you! If you can talk to
your boyfriend about it, maybe that would
help..It may just be a phase you are going
thru. I am sorry other people on here,
are so conservative!!
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Happiness03
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Posted: 12-26-05 15:54pm
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Also, don't feel like you "have to go read
your bible", unless you want to! Yes,
reading a bible is always a good thing, if
you have a belief system, if not, then it
isn't for you. However, a bible isn't
going to be able to "tell" you whom you
can/can't be attracted to. You can learn
lessons, such as a man and woman were
created to be with one another, but
physical attraction is more deep than what
you know can/can't be "the right thing to
do..." which would explain why even some
christians cheat on their spouses; in the
bible that would be committing adultry,
however again, I am not for cheating, but
it would certainly go to explain how
physical attraction can over-step "the
right thing to do."
again, don't feel like you have to be
someone you aren't.
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perfectdiamond19
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Posted: 12-26-05 17:55pm
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| mbreeggemann
wrote: | | yikes!! I dont mean to
scare you but being gay is not something
to be proud of.. Stay away from other
grls... Its in the best of intrest for
you and your bf if you think you two have
a serious relationship..Think about it the
only place you can be gay without getting
looked at funny is in a gay bar, or at
your own home.. Seriously do you want to
live the rest of your life hiding in bars
and at home..?? I guess thats just how I
feel on the matter.. If you dont agree,
sorry I wasted your time... :) better
luck with your next
response.. |
this is a very rude thing to say, this is
a young woman looking for help,
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Malory
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Posted: 12-26-05 18:04pm
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Peewee, do you know what an oxymoron is?
Why would a gay and lesbian youth group be
one?
Are you saying there are no young gays or
lesbians? Even though you may not like
them, you can't deny that they exist. Why
wouldn't a group of young people with
something in common want to form a group
to support each other?
And for those of you who say that sexual
preference is a choice, please let us know
when you chose to become heterosexual.
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pee-wee
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Posted: 12-26-05 18:40pm
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It's an oxymoron because gay and lesbian
and youth group, i.E., church, can't
possibly go hand in hand. It's against
god!
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