Yikes!! I dont mean to scare you but being gay is not something to be proud of.. Stay away from other grls... Its in the best of intrest for you and your bf if you think you two have a serious relationship..Think about it the only place you can be gay without getting looked at funny is in a gay bar, or at your own home.. Seriously do you want to live the rest of your life hiding in bars and at home..?? I guess thats just how I feel on the matter.. If you dont agree, sorry I wasted your time... :) better luck with your next response..

Anyone got ne non-homophobic views on the matter?

It is okay to be bisexual. I am bi-sexual and marrying a wonderful man. You see this is how I explain my views to him, because he wondered if I may want a woman later instead. I fall in love with a person, not a gender. If I fall in love with a woman, then she is my love, and I remain monogamous. Same with a man. I happened to fall in love with a man, but I have been with a woman. We grew apart as she went to college far away in another state, we were very close and it was sad, but I recovered.

Thanx 4 ur comment, altho quick question how do I actuali meantion how I feel about women rather than jokin all the time cuz he doesnt always get subtlness

Well we talked about past relationships ..I was getting a divorce..He was out of a bad relationship for about 2 years, so we just discussed things. I told him that I had dated a woman, and I explained that I liked him and would not cheat. I have found that being open and honest is the best policy.

Bi-sexuality, and homosexuality is a choice. You are not born that way!!

And your homophobic views are not welcome. I certainly do not choose to be attracted to females, any more than I choose to be attracted to men!!!

Nicely sed carifairy just cuz u dnt like the idea u cant help being attracted to the opp sex can u wel its the same!

Read your bible people. It's just plain wrong. It's a choice, sweehearts, whether you want to admit it or not!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

By the way, my views are not homophobic. Homophobia is a man-made word, i.E. Excuse, for how you choose to live your life. I live my life according to the word of god!!!!

Not everyone believes in christianity, and it is ignorant to think that everyone should.

Hi fudgecake. I don't know if you are bisexual, but there is nothing wrong with it if you are. I was in very long, monogamous same sex relationships in the past, although I am now married in a heterosexual relationship.

There are a number of gay youth organisations. You might find one where you live--is there a gay community centre near you? Or you might be able to talk to other young gay people on the internet. Most people your age are, like you, just wondering if they might be gay or bisexual, so most of the people you meet will be having the same kind of questions as you and won't pressure you into declaring that you are gay or bi. (i belonged to a gay, lesbian and bi youth group when I was younger, so I know what i'm talking about.)

just be very careful when talking to people on the internet.

Gay and lesbian youth group!!!!!!!!! Now that's an oxy-person!!!!!!!!

I am not saying everyone should be a christian, but you should believe in god, and god says it's wrong!

I am by no means bi-sexual, but if you think you are, then there is no reason why you should hide it or feel ashamed. I mean, this is you! If you can talk to your boyfriend about it, maybe that would help..It may just be a phase you are going thru. I am sorry other people on here, are so conservative!!

Also, don't feel like you "have to go read your bible", unless you want to! Yes, reading a bible is always a good thing, if you have a belief system, if not, then it isn't for you. However, a bible isn't going to be able to "tell" you whom you can/can't be attracted to. You can learn lessons, such as a man and woman were created to be with one another, but physical attraction is more deep than what you know can/can't be "the right thing to do..." which would explain why even some christians cheat on their spouses; in the bible that would be committing adultry, however again, I am not for cheating, but it would certainly go to explain how physical attraction can over-step "the right thing to do."

again, don't feel like you have to be someone you aren't.

this is a very rude thing to say, this is a young woman looking for help,

Peewee, do you know what an oxymoron is?

Why would a gay and lesbian youth group be one?

Are you saying there are no young gays or lesbians? Even though you may not like them, you can't deny that they exist. Why wouldn't a group of young people with something in common want to form a group to support each other?

And for those of you who say that sexual preference is a choice, please let us know when you chose to become heterosexual.

It's an oxymoron because gay and lesbian and youth group, i.E., church, can't possibly go hand in hand. It's against god!