I am 35 weeks and large as well. My baby is bigger than "normal" and my doc says i'm fine. My bf thinks of me as a "mom" figure and doesn't want to have sex anymore either. Nothing we can do about this, hon. Men are men. Hopefully he will read some books along with you or watch tv programs to understand what's going on in there and understand what your body is going through. You aren't alone in this, though sometimes it may feel this way. I am learning to love and care for my body as it is and I am replacing sex with intimacy in our relationship. It seems to help. Remember: this is not a permanent body you are left with. The belly will go away and your thighs will return to normal. Think: beautiful! Good luck with your pregnancy

My husband is having a hard time with sex because he knows that his little girl is there in my belly. He says it just doesnt feel right. Hes funny that way but we have replaced sex with intamacy as well. I know it makes me feel better just to have him cuddled up around me!!

I don't know how much I believe that at 29 weeks a baby can be 6 lbs...I am 29 weeks as well and mine is only 3..And that's large...

If your baby is already 6 lbs...He/she will be a good 20lbs at birth....Imma have to read up on this....

Sarah

Hi there! Do not blame yourself! A lot of guys, get this way because they are afraid they will hurt you or the baby sexually, they are afraid to squeeze or hug you, don't worry after all it takes two and like they say, pregnant women are beautiful and your hormones are bouncing off of the wall, just sit down, talk to him, have a good cry and remember valentine's day is coming up soon have a romantic candlelight dinner, get together with friends, go out to dinner, even if it is fast food, go shopping do whatever you feel that will make you happy, your pregnancy will not last forever. Enjoy your pregnancy and let him know that it is too bad that he will not enjoy it with you. Remember, you are not alone, a lot of men are this way.
Good luck!

As a man that just came through all the changes within the past several months, I found it very hard, infact impossible to have sex with my wife durring the last 4 or 5 months of pregnancy.

We spoke about it and she was really put off but at the same time, she understood.

There is something about me that makes yeast infections happen to my wife if we do not clean like crazy after sex. I have suffered from chronic reocurring epididmitus for well over 15 years and I think that is tha cause of her infections. Durring pregnancy, using the medications to fix the problem are off limits.

She is very sexually oriented that it really bothered her a ton but now that the baby is here, things are slowly getting back to normal other than the fact that I am never in bed at the same time she is because I do the night feeding and putting to bed of the boy and there are times it can take a couple of hours to get him tucked in and fully out.

Don't worry about sex right now, there are so many things running through the minds of men getting ready to be daddy's that it would most likly not be making love but really having sex to say they did it.

Hope this helps,
brian

I am 34 weeks and my boyfriend just wants to look at porn. I understand the whole, "not wanting to hurt the baby" excuse, but gosh darn it, I feel extremely unattractive right now, and seeing that the effort to even be intimate is slim to none, I find, catching him looking at his pornography collection to be nothing shy of offensive. I probably sound like I am whining, but it really does hurt.

I don't allow porn in my relationship..It's cheating in my book...I never did allow it..

It was very surprising when I told him in the beginning that I didn't like it...He said he didn't like it either....Strip clubs don't come into the picture either...They are both degrating to women and if you think he thinking about you while you're making love...It's probably the girl in the porn or at the club he's really thinking about...

Whew girls..I'm glad I don't have that prob....One of my best friends' man is like that and it was cool for her at first...Now he might as well be having sex with other girls....

Good luck honey!! I know how you feel about not looking your best right now...Just let him know exactly how you feel about the situation and i'm sure he'll change his actions!!

Sarah..

Ps..Show him an article that says sex is ok until the last day of your pregnancy!! Lol..Then he'll have no excuses!!

In a moment of brutal honesty (assisted by a bit of dutch courage!) the other day my husband confessed that he couldn't stand the sight of me naked now that im heavily pregnant. I was a little self concious at first but got over that quickly and was pleased he was honest about it and even though he don't like seeing me naked our sex life isn't too bad at all (especially when its dark and the lights are off! Lol) other than the fact i'm started to find it uncomfortable now. I wouldn't worry about it too much he has to sort it out in his own time its a big change for him too. Men are strange creatures and they all react differently :-) just sit him down and talk it through with him, make sure you tell him how your feeling too! - hopefully he has a little more tact than my husband !! Lol :-)
good luck

Hi I was just wandering through here(had too many friends pregnant so thought I may aswell learn something about it)and I thought that I could put another point of view on this, on the last friend that was pregnant she was larger than all the others had gotten and feeling large and ugly because her boyfriend wouldnt do that kind of stuff either, I got him talking one day when it was just him and myself and managed to find out that it was more to the fact of him not wanting to hurt the child to why he was being so careful even when he just got near to her belly, I hope this helps you understand how his side feels and try not to worry a pregnant belly doesnt change how beautiful a guy thinks you are because love is what makes him feel that way not a small waist

i was thinking the same thing!!!! Dang that's a big baby! Do you have gd? Mine was about 3lbs also and so I was measuring further along that my due date! But as far as your man not wanting anything to do with you sexually.....Have you talked to him about it? My dh went through that from about 3 months. I asked him if it was me. (i hadn't even gained much) he just said "but your pregnant!" I laughed and said yes I know. I think there was so much else going on in his mind. Finally after about 2 1/2 3 months he was fine. And he's back to how he was. No our sex life isn't exactly the same due to size! But he just said "i would rather you gain 60lbs (i would &*it however!) and have a healthy baby then gain nothing and her be sick." I think any dh/bf that is ugly to his dw/gf is wrong. And there is something wrong in that relationship. Maybe i'm a lucky one...But he always says that a pregnant woman is sexy. There's no way it can't be. I hope things work out better for you and he "grows" used to the idea of you new (but temp.) tummy.
Remember, you are beautiful and the life inside of you is even more!

i'm sorry but I have to laugh....I mean yes....I can see that you would say that porn can be degrating to woman. However do you really think that because you don't allow it that he's not seeing it or anything????? I had an ex who swore he didn't like porn and was "so not into that"....Liar liar!!! I guess I dont' see the harm in it. As long as it's not taking over a mans life....Hell watch with him. Do you know most men would love if their wives would do things like that. Maybe i'm different! (sorry) I love my dh and I know he loves me. But I also know that he's a man and going to relieve stress in his own "way"....But he knows I will too! So maybe ask him if he would like to watch one with you or something.
Just some thoughts.

Lol...Honestly..I know he doesn't watch it because he really doesn't have the time.

The real reason why I don't agree with porn is because my father had an addiction to it. It took over his life and split him and my mom up. I've seen the damage that porn can do when it's chosen over you.

My fiance is a very understanding man and realizes that my self esteem isn't that great anyways so why add fuel to the fire by watching porn.

In the beginning after telling him that I didn't agree with porn, I thought he'd give me a hard time or sneak itbehind my back, but I guess I got lucky as hell! Lol...He's never looked at another girl in my presence or done something to make me jealous. He's actually extreemely sensitive to my feelings.


I do agree that a lot of men would sneak it and do it behind my back so why not join the fun, I just haven't come across that obstacle yet in 3 1/2 years....(crossing my fingers!!!)

sarah