In my personal opinion I think it would be okay to date when you feel ready to go to another serious relationship. I have been dating my bf who when I met him had been separated for several months (with the divorce filed) and everything is going great. But he is serious about our relationship therefore I don't have a problem with it thought we both looking forward he gets the final papers which will be any day by now :)

I am 25 and have been seperated from my ex hubby since july. I started seeing guys pretty much a month or so after. I ended up sleeping with a couple. That was pretty quick, really screwed with my head. But if you really feel this guy is genuine and your heart says go for it, totaly go for it! There is no time limit when is too soon. Its your life and you do what you feel is right. No one can judge you on it. They dont' know what you were through!!! All the best to you and let me know how it goes!

Hello there everyone. I am worried about the spate of divorces nowadays. It has become a norm.

Why is divorce so popular? Why rush into marriage when you have 'second thoughts' about sacrifce and lifetime commitments? Or am I getting it all wrong?

I certainly don't want to speak for anyone else, but my marriage wasn't rushed or done without thought of consequence. At least on my part. I think the biggest thing that contributed to my (soon to be) divorce was just that my wife grew up and changed. We dated for a long time, lived together for a while before marriage, then got married on paper (we both admitted we already had felt like we were married). She just changed in a different direction than I did. I still love who she was and who she it now, but whatever changed with her ultimately determined out fate.

fortunately, people realize they don't need to stay together for the neighbors (appearances), children, etc. Media attention blows things out of proportion, too. It is a matter of perspective.

I'm a strong proponent for prevention. People should get to know one another and not be solely swayed by hormones. I notice folks are in such a rush to be in a relationship without truly knowing if they're compatible with the person and their immediate family. Some folks really dont marry the woman/man; they feel they must get along with the relatives.

Still too many preconceived ideas about romance and relationships. Not everyone is meant to be married; there isn't such a thing as a soulmate for others. Getting married doesn't mean u won't ever be alone. Wow. My favorite is till death do we part. Some people change for better or worse. It isn't necessary to make ur life miserable forever because of it.

Whew, what can of worms have u opened? :lol:

I was talking with my coworker who is 40 years old/never married when he tells me "i just don't understand how come people meet and get married nowadays." I thought wow that is so true.


I think for a marriage to sustain what takes mainly is the commitment and willingness to make a marriage work for a lifetime. I have worked with people from india that have married through arranged marriage, that is they meet only once and from that one meeting they make a decision that they are going to marry and I see they don't divorce. Why then in america it is so much divorce when marriages are not arranged, most even live together before marriage and still they divorce? Lack of seriousness, lack of commitment, unwillingness to change, selfishness, lazyness, promiscuitity, lack of god. That is why divorce is the norm nowadays.