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Q: Help! Only 20 With Weird Ed Problem

asked by: impotentyouth on December 16th, 2005

Experienced User

I'm 20, have never had sex but have been masturbating once a day for many years. In the past four months I find it hard to keep an erection for over 10 or even 5 seconds masturbating. I can get fully hard but it goes away easily, though not all the way, and then back up again and that goes over and over. Sometimes I cannot get fully hard. This all happens with good stimulation. (both visually and physically) when I ejaculate it's not even fully erect, and my penis gets soft as soon as I ejaculate and I get less pleasure from ejaculation. My glans feels numb most of the time. It's not very sensitive to touching.
My morning erections are weaker than they used to be, if it's not my wrong perception. I started paying attention to that only after I realized I had erection problems. Often there's no morning erection. Also, there seems to be a cycle the past 2 years. In some days I have better sensation in my penis and much better erections. They go away after 2 or 3 days, though. It’s still happening after I had erection problems. Only in these days are my erections satisfactory. I can last 15 minutes when masturbating. This is so weird.
I've seen 2 doctors and they said it was all in my head, citing the weird cycle. I can't disagree more. The sensation of my penis is just not right. When those good days come when my penis is normal, the sensation is much better and getting and sustaining a woodie are easily done. I'm not buying that bs that i'm more relaxed those days(as the docs put it). I need treatment but they said nothing could be done.
I'm getting depressed... I'll be grateful my whole life to anyone who can help.

Replies(33)

Human

replied on December 16th, 2005

Experienced User

I literally had and really still have the same medical question problem. Its been about 9 months. Same sensitivity issues same thing with being able to masterbate some days but not on others. I know the problems seem very very physical but they really are all in your head (even the sensitivity). I know it's weird I had a hard time accepting this myself and didn't for a long time. Read up a bit on what causes physical erectile problems and you can then begin to rule out such issues. You see physical damage to the penis is very very rare, when it does happen usually its caused by a traumatic event (like bending it in half when hard or somethign as extreme). You can't just be walking around fine one day and have say a venious leak the next without something happening to you that your aware off. Once I really accepted the idea that it's in my head things got better. Not normal mind you but better, i'd like to think i'm slowly returning to myself.
It's weird man I dunno how to describe it but when stuff like this gets into your subconscience you can feel relaxed and fine all day and still not be able to enjoy sex/masterbation because deep rooted problems like these are difficult to remove its all deep inside your head (sounds stupid I know)). It really takes time, I just hope that both me and you will be able to make a full recovery because I wont be satisfied with anything less.

cd998776

replied on December 16th, 2005

Active User, very eHealthy

-keep up exercise.
-cut back masturbation to a few times a week (but it's not at all neccessary to cut it out completely).
-eat healthy.
-get a good night's sleep every night.
-reduce stress at all cost.

Are you on any kind of medication?

impotentyouth

replied on December 16th, 2005

Experienced User

I'm not on any medications. I don't smoke and don't drink much. I eat good food and have enough rest(i think). My mood is good despite ed problems. I don't exercise much besides walking. That's the only lifestyle factor I can think of.

Thinking back, I never had erection problems before. Most of the time I masturbate to porn. I jacked 2-4 times a day in the summer 2 years ago. It could have been excessive, but my body responded fine. Afterwards I gradully got less and less aroused by porn and my erections were less spontaneous, but I know it's not physical because once I discovered another kind of porn that I liked or laid off for a few days, it all came back. I do believe i'm kinda addicted to porn though. Even in days I don't feel horny I still want to jack.

Phychological addiction to porn could be a reason. But the cycle is just weird. There are also variations in those good days I can get normal erections. Sometimes it's rock hard as soon as I pull it out of my pants without even thinking much of sex, and it's hot. That's the best. I can go for at least 10-20 minutes without losing any firmness. This can last for 2 days. Then it doesn't get rock hard anymore but is still decent. I need to be really focusing at porn and keep my hands busy. In this case it goes limp if I don't. I couldn't last as long as the first case no matter what. It goes down if I don't ejaculate within 10-15 mins. Sometimes the rock hard case doesn't come first, just the second case. Then in no more than a total of 4 days it all goes back to ed. :cry:

cd998776

replied on December 16th, 2005

Active User, very eHealthy

Well, it is one of those things that does slowly happen with time, but that seems a little early considering your age... Is it that you can't get an erection when you want one, or that you don't get those spontaneous boners?

impotentyouth

replied on December 16th, 2005

Experienced User

It varies from time to time. Sometimes I can't get fully hard when I want and try to. Sometimes I can get "hard" but not rock hard. Or I can get quite hard but can't last even if I use my hands. I've never had sex so I don't know in which cases my erection will be enough to penetrate and have sex.

cd998776

replied on December 17th, 2005

Active User, very eHealthy

Cut back on masturbation for a week or so; relax, continue to eat healthy and exercise, and keep you stress down, get a good night's sleep and after a week or so, reevaluate your situation...

impotentyouth

replied on December 17th, 2005

Experienced User

I've actually cut back on masturbation the past 2 months(about 4 times a week). I don't have strong urges to masturbate anyway, not sure if it has to do with the ed problems. I'll try completely cutting it out for a week and not thinking about sex or my penis. This is the only thing to try for now. Thanks for your replies.

cd998776

replied on December 18th, 2005

Active User, very eHealthy

impotentyouth wrote:

i've actually cut back on masturbation the past 2 months(about 4 times a week). I don't have strong urges to masturbate anyway, not sure if it has to do with the ed problems. I'll try completely cutting it out for a week and not thinking about sex or my penis. This is the only thing to try for now. Thanks for your replies.

yeah, that seems to have helped some of the other people on this board who have posted similar problems...

Just go out and do things you enjoy, and keep your mind off of it as much as possible...

impotentyouth

replied on December 19th, 2005

Experienced User

I tried hard not to think about my problem but it's really hard. I couldn't sleep last night so I got up...And felt like masturbating cause my bed was comfortable and warm. I seldom do it in bed. I was like ok jack some and maybe I could sleep. I got a pretty good erection just fantasizing..Never thought about this either. After about 10 mins it went limp...As it always does when I do get normal erections. I had to ejaculate with a half-erect penis. 10-15 mins is the max. If I don't cum i'm done.

I tried again today but it didn't get nearly as hard and couldn't stay. :roll:

cd998776

replied on December 20th, 2005

Active User, very eHealthy

Try this: like you said you got an erection just thinking about it. Do the same thing, but don't touch your penis. Just concentrate on something you find to by arrousing, and just by keeping a mental state that is an arroused mental state, if you're concentrating hard enough, you should be able to keep the erection for a while.

impotentyouth

replied on December 20th, 2005

Experienced User

It doesn't work. I tried it today. Whether it's imagining, porn, or pictures of girls that I like, I could get hard but couldn't stay long. It even went limp faster if I didn't touch it. I feel that my libido is normal, ie, I have that horny feeling around my pubic area generally. Also when I get an erection. But the blood just can't stay and the horny feeling diminishes as it goes limp.

Is it possible that the problem has to do with vitamin or zinc deficiency? Some websites suggest that. Is that possible at all?

Locke42039

replied on December 20th, 2005

New User

I Think I Have Ed Too

I'm 16, and I think have ed. From what i've read, I think i'm too young to have it, but I have the similar symtoms as "impotentyouth". I have a hard time keeping my penis fully hard when I masturbate and I can't get a boner when i'm trying to have sex. I don't know what to do. I've read about ed for awhile now and i've tried everything I could at my age. I exercise regularly, eat healthy, and I take zinc supplements everyday. But still, I have difficulty. I've heard that a lot this is in your mind..Does anyone have any suggestions on how to get this "deeply rooted" problem out of ones mind? Its killing me inside, I never had trouble with my penis until I decided to become sexually active...Whats wrong with me?

cd998776

replied on December 20th, 2005

Active User, very eHealthy

impotentyouth wrote:

it doesn't work. I tried it today. Whether it's imagining, porn, or pictures of girls that I like, I could get hard but couldn't stay long. It even went limp faster if I didn't touch it. I feel that my libido is normal, ie, I have that horny feeling around my pubic area generally. Also when I get an erection. But the blood just can't stay and the horny feeling diminishes as it goes limp.

Is it possible that the problem has to do with vitamin or zinc deficiency? Some websites suggest that. Is that possible at all?

well, how often do you ejaculate? Each time you ejaculate, numerous chemicals (i'm not gonna go into all of them) are released by your brain. It can take up to 72 hours (or as little as 8 hours) for these chemicals to be replenished. Your age will have no effect on how long it takes for these chemicals to be replaced. If you don't give yourself enough recovery time, you will find it more difficult to maintain erections and you will likely feel somewhat less horny. Not allowing these chemicals to be replenished can also cause a mile depression. Have you tried simply giving it a few days off? I'm not sure how much this will help you, but I hope it does...

cd998776

replied on December 20th, 2005

Active User, very eHealthy

Re: I Think I Have Ed Too

locke42039 wrote:

i'm 16, and I think have ed. From what i've read, I think i'm too young to have it, but I have the similar symtoms as "impotentyouth". I have a hard time keeping my penis fully hard when I masturbate and I can't get a boner when i'm trying to have sex. I don't know what to do. I've read about ed for awhile now and i've tried everything I could at my age. I exercise regularly, eat healthy, and I take zinc supplements everyday. But still, I have difficulty. I've heard that a lot this is in your mind..Does anyone have any suggestions on how to get this "deeply rooted" problem out of ones mind? Its killing me inside, I never had trouble with my penis until I decided to become sexually active...Whats wrong with me?

let's start off basic:
-how often do you masturbate?
-are you on any medication?
-are you under a lot of stress?

Locke42039

replied on December 21st, 2005

New User

Re: I Think I Have Ed Too

cd998776 wrote:

locke42039 wrote:

let's start off basic:
-how often do you masturbate?

-are you on any medication?

-are you under a lot of stress?

before I had the "ed" symptoms, twice a day. Now, I try not to.
I'm not on any regular medications.
No more or less stress then a 16 year old would have.

impotentyouth

replied on December 21st, 2005

Experienced User

I feel bad for you man. I hope both of us can get over our problems pretty soon.

I was also wondering if zinc would work...As well as vitamins. Some say they play quite a role in one's sexual function. Anyone that has related info or experiences please let me know.

impotentyouth

replied on December 21st, 2005

Experienced User

Ps: is masturbating once a day excessive or is it normal for most young men? I often feel guilty now. I'd feel more guilty if my masturbation has been excessive. Let me know the truth. I gotta face it.

cd998776

replied on December 21st, 2005

Active User, very eHealthy

impotentyouth wrote:

ps: is masturbating once a day excessive or is it normal for most young men? I often feel guilty now. I'd feel more guilty if my masturbation has been excessive. Let me know the truth. I gotta face it.

no, that's not excessive at all. I have friends that just have to get that "one" in before they get to class, and then again before they get to bad. Once a day is a lot less than some guys do....

impotentyouth wrote:

i was also wondering if zinc would work...As well as vitamins. Some say they play quite a role in one's sexual function. Anyone that has related info or experiences please let me know.

well, they may play some role, but the chemicals that actually need to be replenished are those that are released by the brain during ejaculation...
During orgasm, a number of brain chemicals are released: prolactin hormone, phenylethylamine (also found in chocolate) and endorphin. While you may be able to replenish the prolactin hormone or phenylethylamine, you won't be able to replenish endorphinsm with supplements like the other two. If you just give it some time it will happen naturally. Eat healthy, exercise, keep stress down, and get a good night's sleep each night.

locke42039 wrote:

before I had the "ed" symptoms, twice a day. Now, I try not to.
I'm not on any regular medications.
No more or less stress then a 16 year old would have.

i would say start off by reducing masturbation to once every two-three days. Be sure to eat healthy, exercise, keep stress down as much as possible, and get a good night's sleep each night. After a week or so, reassess where you're at....

Locke42039

replied on December 21st, 2005

New User

Thank you everyone for listening to my problems. I appericate all the replies and comments. Like "cd998778" said, i'll reasses myself in few weeks. So i'll see everyone in a few. Thanks again.

Ps. Happy chrismahanukwanzakah everyone

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