Hi, sorry to here that your going through so much hurt and stress at the mo. When I was 3 mths pregnant with my 1st son (i now have 2) my partner and I split up he wasnt a reliable person at all ( before I had even had the baby 6 mths later he was married to some other women!) I didnt see him at all during the pregnancy (his choice not mine) and when my beautiful baby arrived it was my mum that was with me. I dont deny that it was lonely at times but I had to get on with it and it wasnt long before I was getting smiles and gurgles everytime I looked at him and that made it all worth the while! Yes, your ex-partner has to start to accept his responsibilities he cant just keep going round making babies with lots of women (something my ex was also guilty of!) but I am living proof that coping on your own is possible and as for the other baby mother tread with caution only go to see her if you are really sure its what you want to do, it could cause alot of upset for you, baby and others involved. Try and think positive this baby girl is all yours and you dont have to share her with no1! And when the time is right someone better will walk in2 your life who will love you both. Wishing you the best of luck! Hope this helps.

Hmm I can kidof relate but then agian I can not. My husband met this woman when he was 16 they dated off and on for 16 months and lived together off and on and she became preganant and he asked her to abord the baby, this was something that she would do, but she todl him that she wanted the baby becaseu it was with him and she loved him, she has had four other abortions because she got pregnant by someone else that was not him well 6 years later here we are. They ended up not staying together. After his daughter was born they was together off and on and two years ago they tried it one last tiem and it did not work. He left me to try to work things out with her, only for the child is what he said. Well after all that baby mama drama caca.. She got pissed because after two weeks he came back to me. So she did not let him see his daughter for like over a year. He did not talk to them either. Well he and I were together 1 year and seven months , and I got pregnant. Well befor we got married we went to florida and he lied and said he was not dating anyone becasuse he was scared she would not let him spend time with his daughter. He wanted to keep me a secret. Thats when we were together a year. And then she found out and was cool about it. Then seven months later. We are married and pregnant. He got married with out telling her and had his daughter in the wedding. Well he told her he asked me and she did not beleive him, so he did not try to convince her. So we had the wedding and I was already pregnant, 2 months. And his little girl was there and she had to tell her mom that we had got married, which pissed her off. And then he didnot wnt to tell her about the baby and I was like finally , you married me and I am not keeping my child a secret becseu you are scared she want let you see that damn kid. I told him that I was prond of my child and if she did not want him to see his daughter becasue of us haveing a son then he would have to decided what meant more to him, I hated to have to make him choose but that was my child vs/ hers . Well turns out he told her and she was pissed but got over it. My husband is a good man , he was jsut scared he would loss visitain rights again becaseu she had kept the child away before becasue he picked me over her. So it is a littel different. Except for the truth must be told.So yes I think that yes you should tell her that you are having his child. But I think that you should do it before the baby is born. Are they together as a coulple? I also think his azz should be paying child support. And dont you worry about him you are strong enough to do it all . God made us woman stornger than any man.

I think when the child comes, you will know what to do--and I believe you will do it.

Thanks everyone for the replies they have given me something to think about. I will definitely be going to the courts for child support. He thinks that I come from a rich family and because I have two degrees I can do it all on my own. However, I just graduated from college and have not even started a career. I have student loans to pay off, bills to pay, as well as having to find an apartment, it is very hard. But I will make it. Its just sometimes I become so upset, which I do know is very unhealthy for the baby and me.

I could have been you. The guy I was with had already gotten a girl pregnant. She was 5 months pregnant when I started seeing him. He said he left her and I believed him. At the time I too had a boyfriend that I was living with. He told me he wasn't sure if his x-girlfriend's baby was his. Then, I became pregnant. I told him it was his but I knew he probably would have accused it of being my boyfriend's. I know for a fact it was the new guy's baby because I hadn't been having sex with my boyfriend and the new guy came inside me. The other woman knew about me...I called her one day and told her that she would never have to worry about me being involved in her life. A few days later I had an abortion. He agreed to it but never helped me pay for any of it...A real looser. Honestly, I wish I would have kept the baby. I just didn't like the circumstances that the child would be born into. Looking back I would have just left the guy out of my child's life and had the baby by myself.

I am feeling all alone...the father of my daughter has bipolar and is on disability so he never has to pay child support but still sees my daughter just to cause conflict with me. He has a new girlfriend who he was messing around with when this new baby was concieved and she is supposedly pregnant with his baby to. She proceeds to harass me and threaten me and calls me private all the time. He has her around my daughter during his visits to which upsets me. Ive known him for 15 years and am having a hard time with the get over it scenerio although i know i should cuz hes scum. He has also been very abusive emotionaly and physically. He punched a hole in my door in front of our daughter and he never got reprimanded for it just got a slap on the hand and i am forced to drop my daughter off to him twice a week per the courts orders. Im stuck and wondering if someone is in a similar situation to offer some support and guidance on how to deal with this.....