My parents are getting a divorce right now, so I know exactly how they feel! I'm 16 btw. My step dad is like my father because my birth dad has never really been around & has been away in the army when I was little. I still get to see my step dad whenever I want, but it's just not the same as it used to be. The holidays were very, very hard for me because i've been around him since I was 2 years old, so this is the first christmas my parents weren't together. Also, I barely get to see my brothers, they are 16, 18 & 19, and i'm used to seeing them every day of my life. What I do is talk to my boyfriend about all this, or someone else I can trust. I cry allll the time because I miss my family but things will get better in the end. Just let your kids know that you love them more then life. My mother is in the same situation as you, it kills her to see me hurt. I want my mom to be happy so if that means them getting a divorce, then that's fine. I still have so much respect for both of my parents. Talk to the guy & tell him that his kids really need him & miss him, and maybe try to set up a time where all of you can talk or just him & the kids talk. The main thing is to just be there for them, which is sounds like you're doing very well. In the end everything will work out for you & your family! I hope this helped you! Pm me if you need someone to talk to about this! <3

kayla

Think about your kids and keep them in mind. You need to do what is best for you. If you cant get thru to him its his loss. I understand that is difficult. But if your children, need to be priority. Dont waste time on his attention focus on enjoying time with them. And when he sees all the fun he may even join in if not then it is harder to see broken when you are having fun. My parents are divorced and have been since I was 5 and my mom didnt show the love I am talking about so I dont speak to her now. She was too wrapped up in talking about the problem and being mad because it wasnt fixed. When she shouldhave been taking care of us and keeping our minds off of it instead of using us as an out, not that you are just an example. Just show your kids you love them. Live is harder than you think it is. And your kids are all you have in this world that give unconditional love so remember that they love you know matter what and keep thier best interest at heart. Be careful about choosing the next person to be in thier life as well.

Think about your kids and keep them in mind. You need to do what is best for you. If you cant get thru to him its his loss. I understand that is difficult. But if your children, need to be priority. Dont waste time on his attention focus on enjoying time with them. And when he sees all the fun he may even join in if not then it is harder to see broken when you are having fun. My parents are divorced and have been since I was 5 and my mom didnt show the love I am talking about so I dont speak to her now. She was too wrapped up in talking about the problem and being mad because it wasnt fixed. When she shouldhave been taking care of us and keeping our minds off of it instead of using us as an out, not that you are just an example. Just show your kids you love them. Live is harder than you think it is. And your kids are all you have in this world that give unconditional love so remember that they love you know matter what and keep thier best interest at heart. Be careful about choosing the next person to be in thier life as well.