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Q: Problem Having Sex

asked by: lilsmash87 on December 14th, 2005

New User

I am 18 years old. I have been dating this girl for about 2 years. She is religeous and just turned 18 so now she wants to have sex. We have been having sex for about 4 months and its going great. Untill a month ago. Lately when we had sex. I am hard as a rock before we have sex and when im ready to put my penis in her it goes limp and I get shakey and nervous. This has never happend before. Well a short time after we broke up and now believe it or not im dating 2 bi girls. Last night they started going down on eachother. I was so hard. Then I performed oral on one of them. And she said get a condom on. I got nervous and shrunk up. Usually a guy in a situation with 2 chicks would be like hell yeah and be hard right? Why am I getting shakkey in a sexual situation? And shrink up? I have no problems master bating. Before with my x girlfriend. I would be hard with hand jobs or oral or ejackulating between her boobs id be hard but when it comes to the vagina I get nervous and she gets upset. Now last night when they were laying next to me done with eachother ( this is after the girl told me to have sex with her ) I was laying there trying to masterbate and I could I was hard. But when one of the girls touchedmy penis it went limp. Please help anything you can. Im only 18 and usually this isnt right. Its not me. Usually im like hell yeah lets do it now I feel disapointed and its depressing. Any advice?

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Replies(14)

lilsmash87

replied on December 14th, 2005

New User

No One?

Theres no advice? Im goin nuts lol

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mbreeggemann

replied on December 14th, 2005

New User

Maybe you are simply not ready for sex.. Or maybe you havea real medical issue and you need to see your doctor.. Or maybe you know that these girls are not ones that you love and are in love with so you dont want to waste your time.. I dont know sorry if I am not much help!

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cd998776

replied on December 14th, 2005

Active User, very eHealthy

Just look through the threads on this site; there are many others with the same problem..... Considering your age, there a 99% chance it's nerves.

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ergit

replied on December 14th, 2005

New User

Are u sure u like girls?? Jk

ya man its nervers... Had de same problem a while back.. Jus relax.. Goes fine.

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lilsmash87

replied on December 14th, 2005

New User

Hey

Thanks for the support really helps

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cd998776

replied on December 14th, 2005

Active User, very eHealthy

Glad to help!

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Pedro

replied on December 15th, 2005

New User

I have the exact same probel unfortunetly.

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redzonebikes

replied on December 15th, 2005

New User

I know this sounds unorthodox, but if your that desperate you could try drugs to combat this like viagra or since it sounds like your nerves, having a little alcohol can help you relax and increase blood flow for a short period of time. Or another thing that I found has worked is using marijuana before but normally this messes up things, but it can completely get rid of all anxiety and help you relax and just think about sex, again these are all last resorts if nothing else works

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Pedro

replied on December 15th, 2005

New User

Yeah ive herd being stoned helps...Because I think its all in your head adn you ar ethinking about the time u went limp with your gf.

Try to be stoned, and another thing is try to get them (preferably one of them, lol) to give you head before u put on the condom. Justa thought sry man...I got the same problem :(

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mbreeggemann

replied on December 15th, 2005

New User

Dont be stoned because if something happens and you end up getting a grl pregnant then it may cause birth defects and that wouldnt be good. The only way to prevent a pregnancy from happening is to not have sex. Just think about what kind of damage that may cause!!

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cd998776

replied on December 15th, 2005

Active User, very eHealthy

Yeah, don't be stoned (or drunk for that matter), and when possible stay away from the use of any sexual drugs.

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lilsmash87

replied on December 15th, 2005

New User

Hmm

Lots to think about

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Human

replied on December 16th, 2005

Experienced User

I know this is contrary to popular opinion but here goes.

Alcohol shouldn't effect your erections much at your age. I personally find that getting some liquor inside my system prior to sex helps me relax a lot easier while having no effect on my erection quality. In fact I actually prefer drunk sex to regular sex. In any case drinking might help you calm your nerves, it'll get you in that I don't give a damn state of mind which really helps in overcoming nervousness issues.
As for weed, well there have been times when i've smoked and its made me real horny but in most cases it makes me want to have less sex rather than more.

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cd998776

replied on December 16th, 2005

Active User, very eHealthy

human wrote:

alcohol shouldn't effect your erections much at your age. I personally find that getting some liquor inside my system prior to sex helps me relax a lot easier while having no effect on my erection quality.

as much as I understand that he probably has access to alcohol at his age, he is still under the age of 21. Please try to keep that in perspective.

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