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Q: Should I Let Him See My Daughter

asked by: craznhrm on December 13th, 2005

New User

My daughter is 5 years old. When she was 6 months old her father signed over his rights saying he did not want to be a father. I am now married and have a 2 week old baby. Am I denying her anyhitng by refusing to let him see her. I have not answered yet. He also has a daughter who is 6 months younger than mine and the women left him with her. I feel like it clould be damaging to her to let him in her life right now. Please any advice would be great.

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mhg2006

replied on December 27th, 2005

Experienced User

Just listen to what your heart is telling you.. If she hasn't ever been around him she must not know him. And you say you are married now so the only "dad" she's really known is right there 24/7, right? If I were in your situation I wouldn't let my daughter meet him, it might bring up bad memories and could be damaging to her later on in life. But, just go with what your heart says.

Good luck!

kirztensmummy

replied on January 2nd, 2006

Experienced User

mhg2006 wrote:

just listen to what your heart is telling you.. If she hasn't ever been around him she must not know him. And you say you are married now so the only "dad" she's really known is right there 24/7, right? If I were in your situation I wouldn't let my daughter meet him, it might bring up bad memories and could be damaging to her later on in life. But, just go with what your heart says.

Good luck!

i definitely agree with what mhg says, its too early for your daughter to understand the situation and it might break her confidence/trust to your husband. Just wait for the right time to tell her---when you can explain to her what had happened etc. Besides if he signed a paper saying that he's waving all the rights of being a father, then your husband has it now and he prob has the right to say something with this matter
good luck!

heather029

replied on January 7th, 2006

New User

Follow your motherly instinct and you will not go wrong. Remember, he walked out for a reason. He should not have the right to breeze back in when it suits him. Your daughter is a human being, not an animal. He should have realized that a long time ago.

Sorry if I seem harsh. I'm going through similar situation with in-laws right now.

Best wishes,
heather

czarg

replied on January 13th, 2006

Experienced User

Whatever U Do.

Whatever u do, I think u must protect yr daughter's psyche. She should not suffer for d man's irresponsibility n insensitivity. Follwo yr heart as a mother, blood is thicker than water and u r likely not to go wrong. Pray too. God hears prayers! Your husband too could assist you make a sound judgement.

All the best.

bitsy690

replied on January 14th, 2006

New User

Does your daughter think of your husband as her father? Since her biol;ogical dad did sign over the rights then I guess its just up to you to follow your motherly instincts. Depending on the maturity of the father I think I would definately concider allowing him into her life except I would not introduce him to her as her father. Maybe you can say he is an uncle or some other distant relative. Just a thought.

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