Should I Let Him See My Daughter Posted: 12-13-05 19:24pm
My daughter is 5 years old. When she was
6 months old her father signed over his
rights saying he did not want to be a
father. I am now married and have a 2
week old baby. Am I denying her anyhitng
by refusing to let him see her. I have
not answered yet. He also has a daughter
who is 6 months younger than mine and the
women left him with her. I feel like it
clould be damaging to her to let him in
her life right now. Please any advice
would be great.
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mhg2006
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Jul 2005 Posts: 89 Location: South Carolina
Posted: 12-27-05 00:05am
Just listen to what your heart is telling
you.. If she hasn't ever been around him
she must not know him. And you say you
are married now so the only "dad" she's
really known is right there 24/7, right?
If I were in your situation I wouldn't let
my daughter meet him, it might bring up
bad memories and could be damaging to her
later on in life. But, just go with what
your heart says.
Good luck!
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kirztensmummy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 326 Location: london
Posted: 01-02-06 17:27pm
mhg2006
wrote:
just listen to what your
heart is telling you.. If she hasn't
ever been around him she must not know
him. And you say you are married now so
the only "dad" she's really known is right
there 24/7, right? If I were in your
situation I wouldn't let my daughter meet
him, it might bring up bad memories and
could be damaging to her later on in life.
But, just go with what your heart
says.
Good luck!
i definitely agree with what mhg says, its
too early for your daughter to understand
the situation and it might break her
confidence/trust to your husband. Just
wait for the right time to tell her---when
you can explain to her what had happened
etc. Besides if he signed a paper saying
that he's waving all the rights of being a
father, then your husband has it now and
he prob has the right to say something
with this matter
good luck!
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heather029
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Dec 2005 Posts: 27 Location: Mississippi
Posted: 01-07-06 04:55am
Follow your motherly instinct and you will
not go wrong. Remember, he walked out
for a reason. He should not have the
right to breeze back in when it suits him.
Your daughter is a human being, not an
animal. He should have realized that a
long time ago.
Sorry if I seem harsh. I'm going through
similar situation with in-laws right
now.
Best wishes,
heather
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czarg
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jan 2006 Posts: 68 Location: Lagos-Nigeria
Whatever U Do. Posted: 01-13-06 23:43pm
Whatever u do, I think u must protect yr
daughter's psyche. She should not suffer
for d man's irresponsibility n
insensitivity. Follwo yr heart as a
mother, blood is thicker than water and u
r likely not to go wrong. Pray too. God
hears prayers! Your husband too could
assist you make a sound judgement.
All the best.
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bitsy690
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jan 2006 Posts: 43 Location: Illinois
Posted: 01-14-06 16:57pm
Does your daughter think of your husband
as her father? Since her biol;ogical dad
did sign over the rights then I guess its
just up to you to follow your motherly
instincts. Depending on the maturity of
the father I think I would definately
concider allowing him into her life except
I would not introduce him to her as her
father. Maybe you can say he is an uncle
or some other distant relative. Just a
thought.
