Ok, long story, I was dumped by a first love about 4 years ago, shortly after that, I moved to the uk to get away, but also I guess to get away from her. We are still in contact, but I think about her alot, and I miss her like crazy, she is now going out with someone else, and getting on with her life, I on the other hand am havin major problems getting on with it, i've got zero confidence, and a major inferiority complex, mostly because of the reason that she gave me for the break up, you know it 'it's not you, it's me'. She is an amazing person, but I know in my mind I have to move on, I just don't know how to.