All pple in the health care field--dr, nurses, convelesant care takers, etc etc.... Are known to have a tendancy to show co-dependancy signs and symptoms. Living our lives to fix others, and doing everything in our power to make that a reality--we loose sight of who we are. What our needs are, and what we want for ourselves. We push ourselves to the background, and our little child inside is dying. Be
true to you. Let go of girlfriend if you know she is not the right one. Quit living to please others. Be true to yourself. That does not mean not being a .Dr or caretaker, but we have to step back and regain ourself for just a minute so we can continue on helping others. It is okay to say no, it is okay to disappoint someone if it is truly how you feel, or what you know is the truth.
I am not a .Dr or anything like that, but my christian walk helped me to become a "glorified co-dependant." I had to fix them, I had to help them at all cost, even sometimes at the happiness of my own children, and definately at the cost of my own happiness. It does make me feel good to help others, but not to the point that I forget
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but what would they think if I say no, arent I suppose to sacrifice for others, I need them to accept me and love me, I have to be good and do good.
I came to find out no matter how hard I try to do good, no matter what I did for them, if they chose to accept me and love me, they would, but if they didnt chose it, they couldn't love or accept me, and would never ever do so.....
I needed them to accept and love me---although I was doing all the "right things"---i was doing them all for the wrong reasons!!!! Biggest thing I learned. I also learned I did not need them to love or accept me---that me and my little child inside could stand and go on in this life--without anyone accepting me or loving me. Beacause I learned to love me, learned to be true to me, and it is the greatest place ever.
