If you want somone to help you out, then you really need to let somone know what your problem is.
Its the same idea as you walking up to somone and saying "some place on my body hurts, but I dont want to tell you where, you have any suggestions on what I can do about it?" no ones going to suggest anything if they dont know what part of your body is hurting you. They cant give you a specific analization of your problem just based on the fact that your hurting somewhere.
Same with this, no one can help you unless your willing to discuss your problem. If its that much of a secret, then you shouldnt post on a forum. This shouldnt be a guessing game....People on the forum are here to help you, not judge you.