Joined: 23 Nov 2005 Posts: 82 Location: Weston, FL
My Friend Is Addicted to Cocaine Posted: 12-10-05 23:21pm
I have a friend that I grew up with that
moved away when we were about 12 years
old. After that, we really started going
into two different directions. Despite
the fact that while she was having sex and
doing drugs and I was studying at home and
keeping clean, she always talked to me
about her problems.
Well, she had a baby in january (she is
now 19). I haven't seen her in a year,
because her life is shot to caca, and I
was tired of trying to help someone who
didn't want to be helped, so I kind of
closed the door on her, but leaving it a
peak open, you know. Well, anyways, she
called me this weekend because she has a
serious problem. She came out and told me
that she has a cocaine addiction. She
wants to go to rehab, but she's afraid of
losing her son, who is the light of her
life. She told me that everyone has
turned their backs on her, and her mother
is just telling her "you need to stop"
instead of really helping her. I am the
kind of person who only helps those who
want help, and this is the case.
I want to help my friend, and i'm not sure
if I should try a more homeopathic in-home
confidential type of thing, or if she
should go to inpatient rehab. Inpatient
seems to be the best, but i'm so sure that
she'll lose her son.
Please, I want advice from addicts and
from those who have recovered and have
helped others recover.
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shadowalker164
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Jan 2005 Posts: 175 Location: Tampa, FL
Posted: 12-12-05 16:53pm
Solar…
as long as you know that you can't fix
her, and that she can indeed drag you into
her insane world if you aren't careful,
sure reach out to her.
If she wants to get clean more than she
wants to get high, and she knows that her
son is better off without an addicted
mother than with one, she may be ready.
You closed that door for a reason, do you
remember what that reason was? Whatever
was going on then, is still going on now.
Detox, followed by a real long term
treatment program is what I recommend.
Don't bring her into your home, she will
make you sorry you did. She won't want
to, but she is in the grip of a thing more
powerful than you can imagine. She will
do anything to get that one more rock.
And that anything includes stealing your
stuff.
Homeopathic remedies will not fix what
ails her. It may take a power greater
than you can muster. Her pain is her only
hope. Without a deep and abiding
spiritual pain, we won't do the things we
need to do to get clean. Pain alone was
the motivator for me.
Never deny an addict the opportunity to
suffer, it's the catalyst for change.
Take her to an na meeting, she will see
herself in the people there.
Richard
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solar001
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Nov 2005 Posts: 82 Location: Weston, FL
Thank You Posted: 12-12-05 18:57pm
Thankyou richard. The more I thought
about it, the more I realized that she
does need to suffer, as her pain will be
the only thing to make her really change
for life. Part of me is hesistant, but I
think of that innocent baby and I can't
rest knowing that I haven't done anything.
I told her that she needs detox and
rehab. We are going to talk to her mom
about taking care of the baby, but part of
me thinks that if her baby is taken and
she is required to take parenting classes
and the like, it will give her incentive,
it will show her that she really can have
her child taken away.
Thankyou again richard, you've given me a
very useful piece of advice.
