If I was you, I would have a women as the threesome partner. Alot of men are easily intimidated by another man in the bedroom.
Another women knows you body, so you would get more pleasure, and your partner would feel less intimidated- he'd get enjoyment out of taking part, watching or even just having his ego stroked!

Finding an appropriate candidate.. You can go on websites, such as www.girlsweb.co.uk to advertise discreetly for threesome partners, where you can swap pictures/ messages etc. and find out all the information you want to know about your would-be candidate

True, most men would love to watch their woman with another woman. However, it doesnt just happen because they want it and their woman agrees to it. It doesnt work if the woman is not into women. Not that I personally mind being with another woman but tit for tat... I get just as much, if not more, pleasure from a man or two. It's not his ego im looking to stroke and if he is intimidated by that then we shouldn't be in that situation anyway.

Gosh, I see this questions everywhere, but no real answers!

Threesomes are definitely NOT for everyone. It depends on your current relationship and your personal jealously, security etc.

I'm bisexual and in my early 20s, and in a relationship wth a guy. His fanatsy, as he puts it, is to have "two of me", aka a threesome with another girl lol. Personally I've always had fanatsies of all girl orgies, so i think a threesome works for both of us!

I think you need to set up the boundaries before hand. I don't want to watch him penetrate another girl, I want it to be all touching and oral sex. He doesn't want to feel left out. We all have desires and boundaries that need to be respected.

As for finding that third person... I wish I knew how! I personally don't want a friend or anyone I know, first because there's no one i know that I am even attracted to, secondly, I want to keep this private. However, finding a stranger is difficult, what kind of girl wants to join a couple of strangers, literately? No one has answered any of my personal ads, and i have been posting them all over the internet for over a year now! I'm too shy to approach anyone in person, I feel like a creep!

So, we've come to option 3... we will hire an escort. We've got no other choice! (Unless I finally meet a hot bi chick!) The upside, is that its waaay more likely to be completely no strings attached, pure sex, and she will be "at our service", thus our boundaries will be kept. The downside, i'm not sure how STD-safe escorts are... and they are expensive!!!

But those are basically your three options... someone you know, a stranger, a prostitute.

I have brought up the subject of a three or foursome to my wife a couple times. I sincerely love her and we've been married for almost 20 years. Remember, that is sex with the same person for twenty years and it has been pretty good sex. Well, I considered another man for her birthday, and I think I could view it as just sex - just pleasure. I think I would only get jealous if she kept talking about him afterwards or kept asking to do it again with him. If we remove the emotion from the act - it's just sex. If you think about it, husbands and wives play cards with other people, bowl with other people, have dinner and/or drinks with other people and so on, so a three or four some is just one variation on the other things. I believe I could be kissing my wife while another man goes down on her, or enter her from behind while she goes down on him, or have her go down on me and him enter her from behind. As long as no love emotions developed between her and him it would be okay. Also, if she had sex with him without me being there, then that would be an affair and bad. Now for two women three some. My wife has mentioned that she would like to experience a woman, and that would make it two women and me. I would like to think my wife would let me go down on her while the other woman did me, or the other woman do my wife while I went down on her or entered her. Summary - as long as we separate the sexual love between my wife and I from the just sex for enjoyment with others, three and four somes should be okay.

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Sex becomes very emotional. There is really no way to detach the two. Cant even be compared to playing cards or bowling. Yes, emotions can be shown in these activities but they dont threaten another persons mental health/relationship. I think threesomes and moresomes are incredible but it takes a certian type of person that is able to separate sex from love as an absolute. Unless someone is looking to open their relationship and take the risk of their partner having some kind of feelings for another man/woman threesomes probably shouldnt be explored. Sometimes the fantasy is so much better than the reality. Sex is just a physical act yes but it is an intimate physical act that enhances love when a relationship is present. Its one of the ultimate expressions of love and acceptanc in a relationship.

I see all these people debating on the moral codes of a threesome. Were I don't actually think that was the question asked here. The person who asked this question didn't come here to be judged or critiqued. I have never had a threesome but have been asked to be in one. I'm the single one and I've all ready sat down and discused this with the couple. I was worried about everything that has been brought up in here. I actually don't know if I can do it personally. They are both very excited and ultimatley if a couple wants a threesome they are going to have one. In any case who are we to tell anyone anything. We should try to accept people for who they are and let them experience things the way they see fit. I'm not religious by any means but isn't it God's place to judge NOT ours?

I cant believe that people are actually saying how disgusting it is. In my opinion, people who want threesomes (including me) are not insecure, infact they are secure, secure enough to indulge in things they like to try with the person they love. The people who think this is morally wrong prob havnt tried it and if u havnt tried it you havnt got the right to comment on it. Obviously their parents didnt raise them with the moto "if you havnt got anything nice to say, dont say anything". My friend had a threesome with another member of our friend circle and it got out. If i was to do it with anyone i would do it with a stranger on holiday, everybody gets caught up in the moment on holiday and you know there is no chance of bumping into the person you did it with again.

We're looking for a threesome with another girl. Don't get me wrong WE HAVE INCREDIBLE SEX with each other and we love each other more than anything in this world, but this is HIS fantasy not mine. The best part is he doesn't want to have sex with her. He just wants to hold me, caress me and watch me while she plays with me! At first I didn't think twice about it, but now I kind of get hot just thinking about it! We have set up ground rules and are just looking for a way to find a safe partner (Haven't figured that one out yet) I don't think it's disgusting if BOTH partners KNOW what they are getting into. If one partner is doing it for the wrong reasons, like to fill a void or to "Legally" cheat you shouldn't try it! But we all do or have done things that others would not approve of, but we COMPLEATLY enjoyed it! If you don't approve... WHO CARES! NO ONE ASKED YOU TO JOIN!!!!! Don't be a hypocrite (wife_and_mom4life!) and Don't say how wrong you think it is because that's not what this post is about!!!!! Good Luck on finding a partner! If you figure it out please let us know!!!

I am a single male and have been with a straight couple.
It worked out very well, they are still together and very stable in their marriage.
It is friends with benefits type of situation.
It is a lot of fun and no problems.

Wow, I think that the vast amount of replies speaks for itself. Out of my husband and I, I am the one more interested in threesomes. We have talked about it but have never taken the next step to actually do it. This is because we have good communication skills and we both realise: that as much as the idea sounds absolutely freaking fantastic IN OUR HEADS... the reality is that one (or maybe both) of us would probably have a few issues when it comes to the crunch. And that's OKAY! We do have a great sexual relationship and we love each other as any man and wife do (or should, whatever), and we experiment things with each other. All this means is that we respect each other's needs and in/securities, and that the bottom line for us is that we need to look after each other before venturing out. But hey, if there's people out there who want to experiment it with others, then great! Just make a video so we can watch

my boyfriend and i are in the same position, we want a woman for a 3some just for something different but we dont know where to go. anyone know? or anyone interested? lol

here is what i dont get, you are here reading about threesomes, you arent made to. i mean who are we to judge. i think it sounds hot. and im curious about it, but we have the christian....reading about threesomes, and everyone reading has an interest, so why lie. look im allergic to shellfish, but i dont go to a place that has shellfish and tell the customers how awful shellfish are i mean should the world stop eating shellfish because it didnt work for me.

we was wayching a x rate movie and our friend , girl our age, started to masturbating on the cauch from up the skirt so my wife started taking off her underwere i started gain , from that mon started a menage in threesom with her wonderfull cooworker, it is now 4 years, she appreciate my sex and appreciate give and receive tongue fom susanna and almost cupple of time per week we meet, before a nice romantic dinner, and after thay chhose most they like mutualmasturbation but every time joan want some penetration form, she say that my 9 and half inches are georgius
If you chhose good it will be wonderfull if you enjoy to be penetrated by two man try with the right person

everyone is entitled to their own opinion and invited to put their two cents in..for some people this sort of thing can work..i just dont see how 2 people can swear to be monogomous and then go and look for a 3rd person to "spice things up"...i guess I personally just don't get it, but if you're going to do it..by all means do it, all I'm going to say is make sure you and your partner have THOROUGHLY discussed this, because this is something that can destroy a relationship and bring up trust issues and insecurity..i know for my relationship its something that would destroy it...i'm a firm believer in being strictly monogomous and I dont share my partner and I dont want him sharing me...just my thoughts

SEX IS WONDERFUL AS YOU DO IT, I APPROVE AND LIKE EVERY THINK IN SEX , I JUST AVOID MALE TO MALE,MAY BECAUSE I AM A MALE , TO SEE MY WIFE ENJOING UNDER THE HAMMERING TONGUE OF OUR FRIEND OR VICEVERSA IS WONDERFULL PENETRATE MY WIFE WITH OUR FRIEND FACE UNDER HELPING US TO ENJOY IS WONDERFULL.
SO GET WHAT YOU LIKE MAN, WOMAN AND DO NOT LISTEN ANY ONE

I do it almost everynighttt , and it is super fun i would love to join if you dont mind ?

thankyou , i love you.

i agree worrywart!

Realdeal4u,
My wife and i are looking for an extra female to try a threesome also. I have talked with her in detail about it and she tells me she wants to try it. So do i. If you ever find a place wher this can happen please share the info.
Seriously curious couple

I love how you asked for people who have had a personal experience and you got people who thought it was disgusting. I hope my answer will help you or anyone else looking at this question.

I have had a threesome once and I found it amazing. The chemistry was amazing and just everything about it. It brought me and my husband closer together and we still talk about it. It didn't change how I feel about him. We had it with one of his friends who I adore and that made it all the better.

I must preface this with the fact that I am a bisexual woman who has had both boyfriends and girlfriends.

I would consider going within your friend circle rather than looking for someone else because I have found that I would rather have a sexual relationship with someone I know and trust than someone who I meet online or in a club. People will lie to your face but with friends they won't ruin your friendship over sex (hopefully).

Hope this helps anyone looking.