You are right people can be so judgemental. People come to the threesome category because they are curious and then instead of admitting they are curious, the criticize others. Everyone has fantasies whether they admit it or not. People that can get past the jealousy issues and can communicate with each other can have a fun time with a threesome and still maintain a great loving relationship.

May you choose the right choice.

How would you feel if you get older... And your husband's fantasizing over bringing a "hot" young girl into your bed?

Or, how would he feel if you wanted that?

How would you feel if sex between both of you couldn't compare to a cheap thrill of a 3some anymore?

You can't plan or predict how you'll feel with a 3some, you can't plan what it'll do to your future...

Even if I felt like I had a desire for a 3some, I would never risk my marriage for something like that.

You are missing the point. If my boyfriend wanted to bring a hot young girl in to the bed, then it would be just another hot young girl (besides me)
and that is what is so great. Dont get me wrong-im not a lesbian, but I can appreciate my beauty and any other females beauty. Women are beautiful!!! My boyfriend and I have an unusual trust with each other. We dont get jealous if one of us checks out other people or talk about other people or flirt with other people. It is human nature. So what I am saying is it depends. Just because you had a bad experience, doesnt mean everyone will. The circumstances have to be right for it. If its not right for you-then dont do it. If you are sure you want to do it, then do it. And everybody chilllllllll.

she makes a greaaat point

Everyone has a right to his/her own opinions, so don't accuse those of us who don't find threesomes "desirable" as being judgemental or insecure. It's just a personal belief.

I admit, I can be a little jealous. But I just can't comprehend how anyone in a committed relationship would be ok with their partner having sex with someone else. I just don't get it. I cannot imagine my fiance having sex with some other girl -- right in front of my eyes! It makes me so sad! Granted, the thought of a threesome has crossed my mind once or twice, but I have never seriously considered doing it. I don't think I could deal with the aftermath or the consequences.

There are reasons for monogomous relationships. "monogomous" meaning you are only with one person -- sexually, emotionally, mentally, physically. If you want to sleep with more than one person, fine. But do it when you're "single" or not in a monogomous relationship. There are times for experimenting with sex, and times to settle down. If you're engaged or married, I don't see why you would engage in any sexual activity with anyone else. But hey, to each his own I guess.

Ok for those people who have come here and said this is disgusting what are you doing here it looks like your curious too. Ok now to find a threesome. Well first it takes time, if you want a stranger there are many websites all over the internet but most require payments. Finding a friend is easier but they have to be open sexually but discreet in the town, trust is much needed. My fiancee and I had a threesome after 5 months together with her best friend. It was just a party thing and it happened. My fiancee had all ways been bi and she was always up for a threesome too. We are still great friends with this person and go out every week. We have both agreed not to do it again with her for security. Guidelines and boundaries have to be set by both you and your partner. Ours are women only as im not bi, she is and she only ever wants me as her man. Weve both agreed to stop once we get married. We can only have a threesome with the person once as it may start tensions eg why does s/he want them again. We both agreed to threesomes for experience as we are both 18 and we agreed that we need to explore what we would have missed if we werent together. The experience of threesomes has made us more sexual weve learnt alot from the other people and it has really spiced our lovelives up. It is usually harder to find a threesome or accept a threesome when your older especially looking for the first time as you will get the feeling that your husband/wife doesnt find you sexually attractive any more. People do say a threesome will ruin a marriage, it can do, it may not. If your husband/wife runs off with the other just because of that one time sexual experience then what kind of person was s/he to give up the love of his/her husband/wife for sex with someone which may not last. That is why a threesome with one person has to be once to make sure that both our as secure before and after. Because that is what will destroy the marriage the insecurity that your partner wants this person after the 3,4,5th time the threesome wont destroy the marriage if your secure. Right anyway yea if its a stranger the internet or personally my choice an open friend youll be surprised to how many have that secret fantasy that they want released but were always frightened to open up. Afterwards next day etc just make sure you catch up with them and spend few hours with them making sure theyre ok and reassure them they wont be splitting up the relationship and youre still friends etc. If it is stranger youre after make sure there are no stds involved and look up stds once again so you know the signs. Remember the internet can be cruel and those strangers have slept with many people. Keep with a person you trust, take them out one night talk to them more and slip in the topic of threesomes when youre slightly tipsy. If they reveal their fantasy and want to do things that night which is best as its on the spot and theres no time to think or plan as this will make the experience less erotic. If they do agree make sure you dont drink anymore just keep social as if you get drunk the experience maybe forgotten of ruined due to alcohol.

I laugh at the people who twist all the finer values and call them "insecurities". No, we aren't insecure - we just happen to have some values and believe a relationship should be something special - not some orgy. To the person who made this inane comment - maybe you're too insecure to believe one person can love you and thus you sleep with everyone and maybe you lack any morals or emotion if watching your man do it with another woman doesn't even bother you. It's meant to be something special.

Penelope, you are so incredibly shallow and clueless and so obviously lacking in any real life experience. To you, life is a hollywood movie and all the women, including you, are hot, and everything is just peachy. Have a really hard life, be flat-chested and covered in acne and dateless and then finally, years later marry a younger man who professes to love only you and soon after have him ask for a threesome. I'll bet you won't like it much. I bet you'll feel less than hot.

If my husband (who suggested this idea) and I do go through with this threesome, can you tell me what is pleasurable in watching your male partner have intercourse with the female brought in for this experience ? I need to know if it's pleasurable to watch becuz I want to change my way of thinking so I can cope with this if it happens. Despite my traditional views on this, at the same time i'm aroused by the pictures in my head of this coming encounter and wonder why this is so arousing ? I'm usually quite possessive. But I do know that I love my husband dearly and want him to be happy more than anything.

Congratulations for being the first person to call me shallow and clueless, just because you disagree with me, doesnt mean you have the right to judge me-i didnt judge anyone here, and neither should you. Obviously you are curious about this topic, so dont bash me for being the same. And I didnt say that people who wont have threesomes wont because they are insecure. I just simply said that neither I nor my boyfriend are insecure, therefore we are comfortable with the idea.

Goodness people, calm down! I do not agree with threesomes either, but jeeeeez it was just a question that was asked. Judgement shouldn't be distributed in real life, much less online where you have little to review. Anyhow I believe there is a reason for threesomes.. Unfulfillment of one's partner and acts with that partner. If you believe in threesomes you do not believe in a monogamous marriage. There is a deep rooted reason for wanting another person having sex in your presence. It may not be said, but it's true. Every time i've seen threesomes occur i've seen problems erupt.. Or be hidden at some point. There are many other things to do than bring another person into your relationship.

Personally I don't think i'm comfortable enough with myself to do a threesome....But whatever floats your boat. More power to ya!

I do agree that we all have fantasies of our own. And sometimes we think we really want to play them out. But *i* often wonder if it will play out as I picture it in my head. The fantasy might be better just being a fantasy. I'd probably be pretty let down on the outcome of making it real life. We always set ourselves up with expectations of how it will be or how it will go. Then we're so disappointed. Just like christmas!! Haha! We have this big fantasy about how the day will be... Then it never goes that way and we feel so bummed out. Good luck to anyone who tries to play it out and it's everything you dreamed it would be.

My husband and I thoroughly enjoyed the threesomes we indulged in...At the time..Our problems came afterwards when we thought too much about the situation. I became very insecure about the women, and that showed me that I wasn't ready for the experience. I don't think either one of us were as ready as we thought. But, I have to say that even though it hurt us both, it was so damn hot and sexy that sometimes I find myself missing that part of our lives.

You only live once and although people have many differing opinions, there are many people with just the oppisite opinion.

I say do what makes you feel good and as long as you are open and honest about something then you can't blame ourself if someone else gets their feelings hurt. It's when people try and cover up something such as this then they end up doing it and hurting everyone involved.

That's my 2 cents :)

Okay nothing wrong with threesome

this what I dont agree with, marriage is between two ppl (man&woman, woman&woman, mam& man etc(gay marriage is legal here) anyways you go before god and swear fidelity what do you think your doing when you bring someone else into that picture its adultery even if its consented. Its one thing to have a threesome when ur single/dating or even committed but marriage come on!!


Divorce is so common nowadays its disgusting all because people bring stuff in the marriage that should never have been there(i dont care if ur wife/husband aint get counseling) not one of my friends parent are married anymore and its godamn sad to see a kids heart broken by his parents selfish acts!!! Maybe im abit old fashioned but I think divorce is bs and for a 22 year I think I have more moral then some ppl do yeah im immature sometimes but I treat my marriage with dignity, I promised my husband that I would be with him until death and I will stand by him no matter how much he me off.

I understand some ppl have fetishes, I do too but if ur going to have a threesome do it before marriage please respect your vows its sad to see ppl commit adultery whatever happens if #3 gets preggo how do u explain to ur kids a threesome eh?? What if you end up with stds?? This is ridcoulous

i admire you for beating the crap out of that girl. Reading this just made me really mad. Im glad that you're not with that ''ex-fiance'' of yours. As for me, threesome/foursome/whateversome is a hell no.

I would suggest you check out POLYAMORY websites via Google. The World Polyamory Association is a very reputable organization that could help you find the best person for a threesome. Janet and Sasha Lessin are well-known leaders in the Polyamory movement in the USA, and they are very beautiful, wise people who care deeply for humanity. Their Forums can be found on Yahoo Groups.
For more information on how to go about creating a Threesome that suites your needs and desires, check out two excellent books (that can be bought from Amazon.com):
1. "Threesome" by Lori E. Gammon
2. "Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits" by Dr. Deborah M. Anapol.

i would consider a treesome.....but i dont know if i wud actually go through with it