Well, ususally I am on here giving advice
to others now I need advice myself. What
brought me here in the first place was my
husband left our marriage of 14 years for
another woman and she became pregnant.
That was about 7 1/2 months ago. Anyway,
she had the baby premature yesterday. I
have been very upset. Seems like this was
my biggest fear.....Him having a child
with another woman. We have 2 children
together ages 13 and 10. I have been
crying my eyes out for 2 days. I have
tried to be strong thru the separation,
him moving her into a home that we picked
out together(i moved to another house of
ours because I thought he just needed some
time). I never knew it was another woman
he needed time with. I have basically
been thru hell the past 7 months. Trying
hard to do what all the books say to do to
get over someone. I know I could never
have him back even if he wanted to. I
just need more advice on things to do to
get past the hurt. How long does this
take usually? I am ready to move on....I
know its over.....But the hurt is still
here. Seems I am okay until I speak with
him or when someone talks about him. Any
advice would be appreciated. Thanks
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ironmantaylors
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Nov 2005 Posts: 38 Location: montana
Hang In There Posted: 12-16-05 13:22pm
Lovinmom,
i have followed your posts and respect
what you say, and you have been there for
so many people with good advice.
Now listen to what I say, you are too good
for him, he does not deserve you. Now
say it to yourself, say it outloud, scream
it. It is true.
This will be the best thing that ever
happened to you. Today..............As
you read this...............Is the first
day of the rest of your life.
You are free, he will regret his every
action someday, but it will not matter to
you. Hold no anger, no bitterness, no
hate. Love yourself and your life.
Count your blessings and you will see.
Trust me.
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lovinmom4
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jun 2005 Posts: 37
Thanks Posted: 12-16-05 18:07pm
Thank you ironmantaylors. I know that I
am too good for him. I do not nor have I
ever behaved in the manner he has. My
family is my life. He was part of
that....I sacrificed so many things in
order to be a better wife. I dropped out
of college to help him start a
business,but I am returning to get my
degree in the fall. I am slowly climbing
back up. I feel as if I am taking small
baby steps towards my recovery. The
holidays are really hard. I made it
through thanksgiving. Xmas has to be the
worst. I think I am gonna be okay. With
the advice of good people like you, I know
I will be fine, and my children as well.
Thank you again for your help! Happy
holidays!
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czarg
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jan 2006 Posts: 68 Location: Lagos-Nigeria
Worry No More. Posted: 01-13-06 22:09pm
When u understand that nemesis will catch
up with him cuz of yr sacrifices for him
then you won't worry any more.
Life is sweet ahead of you, for you. Stay
well and help your kids. That is better
life.
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MizzPurty28
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Feb 2006 Posts: 25
Posted: 03-07-06 15:16pm
I would like to recommend a book I found
about a year ago to get over a heartbreak.
It's called lifted hearts. I purchased
it as a "read only" internet book and then
printed it out on the printer. It was key
in helping me get through and accept that
things were over. Hope this helps you
like it did me. Best $20 bucks I ever
spent! :)
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Thanks: 1
Thanked:0
Posted: 03-07-06 17:49pm
You will be ok, it takes time besides you
have his kids and you had him 1st. When
you are ready, you will meat someone who
will treat you better. And what goes
around comes around or visa versa. You
are a good person to do what you did.
Feel free to come here and vent anytime!
The best to you and your kids!
