Ending a Relationship Forum - Stbx Gf Has Baby

Well, ususally I am on here giving advice to others now I need advice myself. What brought me here in the first place was my husband left our marriage of 14 years for another woman and she became pregnant. That was about 7 1/2 months ago. Anyway, she had the baby premature yesterday. I have been very upset. Seems like this was my biggest fear.....Him having a child with another woman. We have 2 children together ages 13 and 10. I have been crying my eyes out for 2 days. I have tried to be strong thru the separation, him moving her into a home that we picked out together(i moved to another house of ours because I thought he just needed some time). I never knew it was another woman he needed time with. I have basically been thru hell the past 7 months. Trying hard to do what all the books say to do to get over someone. I know I could never have him back even if he wanted to. I just need more advice on things to do to get past the hurt. How long does this take usually? I am ready to move on....I know its over.....But the hurt is still here. Seems I am okay until I speak with him or when someone talks about him. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks

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ironmantaylors

replied on December 16th, 2005

New User

Hang In There

Lovinmom,

i have followed your posts and respect what you say, and you have been there for so many people with good advice.

Now listen to what I say, you are too good for him, he does not deserve you. Now say it to yourself, say it outloud, scream it. It is true.

This will be the best thing that ever happened to you. Today..............As you read this...............Is the first day of the rest of your life.

You are free, he will regret his every action someday, but it will not matter to you. Hold no anger, no bitterness, no hate. Love yourself and your life. Count your blessings and you will see.

Trust me.

lovinmom4

replied on December 16th, 2005

New User

Thanks

Thank you ironmantaylors. I know that I am too good for him. I do not nor have I ever behaved in the manner he has. My family is my life. He was part of that....I sacrificed so many things in order to be a better wife. I dropped out of college to help him start a business,but I am returning to get my degree in the fall. I am slowly climbing back up. I feel as if I am taking small baby steps towards my recovery. The holidays are really hard. I made it through thanksgiving. Xmas has to be the worst. I think I am gonna be okay. With the advice of good people like you, I know I will be fine, and my children as well. Thank you again for your help! Happy holidays!

czarg

replied on January 13th, 2006

Experienced User

Worry No More.

When u understand that nemesis will catch up with him cuz of yr sacrifices for him then you won't worry any more.

Life is sweet ahead of you, for you. Stay well and help your kids. That is better life.

MizzPurty28

replied on March 7th, 2006

New User

I would like to recommend a book I found about a year ago to get over a heartbreak. It's called lifted hearts. I purchased it as a "read only" internet book and then printed it out on the printer. It was key in helping me get through and accept that things were over. Hope this helps you like it did me. Best $20 bucks I ever spent! :)

sandyallen

replied on March 7th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

You will be ok, it takes time besides you have his kids and you had him 1st. When you are ready, you will meat someone who will treat you better. And what goes around comes around or visa versa. You are a good person to do what you did. Feel free to come here and vent anytime!
The best to you and your kids!

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