I highly doubt a guys voice will change. But my boyfriend is constantly joking about having anal sex...I just want to know how to do it, so I won't be in pain...Any help?

My husband and I have tried on several different ocassions and this is what we've learned by trial and error. Take things slowly and with lots of lubricant. Especially if this is your first time. My husband fingered me for starters. Then when I felt comfortable enough we applied lubricant and eased inward. He has got to be very patient though. You'll only be able to handle a very small portion. But he ahs to let you be judge of depth. When you can handle more let him know. Try to relax even if you have to think about something else at first then the uncomfortable feeling fades and you can enjoy. It is only painful if you have an impatient partner.

I actually enjoy anal every once in a while. If done correctly it can be quite pleasurable.

I would suggest a month or two of "stetching" before you go through with the actual act, though. Use toys, your's or his fingers. Whatever. But take it slow! Lube is very important here. A condom does indeed help with the mess, and helps to reduce chances of infection.

After some experimenting and stretching, when you finally work up to and are ready to have him enter you, make sure he is very well lubed, and that he takes it slow, slow, slow! Water-based lube is always best! Oil based lubes not only break down condoms, but make the internal environment more "homey" for infections.

Enter a little, rest. Enter a little, rest. I have found that it works best if the man is stationary, and you are the one to slowly press back/down against him. The man isn't able to tell when it is hurting you. With you in control of the insertion/thrusting this helps to eleviate some of the pain. There is a little pain initially. Especially the first few times. But once you get started and relax, it becomes pleasurable. That is another key factor. Relax! If you aren't relaxed enough it can hurt more.

Sometimes it helps to push down like you are having a bowel movement, too. The pain in anal sex comes from when the object inserted is trying to get past the sphincter muscles. When you push down, like in a bowel movement, it helps to open those muscles up, allowing the object to slip past them more easily.

Anyway, after he is fully inserted in you then rest again so that you have time to adjust to the full length him being inside you. Once you feel comfortable with him inside you, then he can slowly start moving in and out, a little at a time. It would even work best for you to do the moving while he is stationary. This way you can do what feels good to you and not have it hurt. I have found it best in a spoon position if he is "lengthy" enough. If not, doggy position works well. But, everyone is different. Just do what feels best for you. With you controling the thrusting it helps the pain factor.

Never try anal sex, and then let the man enter your vagina with whatever has been in the anal canal. There are bacteria in the anal canal that can cause vaginal infections.

Hope this helps, and enjoy! ;)

Hi there...My boyfriend and I found this creme at an adult toy store called "tushy tamer" it numbs the pain but you can still feel the action. Great stuff! You just have to use a lot of it. Hope this helped!

Jenny

It hurts for me, it's just uncomfortable, but after my fiancee first pushes in and 2 strokes in i'm fine, usually it's best if i'm on top controlling it, doggy style half hurts, and when he's on top it hurts.

I suggest anal plugs that vibrate, they're fun and he can use your vagina while you're vibrating elsewhere, it's really awesome.

Thanks every one but has anyone had any after affects?Does anyone think I would need extra lubrication if we use a condom?


From kate

Sometimes afterwards you may be a little uncomfortable/sore as your muscles retract back to their original form. Also, sometimes, the first bowel movement you have afterwards could be a bit painful. On the other hand, you may not have any discomfort at all. Everyone is different.

Lube is very important, even if you use a condom. It just makes it much easier if you both are well lubed.

Not a good idea.....................

It hurts, too much effort, and not worth messin up ur anal muscles up. Those muscles are made for 1 way movement, and thats down. Come on, god gave the vagina to medical answer, and a anal to caca. I mean the anal is where your caca comes out, thats disgusting! I mean, thats where ur caca comes out!

It hurts.. It does...But at sum point u get over it and it starts to feel good.. At least for me when my bf plays with my clit at the same time it feels amazing.. We dont do it very often at all.. It takes alot of patients to get it in there lol.. And when we say lots of lube we mean lots, it can really turn out to be a messy thing! Lol

ha ha ha---i agree---yuk yuk yuk, but to each his own. I just dont care for it. Maybe 2 times my whole life--and I am old

Lets see how many people support meh theory yeah?

I see this is old but [ id ask my dr about anal sex and he said not to because you teach your body to relax then afterwhile your muscle gets used to being relaxed that you have trouble w/ your bm

I m a male. I just wondering why they want to change nature. That hole was and is never for sex . Sorry to say it's shameful to do . Kiemester, you're absolutely right.

Ha ha! Sorry I had to laugh after reading all of that. Each has his own opinion on anal sex but that doesn't make what he says right. Anyways, my views on anal sex: ouch ouch ouch, but after he is in for a few seconds it can be amazing! My husband and I have only had anal sex maybe a total of 4 times, and that is only because he wanted to. My husband has this thing about holes, if it's there... He thinks he has to put something in it! Lol! My favorite sex postion is doggy style so, my husband is always putting his fingers in places i'd rather them not be. Anyways, on the occasion that my hubby and I do decide to have anal sex, once he is in and it doesn't hurt anymore, I (or him) start to play with my clit and I orgasm many times, I think the most was 5! I don't know what it is but I cum so much quicker! Well, I thought i'd put in my 2 cents!

Teresa

There are are 5 holes in one's head why not fill them all?! I could have done the same in many occasions ,and I know I d get much pleasure of it , if I were not thoughtful. The vagina! It the one! Clean heathy and made for it, only for it . Why look for rubbish if everything's normal

Like I said, everyone has there own opionion but that does not make it right! :)

Hey abde27 thats a bit uncalled for everyone has there own opinion...Im havin anal sex for the first time soon mite not even like it but im willin 2 try it!

Opinions are tobe discussed, I suppose. This is what I think and feel. I m fond on touching a woman s buttocks. But not insert in . It would dishoner her to do that. She should be proud of her vagina and avoid bein taken by the anus.
She s got someting a man doesent have .Otherwise, what's a woman for? Everyone's got a hole behind and we know what it's for. Think of love sex affection to put things right.