Undecidedinco---
oh my god, I soooooooo kno what you mean! Are you sure we're not married to the same man? Hahhaa
whynotus----yeah, she deffinitely needed space!!! Not just for herself, but for you too. She probably figured you guys needed to decide if you really wanted to be together. Maybe she thought you were ignoring her because she couldn't hold your interest. Because she wasn't the right woman for you and you weren't right for her.
Also, on the note of ignoring her, the problem is that pain....Well......Hurts. See, your wife was in alot of pain when she was being ignored. I would say about the same amount of pain you felt when you realized you had lost her. No one wants to subject themselves to a lifetime of that kind of pain. You know all that pain you felt when she was gone? Well, your wife felt that by staying with you, she was sentencing herself to a lifetime of the same anguish.
Every time you ignored her, every time you chose a computer or other activity, or a buddy over her when you knew she was in pain, you were telling her "what i'm doing is far more important than you will ever be. That's why I do it all the time and you are always up on a shelf."---weather you meant to send off that message or not.
Women have a deep, burning desire to be #1 in our lover's life. The one he cannot stay away from. His reason for breathing. To us, that is a sign that we are cherished and wanted. When we see the opposite happening, we feel the oposite, and that just rips our heart out of our throat!
A good woman's heart and feelings are as delicate as a rose petal, but as devoted to you as an angel is to god. Trust me, it pays to "handle with care".
You will either have to move on, or do some serious work to get her back. And you will have to change for good. Stop taking her for granted. You have to understand that not everyone is happy floating around in limbo. Most of us either have to go left or right.
She wants a man who focusses on her. If you won't do it, another man will.
