I had a child about 5 years ago.. I went a long time without having sex.. sometimes once a year or so from being so busy. I'm just now getting back into the sexual times. I found it easier on me to have someone be gentle, and go long enough the first time to be saitisfied. You don't have to pressure yourself into climaxing totally. If you are sore, don't have sex again for a few days till you feel your ready again. Than do it again when your ready, but go a little bit longer, and gradually work your way up. Eventually it won't be sore anymore. Example, my boyfriend came over on a Saturday, we just messed around with our hands. Monday he came back, we didn't go very long and than I was a tiny bit sore. That next weekend I was ready again, and we went further that time and wasn't sore at all. And than today he comes back over and we do it again even longer than before, and I still again wasn't sure but yet was wanting more. I find it easier to just gradually work your way up, instead of doing it one, two, three times a day. You can over work your body and that alone can make you sore. For all you women out there, take it easy on your body and let it tell you what you need. If you feel your body is sore, dry, and sensitive let it be for a bit. Than come back! If you find yourself one night so totally wet and really really horny to where you can't stand it.. than your ready again. That's what I've done and the more I have sex, the moe I'm not sore one bit. There are times we have sex twice a week, and gradually can move upward.
Good Luck all.
