Boyfriend=emotionless

I know exactly what your going through. Been there, done that, got a t-shirt. Luckily, the way your boyfriend acts doesn't mean he has any kind of a problem. I am 23 years old and first started dating my husband when I was sixteen. He had the same problem your boyfriend does. Still has it to be quite honest. At first it bothered me the same way it bothers you. Before I go any further allow me to say this, when guys first start dating a girl they really like, they'll go out of thier way to be romantic ( often referred to as the honeymooners stage.) but after a few weeks to a month, thier casual self falls back into place because they have what they want. You. They don't feel the need to continue as they had before because the prize has already been won. Here's something else to take into consideration. His family. Do you know anything about them? My husband was a middle child. His little brother was the momma's boy and his big sister was the daddy's girl. His father also traveled alot on buisness and for my husband's family it just wasn't thier nature to be close when he was young therefore repeating itself in a lack of emotion now. It's all in the way he was raised. And clingy? I don't think your clingy. Your simply in love. I hope my situation will help to give you a better understanding of yours. Just try talking to your boyfriend about his family (without being too nosy because trust me when I say it can backfire) and see if you can make a connection.
Christy smith

Being too emotional is a greater disease than unemotional. He isn't a mean person, therefore he is becoming a master. Many of my tai chi master friends spend a great amount of time dealing with not reacting to other people's emotional dramas.

He is further along in the game than you are my dear! Girls have this longer road to travel than boys do in mastering our emotions and becoming actionaries rather than reactionaries.

I don`t agree with that at all. Women are more emotional and no wonder with all the hormones going around our bodies each month. Being emotional is nothing to be ashamed about, just because someone puts on a brave face for every situation doesn`t mean they aren`t hurting inside.

My experience with this type of problem is my father. He was brought up that boys don`t cry or show their emotions. They have to be the big butch man whose the bread winner and should be tough in every situation.

Times have changed and maybe it is your boyfriends upbringing that has caused this or maybe this is just the way he is. I`m not saying that is acceptable because it`s not, everyone needs to know that they are loved. My dad`s way of showing this is that he didn`t love us he wouldn`t still be in the same house as us. It`s a bit caveman like I know but thats how his family were brought up.

Have you tried asking him about things and how he feels? He might get embarassed or something silly like that. Love grows with time and maybe once he feels really secure he`ll start to relax and show how he feels a bit more!

I have been married for 14 years. My husband is not an emotional man. My advice is if this is just your boyfriend, go and keep your eyes and ears open to someone else. There are men out there who are calm and loving and talkative. I have to deal with a lot myself and it stinks! He, who appears so put together, relies on me as does everyone else. It is nice to have an equal partner on all terms. I have seen other couples, believe me if this bothers you now it will drive you crazy later!! Please do not settle. You do and will find someone better suited for you!!!

thats the reason im on the computer, tryin to research to see if anyody else has the same problems with their boyfriend. I love my boyfriend so much but he isn't affectionate! We have a long distance relationship, i live up north an he lives down south so we only see each other like every three weeks, sometimes a bit more often but everytime were with each other we have a really nice time but he doesn't kiss me much or cuddle me. I don't want to act clingy and pathetic o i just dont mention it but it upsets me. Iv spoke to him before and told him that it sometimes feels like he doesn't want to be wih me but he always says how much he does and how happy he is. I know he cares for me but i just dont understand why he wont show it! It really upsets me, if anyone has any advice please let me know Xxx

My nephew is just like that. When my grandmother died he started laughing at the funeral home right at the cascet. At first we thought he was crying. Not so! He also shows no emotions whatsoever. It's like he has no soul.

Well im a guy and,the girl i like called me stiff and uninviting,when i asked why she thought that,she told me it was because she had trouble trying to tell what i was thinking,or how i was feeling.
I guess some of us guys are just kinda unemotional.
But,im always trying to impress her,i even hold doors for her.
We have good times together too,but i have trouble expressing alot of my emotions.