How is your relationship with the guy? Is this someone that you would want to be attatched to for the rest of your life (whether or not you marry)? If you're thinking about abortion, then it's up to you and your partner, if you're not ready for parenthood and don't like the idea of abortion, do a search for an adoption agency now.

Yes im with the father (kyle). I called him as soon as I took the test and told him and he seems just as shocked as I am. I dont know if I want this baby, I mean I love kids and I have been babysitting since I was like 11 and even before that I would help my mom with younger kids. Im more concern about the money part of all this. I dont even have health insurance and neither does kyle. I dont even know where to go from here, I cant go to my family doctor because like I said I have no health insurance so I guess I go to a clinic??????? Im sooo lost about all this. I know I could never get an abortion, I dont have it in me to do that. And I think adoption is a wonderful thing but I dont think I could ever give my baby away. So I would say yes I want to keep this baby I just dont know how I can. Im sorry if im rambeling on im just a lil stressed. Thankx ~jess

Finding out your pregnant is very scary when your not expecting it. First off, you need to get to a doctor so they can make sure everything is okay and get you on some prenatal vitamins. Do you live in america?? You need to find out where to apply for medicaid and do that. Medicaid will pay for all your medical bills and so forth and w=once the baby is born you can add him or her onto it. That's the first thing....Have you told your parents?

No I havent told my rents yet. Yes I live in america (pennsylvania). I know I need to go to the doctor but how. Like I said before can I go to a clinic??? Im sorry im probley asking the same questions, it's just I dont know how to do any of this.

Find a planned parenthood around you. Then, go apply for medicaid. I live in ohio....What part of pa are you from?

I live in allentown pa (it's right by dorney park, I dunno if u have heard of it). I know there is a planned parenthood near me so I guess I will go there I am just kinda scared. I mean I dont even have a job, I was a lifeguard in the summer but it dosent look like I am gonna be doing that agian anytime soon, so I guess I need to look for a new job. Thank you for helping me

When I first found out I was pregnant, I was just like you, didnt know what I was going to do, I was thinking abortion and all that, but givie it time to sink in, eventually you will get excited about it and look forward to having a baby. I had my daughter september 17th, and I couldnt imagine being with out her.

If you say you can't afford a baby, then I highly suggest adoption, because even though you love your baby deeply, you have no job, and no insurance, and i'm not sure what your career objectives are. How wilu provide for your baby? Again, I don't know you financial status, or how much your parents are willing to help, but understand that a baby takes a lot of dedication and babies are very expensive over the years (not to mention the fact that they grow up). Just be honest with yourself and understand the facts.

Iv'e been looking around for jobs and tomorrow im gonna go apply for them. I dont think I could give my baby up, I know it sounds crazy but I already feel kinda attached to it. Im mainly just scared, I have never gone through anything like this and although I have the father by my side im still just worried. Im gonna make an appt. At planed parenthood tomorrow. Im kinda nervous about that to, what do they do at ur 1st drs. Appt? Uh I guess im just nervous about everything. U guys are really makin me feel better thank you for helping me out.I have a feeling im gonna be on this website alot. ~jess

I had my fisrt baby when I was 17 then my second when I was 18. I would do to a public assistance office asap and get on medcaid or most starts have a seprate program for pregnant women and for children. I had both my kids in alaska and it was denali kid care there, here in florida they have a florida kid care program. Either way the public assistance office will be able to point you in the right direction. Personaly I wouldn't go to planned parenthood they will try and push you to an abortion (from my experance anyways). Wether you choose to adopt, keep or have an abortion do alot of research on it. Don't feel like you have to give up your baby there are people are programs that help. I'm sure that it would have been easier to give my kids up, but I wouldn't do that for the world. We don't have tons of money and we live pay check to pay check but I wouldn't trade it for the world! As of right now we aren't on any type of public assistance, but it did help when I was younger. Now I just turned 22 in oct and my kids are 3 and 4.

My sister in law just had her first (shes 23) her boyfriend works for mcdonalds like 20 hours a week and they live with my inlaws. She and the baby are on medicaid and she went to the same doctor I did and the government paid for it all. She chose not to nurse ( u could call me one of those moms who doesnt care just whips it out in public with a blanket, hey babies got eat and its free) so she also has wic (women infants and children) that pays for food, formula, and I think she can get diapers 2 (if so she hasnt cuz thats what everyone gave her for babyshower) so I think u can do it you may not be able to afford lots of stuff u want but if u want to keep your baby there are plenty of ways to do it and well. Good luck!

(id say I believe in you but that makes me sound like an episode of full house or something else sappy. Thank u pregnancy hormones! :evil: )