Ok well I seriously am mad at myself right now. In the past month 2 guys have been assholes to me and I hate it. The first guy I was goin out with and he like really pressured me into having sex. I didn't want to but he wasw just like yeah. Then a day later we did it agian he didn't really pressure me though that time. The other guy well we had been drinking and stuff. I told him I didn't want to have sex cause I didn't like one night stands and he was just like I promise this isn't a one night stand and blah blah blah.... He told me I was gonna have sex with him no matter what. That pissed me off like alot. I remeber a couple times he tried really hard to grab my pants off but I caught them. I got really scared then and I just gave in b/c I didn't want anything bad to happen. I am so mad at myself though. Both guys were mean and just so huh.Then first guy I haven't talked to him since like the 2nd of november and we were still goin out but yeah I regret everything so much. Them were the first 3 times I had sex in eight months. I have only had sex 8 times. I hate myself for what I did and I can't seem to get over it. Also the one guy I did it with when we had been drinking rides my bus so people on our bus know and whenever I ride the bus it is a constant reminder and I can't stand it.
Just take what you have learned and apply it to the next relationship or guy you meet. If you want to have a fling with no strings attatched do so, but do it because you want to do it, not because he's forcing you. Your body is your's and no one other than you has the right to tell you what you're gonna do and not gonna do with it. But if you're really feeling a guy, try and make him wait for you a while. I'm not saying do a three month rule thing or something, but make it a challenge. Guys are like kids..They cherish and long for something until they get it and then when they get it they play with it for a while, then it's old news. Don't become old news fast. Hope i'm dropping some useful knowledge on ya lil mama!!!
Hey well thank you for the advice ao much. Well I did make a guy wait before and I really did love him alot. After I did have sex with him I haven't seen him since a week after we did it. I mean he was the type of guy that was a player. I have been hurt by guys so many times. I get way to attatched to guys b/c I never had a guy role model in my life till I was like 5. I think that I get attatched to easily b/c I can't really explain it clearly though but I have learned from my mistakes this time and I will definately make the next guy wait a while.
Be more careful about the positions you put yourself in.
If he is trying to force you or pressure you into sex, he's not a good man and doesn't want anything but sex.
Its hard but find someone thats willing to wait until your comfortable with him.
Don't pick up guys at bars or anything either. They are just looking for trouble.
No..... I don't pick guys up at a bar I am not even old enough to go to a bar but the guys I have had sex with well its a weird thing. I have known all of them some how in some way before anything ever happened. The first guy well I remeber seeing him at a store and we like flirted a lil bit then like a year later it happened. The secound guy well I had been goin out with him on and off for a year. The third guy well he was workin at wal-mart and was my cashier this one time and I didn't realize it til a couple months later adn he was the only guy that wasn't an !**@! to me. The 4th guy he went out with one of my friends and I knew him for like a year. The fifth guy well I have known him a few years and I still hang out with him just not like sexually. So all the guys I had sex with I knew them for a while or whatever. So I am not a tramp or whatever that just picks guys up. Guys make me feel like if I don't have sex then I will have no relationship. They have the try it before you buy it moto.
I am 16....... I know I was young and dumb when I lost my virginity and yeah I though I was in love and then had my heart broken and was lonely and vonerable so.... Like I am more mature than girls my age though but just fall into relationships to fast cause I never had a guy figure in my life. I know there is no excuse for being the way I am it's just hard to explain. I have bulimia so I always feel really unattractive and when guys hit onm me I feel pretty in a way but I am not a huge slut that has sex with any guy though.