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Q: I Need Some Advice.

asked by: DaliciaLynn on December 2nd, 2005

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Okay so i'm 7 months pregnant and my baby shower is coming up. I'm inviting people I want but my mom says I have to invite my sister or she won't throw my baby shower. Thing is, my sister and I dont get along at all. She's a dope face & is such a little b*tch (shes 19) the reason why we dont get along is because when we lived with our mom she stole my things, like just went in my room and stole my clothes, make up,even my cell phone & my money. She has a 2 year old daughter that cries for my mom everytime she drops her back off at my sisters house. She locks herself in a room all day with her boyfriend tweakin on meth and oxycontin's. I know it sounds awful, but I hate her, I don't even consider her my sister.

Wouldn't you be mad too? Your not supposed to steal from family! She has issues, not to mention warrants out for her arrest from breaking in peoples houses & stealing their drugs. Why would I want my son around any of that? I don't want him even meeting a person like that.

I've tried to get along with her for my mom's sake, but it's just not cutting it & I won't have it.

So i'm thinking of not even having a babyshower because of the situation, I told my mom I don't want her around my baby when it's born or even afterwards & I don't want her at the babyshower because we simply dont get along.

Do you think im being a selfish cow or would you do the same thing?

Replies(15)

justacanadiangirl

replied on December 2nd, 2005

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I would definitely do that same thing. That's not a good person to have around a child.

DaliciaLynn

replied on December 2nd, 2005

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That's what i'm saying and my mom thinks it's completly messed up for me to do that way just because she's my sister.

I don't give a crap if she was my mom i'd still think the same way. I dont want a person like that around my baby, it's bad enough he'll be in this world full of hate let alone him learning things like my niece has.

Point is - my sister will end up stealing something from the wrong person & she'll end up being hurt really bad or even killed. I dont see how she could even do that to her daughter. I would rather die than have my son around that stuff because I chose that life for him.

My sister has been on drugs for a really long time, her boyfriend does it aswell. She dropped out of school and cant even get a job because when you get a job here, they check your social security & other things to make sure you dont have any warrants.

I dont want a babyshower or anything from anyone period if it has to be that my sister is going to be in it. I'd rather go through pregnancy and the baby's birth by myself.

Not being b*tchy or anything like that, but seriously i'd rather have it that way than the way she wants it.

texasshanna13

replied on December 2nd, 2005

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Well

Simple solution if she has warrants say ok mom ill invite her then call the cops and have her arrested they will give her kid to your mom while shes in jail and in jail she can get rehab!

DaliciaLynn

replied on December 2nd, 2005

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Lol! They dont give rehab in our jails, she'll go through some crazy withdraws which she deserves anyways.

And I would do it, I totally would except for the fact that my mom will end up raising my niece, even though its going to be like that anyways, I dont need that kind of stress right now.

I lost almost all of my friends when I got pregnant, before I got pregnant I was a party girl, and now since I cant drink at the moment, and dance without my stomach getting in my way, no one would really be at my babyshower anyways but family, which not a lot of my family lives in the same state that I do. There's no point in me having a shower if my mom cant be there, if shes not there i'd only have 10 people show up.

I dont care about the shower, because its not really a big deal. But then i'll have to deal with this situation when i'm in labor, which I don't want to deal with.

My mom thinks i'll just be so happy that my baby is born that I wont care who holds him or sees him. My sister doesnt deserve to look at him or hold him. I dont want her crazyness rubbing off on him from the start.

michelle1981

replied on December 2nd, 2005

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My sister has some major problems too.....I don't associate with her and she is not welcomed in my home.

I would boycott the babyshower.

I understand your mom wanting to have you all together, but I definitely would make it a point to her that you don't want to be there if your sister is.

7 months.....How are you feeling otherwise?

DaliciaLynn

replied on December 2nd, 2005

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I'm doing okay, starting to get really excited about the baby's birth.

I'm really small though, doesnt even look like i'm pregnant, to me at least. But my doctor says i'm one of his few patients that aren't overweight or obese. He says im measuring up fine and all that good stuff.

Was having contractions last week and had to go to the hospital. Turns out I had the flu, plus a cold on top of that & he said it was making me contract. Hugeee scare!

I know if I talk to my mom about it she'll just b*tch at me and tell me how messed up it is, but it's my baby, which means its my decision. My mom doesn't see it like I do because that's her daughter you know? You always think your kids are innocent & special, even though my sister steals from my mom aswell.

I told my mom just a minute ago if my sister is going to see the baby we might as well let all her druggie friends that have their kids taken away hold him aswell, since it wont make much of a difference.

I can't help it that i'm younger than her but still have my common sense & morals. And I actually use them!

AriellaGrimm

replied on December 2nd, 2005

Experienced User

Man, you're making me jealous. I wish I could have a baby shower! Jenny (youth pastor's wife) and I are thinking about sharing a baby shower because I don't think anyone would come to a shower for me.

diamondsz

replied on December 2nd, 2005

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Honestly have to agree with michelle here

I cant believe some parents are like that, my dad would have kicked the crap out of me and dropped me off at police station, its not that he doesnt love me he just told me its tough love and I need to learn there is conseqeuences to everything you do...

If you need anything babywise I would be willing to help just send me a pm....... Babyshower is supposed to be a happy moment for you not for your family sorry about my language screw ur sister and just keep doing what your doing you have your head on ur shoulders anyways so I think you will be fine...........

Out of alot of teen moms I know dalicia ur the only (online) I know who actually got off and thought about their child first......My respect goes out to you and ur baby take care

jess

DaliciaLynn

replied on December 2nd, 2005

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Thank you very much.

It's nice to know I have people's support.

I was starting to think I was just being a hormonal cow with my decisions.

=(

michelle1981

replied on December 2nd, 2005

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I agree with you jess, I think you'll be a great mother dalicia:d

just worry about what's best for you and your baby. Everything else comes second.

I support you too.....I'm here.....You know that!

DaliciaLynn

replied on December 2nd, 2005

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Aw, were all having a moment.

Group hug.

<3

diamondsz

replied on December 3rd, 2005

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Lol>

just wait till you get heartburn though hun stock up on maalox/gaviscon it does wonders lol if you end up getting it........

Your not a hormonal cow lol!!........Your just thinking about the safety of you and your child, can you not get a friend to go into the delivery room with you its nice to have someone there (besides sister.) anyways just take it easy and dont be afraid to tell your sister off, she needs a rude awakening...........

michelle1981

replied on December 3rd, 2005

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Ya d, but i'm not pregnant :p

so what are you planning for the delivery? Who's going to be there for you to get your ice chips? You don't want to be alone!

DaliciaLynn

replied on December 3rd, 2005

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My mom said my sister doesn't have to come to the delivery, I told my mom I didn't want anyone to hold him but just a few people which would be her & my boyfriend.

She said she understands & for me to just say it's because of germs. I tried explaining to her why I don't like my sister but I still don't think she understands.

I told my mom when the baby is born I don't want a lot of company, to be honest I don't want anybody to come over afterwards & etc. Not sure what it is but i'm just not comfortable with it. It makes me really nervous!

My mom & boyfriend will be at the hospital with me only, except my boyfriend isn't going to be in the room when i'm actually pushing. We agreed that he'd be staring at my crotch asking "is it there yet" and he'd never think of a vagina the same again!

michelle1981

replied on December 3rd, 2005

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:lol:

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