Hi
i'm in a similar situation but here is my advice. Obiviously at some point you liked this girl maybe even loved her. I'm sure her cheating and other things may have hurt you and if your situation was just that I would say move on. Especially if she is carring around an I could care less attitude about it. However your situation does not end there, she is pregnant with your child (hopefully). In my opinion, the most important thing is what's best for the child. Try and make the relationship work, get counseling, try to support her because it is a rough time. When it comes to having children you have to re-organize your priorites.

Make your child your priority.

Just my opinion.

Even though the baby is the most important thing here I don't think you should be in a relantionship with someone you don't want to be with, especially if can't trust that someone. You can be involved and raise this baby without actually being with this woman. Try and make a friendship work for the baby's sake but if you don't want more then that with her than don't do it. A child shouldn't be brought up in a home where their parents are unhappy because it will effect your child. Also when your baby gets older and realizes that you two are only together because of him/her it may feel some guilt about that.

You want the best for your child, but being raised in a home where there probably be a lot of fighting (and thats just the impression I get because you said that you two broke up many times and because of her cheating) isn't something that you want to submit your child to. You do need to sit down with your ex and figure things out and how you two are going to handle this situation. And if you have any doubt that this child may be yours you need to tell her that and get that straight as soon as possible.

Hi, sorry about your situation you sound like a really nice bloke who wants to do the right thing which is not always the way now-a-days.

Firstly, you dont need to be in a relationship to be a good parent to your child. You just need to be in the childs life always not just when it's convient to you. Which means if you get into another relationship your child still knows that he/she is loved just as much.

Secondly, as soon as the baby is born get a dna test done make sure the the child is yours from the get go. If you dont get a test then if ever you and your ex get into an arguement she will tell you the child isnt yours just to hurt you. I've got friends who have done this!!!! Also you'll know where you stand if you dont know for sure you may not love the child as much as you should because the doubt will always be there.

Just because your ex says the baby is yours don't mean it is.

Also are you positive that she is actually pregnant and not just saying she is because she knows this is something you want?? She won't be the first person in the world to lie about a pregnancy to get her man back!!!

If I was you I would buy a home pregnancy test take it to her and make her take the test whilst your there so you can see for yourself.


Good luck I hope things work out for you.