Joined: 01 Dec 2005 Posts: 1 Location: Arcanum, Ohio
I Dont Know What to Think Posted: 12-01-05 21:52pm
See me and this girl started going out
about two months ago . Ive have never
connected with someone on so many levels
so fast. It was kinda weird. Well
after two weeks we broke up for one week
because she felt she still had some
feelings for her ex and he started talkin
to her again. Well after tow days she
found out he was lieing to her and was
talkin caca behind her back. Well we got
back together about one week after we
broke up. We have been goin fine and
steady for the past month and a-half.
Then she went to her moms. Her and her
mom have a bad past and her mom causes her
serious problems because she was beat as a
kid. She has had a terrible past. Now
she has told me everything except the
details and she wants to tell me the
details but she doesn't want me to judge
her form the past. I reassured her that
I wouldn't but she is still really afraid.
She is stressed out because she has to
go to councling for her to cope with the
problems with her mom. She hasn't gone
in awhile and she is getting even more
stressed out. And she wants to keep this
to herself but iv'e messed up our
relationship by wanting to be there and
help because it is hard as hell to see
some one you love go through this much
pain. Stress,, and anger and other
emotions,but she is afraid that I would
get in the way of her and her problems and
now I am afraid that since we are broken
up that she may try to go out with another
guy. But she reassures me that she will
not go with another guy because she really
does still have feelings for me. What
should I do? How long should I wait to
talk to her, and do you think she will
really go back out with me? And can you
give me any words of encouragement?
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frosk
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Dec 2005 Posts: 11
Posted: 12-13-05 00:02am
I went through a similar thing with a
girlfriend. She had a terrible past-no
beating, just wild, and I had to know
everything. Yours may be a different
situation, but all I know is I wish I
didnt ask. Unless you are superman you
will judge. At least I did. It took me
over a year to get over what I heard.
Eventually I married her :) I know you are
trying to help her, but maybe it is better
that she tell a professional about it and
let the good things be told to you. Life
is way to short to hear all the crap in
someones life, unless you two are both
prepared to do so.
