It may be that you have issues that you still need to work through from your abortion or you have a fear of getting pregnant again. If you have started taking an anti-depressant or any other type of medication, that could keep you from reaching orgasm. If you never had a problem before you should probably talk to your doctor to find out if it is a physical or emotional problem. Best of luck!

There are many reasons why you are not able to orgasm:

is there a lot of stress in your life? The guy in question...How long have you been together? Do you feel comfortable? Do you feel attracted to him? Is he your boyfriend? Just a friend? Fiance? Husband? Do you love him? Do you drink when you have sex?

The fact that you had an abortion may have done something to you emotionally as well as physically. Orgasming involves a lot of passion and emotions. Like the previous message, you are still traumatized by this. It will take a while to completely heal. Scared it will happen again. It does damage your body physically. Something is living and growing naturally and then is taken out, there is going to be effect from this. I have heard a lot of consequences from having abortions. Some bodies abort every baby that they try to carry thereafter. Some don't carry them normally if they are physically capable of it.

Might want to talk to your doctor about it. Good luck!

I am totally sympathetic to your problem because I am experiencing the same issue. I recently (a month ago) had an abortion as well. I've been with the same guy for over a year now, and up until the abortion I not only had consistent orgasms with him, but amazing as well! Since then I get really close and I feel to be concentrating on that alot. I try to make myself totally relaxed, (baths, showers, massage, foreplay) and still so close but not the real deal! I have even tried masterbating to decifer if im the problem or he is, and it is myself for sure. I think we need some serious advice in this department!

What kind of abortion did you have? If you had an abortion that involved dilation then that could be part of the problem. The same muscle is used in dilation in birth (or abortion for that matter) and in an orgasm. Of course it is doing the opposite in each one. When it was forced to dilate in the abortion it wasn't used to the stretching yet. It may not have gone back to normal.