I think you just know. there's nothing holding you there anymore. No pain. nothing....

u dont see him/her fabulous any more. u need time away frm him/her. u dont miss him/her. at night before u sleep u dont think of him.. or her

You start to feel distant from the other person. There is no fire anymore, no connection. Your heart doesn't skip a beat everytime you see them, and you no longer feel that desperate longing for intimacy with your partner. It's a depressing realization, and I wish the best for you and your relationship.

I'm feeling the same kind of "I don't know if I'm in love with them" kind of thing. I read this, I could relate, but it made me cry. Does that mean its a realization, or that maybe I still love them but I'm going through a rough/confusing time?

(Yeah I know, only I can judge this for myself, but any opinions would be nice).

Take care runner, I hope things are working out for you

When you no longer care if you see this person, what happens to them, or what they do, you no longer love them. When you don't love, there is no emotion, no anger, sadness, hurt, nothing. You no longer care at all.

Hmmmm...... that's something to think about. Thanyou.
I know there is emotion towards it; just lately more pain than pleasure :/

it's like seeing someone on the street you don't know...you could care less what happens to them. Sometimes we think we are no longer in love, and we really still are. It's just that pain gets in the way.

Well, it's like this....
I think about our relationship all the time (lately the bad) and what to do about it.
Sometimes I think I would feel relieved if it just ended (like breaking free on an unhappiness) and meeting someone new..
But at the same time, I can't sleep if we don't call each other on the phone at some point in the day, I can't stand it when I'm upset and I can't tell him my pain, and I hate it when he pulls away, making me feel alone.
Maybe I love him, but i'm not "in love" with him?
It's scary, because its like I feel like I am starting to let go..

Yeah, that's what it sounds like. You're not in love with him, but you do care for him. That sweet passion is gone but you still care and miss him if you don't speak with him. I think a lot of times people just don't want to be alone so they hold onto the one they have, even if the passion is gone, so they don't have to be alone until someone new comes along.

Usually it's not so black and white, otherwise you would not question it. I thought I was falling out of love with my bf but then I realized I was just putting all my freaking-out fears (I recently graduated college and moved to NYC and I have no job or "future" decided yet- very stressful) onto him and our relationship. When I finally separated him in my mind from all that mess, I realized it really had nothing to do with him and my feelings for him. So yeah I guess my only advice is make sure it's nothing like that. When some people go through a personal crisis we misplace our feelings into the people closest to us... Good luck

You have a very good point. I have some stuff in my life right now that is probably affecting how I feel. I hope everything is going ok on your end.